Just sex-two words that undeniably grab attention, and often lead to a flurry of raised eyebrows and whispered conversations. If you've ever found yourself in a whirlwind affair, caught between sheets and conversations that stop at "good morning," then this article is tailor-made for you. Not to burst your bubble (or maybe do exactly that), but just sex is a reality for many in 2024, particularly in our fast-paced, swipe-right culture where Netflix and chill can sometimes become Netflix and... you get the idea.
Picture this: you’re with someone exclusively for their fantastic physical connection. You’re not emotionally invested; you don’t celebrate month-iversaries, and the idea of a future together is as fuzzy as a Sunday morning hangover. Ah, been there, done that. Personally speaking, during my ill-fated college romance, it took multiple alarm bells and a friend's relentless wisecracks to see that our emotional bond was shallower than a kiddie pool.
But hey, I'm not alone, right? Many folks are navigating these choppy waters, unsure if they’re more like friends with benefits or just conveniently bypassing the friend part altogether. The good news? This guide is your life raft, your beacon of clarity. By the end of this gem, you'll nail the subtle and not-so-subtle signs they don't introduce you to their friends and that classic moment when your chat history brims only with late-night texts. Been a victim of the mysterious ‘Hey stranger’ text at 2 AM? Yes, we’ll decode that too.
Let’s keep it real. The emotional investment from someone who's only in it for the nookie usually equals zilch. You’ll notice scant post-coital cuddles, and the romantic gestures are often as rare as teeth on a hen. Frankly, stuff like getting your first name wrong (ouch, true story) and never discussing any future plans falls right into our hilarious yet brutally honest signs it’s merely a fling.
So why is 2024 any different? Well, with the rise of casual dating apps, navigating the maze of commitment-free entanglements has never been more confusing. Technology's great but often complicates what was already a convoluted pursuit.
In this article, you'll also get plenty of laughs along the way (promise), and considering issues like avoiding public places becomes all too relatable.
Alright, enough teasing. Fasten your seatbelts and arm yourself with some solid insights, as we delve into 21 spot-on signs that confirm you're in it for the fun and not the forever.
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1. Every Time You See Each Other It’s Only to Have Sex
So many women and men are having this type of relationship thinking that it’s more and it’s not. It’s Just Sex.
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This type of relationship is not uncommon, but it is important to remember that it is not a healthy or sustainable one. It is possible to develop feelings for someone you have sex with, but it is unlikely to lead to a lasting relationship. People in this type of relationship should be aware that it is not likely to evolve into a more meaningful one. Additionally, it is important to practice safe sex and to be aware of the potential risks of having sex without a committed relationship.
2. Only Comes over at Night
They call you around 10 pm or later asking if you can come over or if they can come over around midnight. A lot of people think “oh they are just really busy” no they are calling for a booty call. It’s Just Sex.
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This behavior is an unmistakable signal that their interest in you isn't about emotional connection, but rather a physical one. If it's always after-hours and never during daylight – think about it, are brunch dates or afternoon walks in the park ever on the agenda? Likely not. It's a relationship that's operating on their time, suiting their needs, and it's all about the convenience of it. That's not partnership; that's a call of desire. In your gut, you know there's no depth to these encounters.
3. Doesn’t Want to Go out Anywhere
Yes staying at home is nice sometimes but there is a whole world outside of the bedroom. It’s Just Sex
4. Never Talks about Family and Friends
Think, do you even know if their parents are alive, do they have siblings. If you don’t know it might just be sex.
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In a real relationship, sharing details about one's inner circle is a given. It's a way to let someone in, to make them feel included in your life. If you're in the dark about even the most basic details of their personal life, it's a pretty telling sign. Conversations that evade anything deeper than surface-level topics can indicate a lack of emotional investment, which is a red flag if you're looking for something more meaningful than casual encounters.
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5. Doesn’t Want to Hear about Your Family and Friends
Are you bummed out about your family and want to talk about it and they don’t want to hear about it. It could be just sex
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6. Phone Conversations or Text Messages Are Only in a Sexual Nature
Do you only swap sexy texts or photos? Some relationships are like this but others are Just Sex.
7. You Only Meet at Places Where Sex Can Occur
Only going to their house/apartment or vice verse might just be sex.
8. No Sleepovers
They come over at midnight have sex and then around 2 am they want to go home or send you home. Oh yeah it’s just sex.
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This behavior points to a clear-cut arrangement where emotional ties aren't on the table. If you find that pillow talk is non-existent and the bed is quickly cooled after the deed is done, it's a strong indication that you're in a hookup scenario rather than a blossoming relationship. It's all about physical satisfaction—once that's achieved, the connection seems to fizzle out, literally by night's end. If you're longing for a cuddly morning-after, you may need to adjust your expectations with this setup.
9. You Don’t Eat Together
Ever hear that old saying “a couple that eats together stays together”.
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This adage underscores the intimacy of sharing meals, a basic human connection bonding us through the ritual of eating. When your encounters are solely bedroom-based, skipping the dinner table talks, you miss out on this fundamental form of closeness. It's not just about the food—it's the conversations, the laughs, and those tender moments that weave the fabric of a relationship. If all you savor together is the physical, it might be a sign that you're in a casual fling rather than a nourishing partnership.
10. They Take a Shower Right after Sex and Send You on Your Way
Normally you want to rest a bit and maybe talk. When they all of a sudden they want you to leave it’s probably just sex.
11. Never Talk about Life outside the Bedroom
There are so many other things going on that you could talk about.
12. You Only Have a Cell Phone or Beeper Number
It could be Just Sex
13. When You Talk It’s Only to Setup a Sex Time
Ever call then and setup a time to meet and you end up having sex. It’s Just Sex.
14. They Avoid You in Public
You see them and you know they saw you and they turn away. It’s Just Sex.
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When someone is willing to share intimate moments with you but avoids acknowledging you in social settings, it's a glaring signal that they're separating those aspects of their interaction with you. It may sting a bit to realize this, but clarity is key in these situations. If you find that they're consistently slipping away in crowds or giving you the cold shoulder when friends are around, it's likely that they want to keep things casual and aren't interested in integrating you into their broader life or circle. This detachment is symptomatic of a connection that lacks depth beyond the physical.
15. Only Spends a Couple of Hours with You
Only spend enough time with you to have sex. Then It’s Just Sex.
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If your partner consistently makes excuses to leave right after intimacy or shows an evident lack of interest in spending quality time before or after the encounter, it's a stark sign. They prioritize their convenience, ensuring minimal investment beyond the physical connection. This behavioral pattern suggests they might not be emotionally invested in the relationship, but rather in satisfying their carnal desires. It's crucial to recognize when you're being relegated to an afterthought rather than being cherished as a valued companion.
16. There is No Quality Time
No matter how busy he says he is, if was serious about the two of you he’d make an effort to spend time with you outside the bedroom.
17. He Keeps His Distance
He makes sure the two of you never get too close emotionally by keeping things from you. If you tell him you like it when he does a certain something, he’ll stop because he wants to keep things casual emotionally.
18. He Tells You so
Has he ever straight-up told you that he’s not interested in anything serious and just wants to play the field? He wouldn’t be saying these things if it weren’t true!
19. You Initiate All Communication
If it’s not about sex, all communication is likely to come from you. Are you the only one suggesting dates? Are you the only one who tries to start a real conversation when the two of you are together?
20. He Doesn’t Care if He Hurts Your Feelings
If you get visibly upset about the lack of communication or closeness between you two and doesn’t care, he probably doesn’t care about you, either.
21. He Cheats
Or should I say he has multiple sex partners that he’s not very private about. If the guy is openly having sex with multiple partners, it is definitely not a relationship.
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Im seen my ex again we have been sleeping with each other for 10 years on and off. 6 year ago he got someone pregnant and has a child we lost contact for 6years. Somehow we started talking to each-other. Now we've been having sex for 2 year only sex i don't know what to do help!!
Hi yall I have a problem... there's this guy that i really liked for about a month of so n we were just friends nothing more the thing is i wasn't quite sure if he liked me. So one night I was a lil tipsy on the phone and I told him then he told me he liked me too! So the next day he came over to my place so we could talk n one thing led to the next n we hooked up. Now the thing is i'd just come out of a 4yr relationship and was only looking for a quick rebound guy no strings attached just someone who'd be there when i came home from a tough day NO STRINGS!!! n i told him that n that well i wouldn't want it to ruin our friendship! but he told me if that's what i wanted NO STRINGS he'd just walk away I had a choice of either all or nothing! so i though what the heck it couldn't hurt so we started chasing each other text-ed a million times a day and spent at least 12 hrs talking on the phone or Skype or messenger each day for about 2 months straight! N whenever we weren't at university in lectures we'd crash and head to my apartment! We spent almost every waking minute with each other n eventually he got me to do what he wanted I opened up to him n he opened up to me! things moved way too fast but it was an excellent adrenaline rush. Everything was perfect except for the fact that his parents are strict racist.He's Chinese n Indian n well lol I'm Black! Now the reason we can't go anywhere is because they'd probably kill us or kick him out if they ever were to find out about me! All of my girlfriends have warned me about him n i should just walk away before we both end up dead but I can't Somewhere-along the line I fell for him he does the sweetest things and he's always full of surprises one night he showed up at my door step for like 5mins just to say I love u n he lives a good hr drive distance from! We've probably only gone out like 2 and its always in the night besides at school with our other friend we're never seen out in the day! I'm not okay with this arrangement I really like him but i can't continue to just have sex with him just like that its deeper now feeling are involved sighh he's even starting to confuse me too one day he's telling we should stop cuz this can't go anywhere the next he's telling me he loves me and he misses me n he thinks about me everyday! we don't talk as much or text probably once a day now or every other day n to me its just to set up out next meeting time or so that we can have phone sex! He says if we could be then we would be but he just can't get kicked out of his house again sighhh...then y did he lead me on in the first place! I mean he knew the colour of my skin the moment he met me! smhhhh...this whole thing is too much maybe I should just buy a dildo and call it George! lol I don't no what to do! I do love him but I can't keep seeing him in my bedroom n that's all its become now Its just sex! I need more but he can't give it? what should i do?
Ok so I've been having sex with this guy pretty much everyday for the past 4 months. At first it was just about the sex for me but then of coarse I started feeling something more. I have stayed the night over his house and I've meet his family. We talk about things other than sex sometimes, but neither of us like talking much anyways. Though he does only call me to see what I'm doing then we end up having sex, day or night. I don't know if it's just sex or if he actually likes me but is too shy to say something. Also, I know this is weird, but we've never kissed even though I've wanted to, he's never tried really. I guess that's a pretty big indicator that it's just sex huh? I want something more though but I don't want to mess up whatever we have if he doesn't feel the same. Idk what to do...
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JRo:Im seen my ex again we have been sleeping with each other for 10 years on and off. 6 year ago he got someone pregnant and has a child we lost contact for 6years. Somehow we started talking to each-other. Now we've been having sex for 2 year only sex i don't know what to do help!!
Anonymous:Hi yall I have a problem... there's this guy that i really liked for about a month of so n we were just friends nothing more the thing is i wasn't quite sure if he liked me. So one night I was a lil tipsy on the phone and I told him then he told me he liked me too! So the next day he came over to my place so we could talk n one thing led to the next n we hooked up. Now the thing is i'd just come out of a 4yr relationship and was only looking for a quick rebound guy no strings attached just someone who'd be there when i came home from a tough day NO STRINGS!!! n i told him that n that well i wouldn't want it to ruin our friendship! but he told me if that's what i wanted NO STRINGS he'd just walk away I had a choice of either all or nothing! so i though what the heck it couldn't hurt so we started chasing each other text-ed a million times a day and spent at least 12 hrs talking on the phone or Skype or messenger each day for about 2 months straight! N whenever we weren't at university in lectures we'd crash and head to my apartment! We spent almost every waking minute with each other n eventually he got me to do what he wanted I opened up to him n he opened up to me! things moved way too fast but it was an excellent adrenaline rush. Everything was perfect except for the fact that his parents are strict racist.He's Chinese n Indian n well lol I'm Black! Now the reason we can't go anywhere is because they'd probably kill us or kick him out if they ever were to find out about me! All of my girlfriends have warned me about him n i should just walk away before we both end up dead but I can't Somewhere-along the line I fell for him he does the sweetest things and he's always full of surprises one night he showed up at my door step for like 5mins just to say I love u n he lives a good hr drive distance from! We've probably only gone out like 2 and its always in the night besides at school with our other friend we're never seen out in the day! I'm not okay with this arrangement I really like him but i can't continue to just have sex with him just like that its deeper now feeling are involved sighh he's even starting to confuse me too one day he's telling we should stop cuz this can't go anywhere the next he's telling me he loves me and he misses me n he thinks about me everyday! we don't talk as much or text probably once a day now or every other day n to me its just to set up out next meeting time or so that we can have phone sex! He says if we could be then we would be but he just can't get kicked out of his house again sighhh...then y did he lead me on in the first place! I mean he knew the colour of my skin the moment he met me! smhhhh...this whole thing is too much maybe I should just buy a dildo and call it George! lol I don't no what to do! I do love him but I can't keep seeing him in my bedroom n that's all its become now Its just sex! I need more but he can't give it? what should i do?
cherries:Ok so I've been having sex with this guy pretty much everyday for the past 4 months. At first it was just about the sex for me but then of coarse I started feeling something more. I have stayed the night over his house and I've meet his family. We talk about things other than sex sometimes, but neither of us like talking much anyways. Though he does only call me to see what I'm doing then we end up having sex, day or night. I don't know if it's just sex or if he actually likes me but is too shy to say something. Also, I know this is weird, but we've never kissed even though I've wanted to, he's never tried really. I guess that's a pretty big indicator that it's just sex huh? I want something more though but I don't want to mess up whatever we have if he doesn't feel the same. Idk what to do...
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So many women and men are having this type of relationship thinking that it’s more and it’s not. It’s Just Sex.
They call you around 10 pm or later asking if you can come over or if they can come over around midnight. A lot of people think “oh they are just really busy” no they are calling for a booty call. It’s Just Sex.
Yes staying at home is nice sometimes but there is a whole world outside of the bedroom. It’s Just Sex
Think, do you even know if their parents are alive, do they have siblings. If you don’t know it might just be sex.
Are you bummed out about your family and want to talk about it and they don’t want to hear about it. It could be just sex
Do you only swap sexy texts or photos? Some relationships are like this but others are Just Sex.
Only going to their house/apartment or vice verse might just be sex.
They come over at midnight have sex and then around 2 am they want to go home or send you home. Oh yeah it’s just sex.
Ever hear that old saying “a couple that eats together stays together”.
Normally you want to rest a bit and maybe talk. When they all of a sudden they want you to leave it’s probably just sex.
There are so many other things going on that you could talk about.
It could be Just Sex
Ever call then and setup a time to meet and you end up having sex. It’s Just Sex.
You see them and you know they saw you and they turn away. It’s Just Sex.
Only spend enough time with you to have sex. Then It’s Just Sex.
No matter how busy he says he is, if was serious about the two of you he’d make an effort to spend time with you outside the bedroom.
He makes sure the two of you never get too close emotionally by keeping things from you. If you tell him you like it when he does a certain something, he’ll stop because he wants to keep things casual emotionally.
Has he ever straight-up told you that he’s not interested in anything serious and just wants to play the field? He wouldn’t be saying these things if it weren’t true!
If it’s not about sex, all communication is likely to come from you. Are you the only one suggesting dates? Are you the only one who tries to start a real conversation when the two of you are together?
If you get visibly upset about the lack of communication or closeness between you two and doesn’t care, he probably doesn’t care about you, either.
Or should I say he has multiple sex partners that he’s not very private about. If the guy is openly having sex with multiple partners, it is definitely not a relationship.
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