I don't know about you, ladies, but there have been a couple of times in my life when I was with the perfect guy... perfect on paper, at least, and no matter how long it lasted, it always seemed to end in the same place. Maybe it's because we had different goals, maybe we wanted to see other people. Or maybe, I just wasn't that into him. It's not fair to anyone to keep someone around when you don't want them. Here are the signs that you really don't.
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1. You Make Excuses Not to See Him
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You're sitting at home and you get a text, "Come see me :)" or something along those lines. Even though you've got nothing going on, even though you haven't changed into your pj's and there isn't a thing on TV, your first response is why you can't. Even if it's a little white lie. That is the first sign that this is not the guy for you. Because if you don't want to see him when you have time, chances are you aren't going to make time.
If you're constantly questioning your feelings and looking for signs that you like him, it might be a sign you don't actually have those feelings. Trust your gut!
Being unsure about your feelings is normal, but if this confusion persists, it could mean you're not into him as much as you thought.
Pressure can come from wanting to fit in or from friends and family. Remember, it's okay to take your time and process how you genuinely feel.
Not feeling a spark doesn’t mean something's wrong with you or him. Everyone experiences attraction differently, and it's okay to look for someone who truly excites you.
Of course! If both of you are comfortable and respectful about it, transitioning to friendship can be a great outcome.
2. You Don’t Want to Introduce Him to the Important People in Your Life
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Friends and family are important. If you don't want your guy to meet them, either you don't see him sticking around, or their opinions about him don't matter since you've already made your mind up about him. If this is the case you should probably let go now.
If you're constantly questioning your feelings and looking for signs that you like him, it might be a sign you don't actually have those feelings. Trust your gut!
Being unsure about your feelings is normal, but if this confusion persists, it could mean you're not into him as much as you thought.
Pressure can come from wanting to fit in or from friends and family. Remember, it's okay to take your time and process how you genuinely feel.
Not feeling a spark doesn’t mean something's wrong with you or him. Everyone experiences attraction differently, and it's okay to look for someone who truly excites you.
Of course! If both of you are comfortable and respectful about it, transitioning to friendship can be a great outcome.
3. You Don’t Miss Him
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It's been a week and he's been swamped with work and so have you. Neither of you has had time for a shower, let alone a quick coffee date. And although he's telling you how much he misses seeing you, you don't really miss him at all. If you don't miss him, let him go. You're not going to miss him once he's out of your life if you don't miss him when he's just making spaced out appearances in it.
If you're constantly questioning your feelings and looking for signs that you like him, it might be a sign you don't actually have those feelings. Trust your gut!
Being unsure about your feelings is normal, but if this confusion persists, it could mean you're not into him as much as you thought.
Pressure can come from wanting to fit in or from friends and family. Remember, it's okay to take your time and process how you genuinely feel.
Not feeling a spark doesn’t mean something's wrong with you or him. Everyone experiences attraction differently, and it's okay to look for someone who truly excites you.
Of course! If both of you are comfortable and respectful about it, transitioning to friendship can be a great outcome.
4. You Don’t Care if He Sees Other People
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This is a sign that seems to glowing and neon that you'd think anyone would know it. But the truth is, a lot of women don't. If you don't care that he's seeing other people, you don't care if he's into you, because you're not into him. When you like him, you'll want him to just see you because you're special enough for all of his attention.
If you're constantly questioning your feelings and looking for signs that you like him, it might be a sign you don't actually have those feelings. Trust your gut!
Being unsure about your feelings is normal, but if this confusion persists, it could mean you're not into him as much as you thought.
Pressure can come from wanting to fit in or from friends and family. Remember, it's okay to take your time and process how you genuinely feel.
Not feeling a spark doesn’t mean something's wrong with you or him. Everyone experiences attraction differently, and it's okay to look for someone who truly excites you.
Of course! If both of you are comfortable and respectful about it, transitioning to friendship can be a great outcome.
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5. You Want to See Other People
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Another bright yellow, flashing, neon sign. If you feel your eye wandering to other people, the guy you're with is not that special someone for you. If you like him, your eye will be on him. When you don't, your eyes will find their way to what you think is the next best thing. Let's just hope you like that guy a little bit more!
If you're constantly questioning your feelings and looking for signs that you like him, it might be a sign you don't actually have those feelings. Trust your gut!
Being unsure about your feelings is normal, but if this confusion persists, it could mean you're not into him as much as you thought.
Pressure can come from wanting to fit in or from friends and family. Remember, it's okay to take your time and process how you genuinely feel.
Not feeling a spark doesn’t mean something's wrong with you or him. Everyone experiences attraction differently, and it's okay to look for someone who truly excites you.
Of course! If both of you are comfortable and respectful about it, transitioning to friendship can be a great outcome.
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6. You Pick Fights
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Everything he does annoys you... EVERYTHING. He leaves the seat up at your house and it's a fight. He tries to pay for your meal when you're out to lunch and it's a fight. When everything he does makes your blood boil, he's probably isn't the guy for you. He's just a thorn in your side. So pull it out and don't brush up against anymore rose bushes.
If you're constantly questioning your feelings and looking for signs that you like him, it might be a sign you don't actually have those feelings. Trust your gut!
Being unsure about your feelings is normal, but if this confusion persists, it could mean you're not into him as much as you thought.
Pressure can come from wanting to fit in or from friends and family. Remember, it's okay to take your time and process how you genuinely feel.
Not feeling a spark doesn’t mean something's wrong with you or him. Everyone experiences attraction differently, and it's okay to look for someone who truly excites you.
Of course! If both of you are comfortable and respectful about it, transitioning to friendship can be a great outcome.
7. You’re Never in the Mood… EVER
It doesn't matter if it's sex or a kiss, when your guy goes in for it a lot and you just don't want to go for it right back, something is up. Either your styles are too different or you're just not as into him as you think. Either way, both have the potential to mess things up for you.
Well ladies hopefully you don't need these tips because you really do like your fellah. But, if not, then hopefully these signs have shed some light and you feel a little better about ending things. Just remember, you should enjoy your relationships, not feel trapped by them. Do any of you ladies have some signs you'd put on the list? Let me know down below!
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Soph: Wow, this is right on the money. Everything is super accurate. Well done.
kayla: because maybe you dont love him that much, i mean the real LOVE, but u enjoy his company havin sex with him so in that case you've become one so even u dont love/ like him there's something binds u together so u get jealous and u want him to stay with u, because women are like that they want to be possess and man wants freedom at the same time and to be love.
sara: okay question about #7 . okay so this guy right ; the thing that i don't get about this is that me & him lost our virginity together . & well we did a couple of more times . but every time we would do it i just wasn't really in the mood to do it with HIM . like i didn;t feel right . i just didn't . but then when i would see him with another girl i'd get jealous . or i'd just like feel like i want him to want me . but when it came to that point that we really were in bed i didn't want him anymore . so was wrong with me ? why do i insist so much for him to like me but when it comes to having sex i don't want to even see him or him even kiss or touch me ?
Kathy: great post! totally agree with it.
Teera: WOw...so. what about the man you love and that man is shy to meet you or scared about something. what is the solution about that???
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