So you’ve just met a guy who you know is really into you… but unfortunately, he’s giving you a weird vibe and you’re not into him. You just know in a moment he’s going to ask you for your phone number, and you don’t want to embarrass him by telling him no… what to do? Here are my best ways for turning him down without hurting his feelings, or embarrassing him.
1. Avoid the Topic
Until he actually asks you for your phone number, you can just avoid the topic and save yourself the hassle and him the embarrassment.
2. Tell Him to Find You Another Way
With Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, and LinkedIn, there are a lot of other ways you can tell a guy to contact you without giving him your phone number.
3. Give Him an Email Address
If you’d rather, give him your email address. Then he can contact you, and you can choose whether or not to contact him. Easy!
4. Use the “strangers” Excuse
From the time we’re children, our parents have told us not to talk to strangers. If he won’t leave you alone, give him a smile and tell him you’re not supposed to talk to strangers, then turn your back. He’ll get the message.
5. Use the “safety” Excuse
In many ways, this isn’t actually an excuse at all — it’s the truth. Tell him you’re just not comfortable sharing your phone number with someone you’ve just met.
6. Ask for His Instead
If he does get up the nerve to ask for your number, and you would rather not give it to him, ask him for his number instead. You don’t actually have to ever call him, but it may get him to leave you be.
7. Tell Him You Have a Boyfriend/husband
Tell him you’re already spoken for, whether it’s true or not, and he ought to leave you alone.
8. Tell Him about Your Parents
Tell him that your father and brother(s) wouldn’t appreciate you giving your phone number out to a man they don’t know, and add that they’re both police officers, and see what he says. He’ll probably turn white as a sheet and walk away.
9. Ask Him to Guess
Tell him if he guesses your phone number, he can use it. He won’t like the idea, of course, but he certainly won’t be able to guess it, either.
10. Write It Messy
Write your number as sloppily as you can before you fold the paper and hand it to him. If you can, write it in lipstick or eye pencil, which are greasier than pen or pencil and will undoubtedly smudge.
11. Tell Him a Big, Fat Lie
Tell him you don’t have a phone, because you don’t believe in technology. This won’t work if you have a cell phone and laptop right there in front of you. But it almost always will start another conversation about the evils of the modern world, which he will undoubtedly find boring.
12. Give Him a Phony
My name is Jennifer, so I always thought it was fun to give these guys the phone number 867-5309, like from the song! Once you add an area code in front of it, it does look like a real number. I only got caught once, because I was cocky enough to actually write “Jenny” before the number. Oops!
13. Tell Him NO
If all else fails, and he just won’t take the hint and leave you alone, just look him straight in the eye and say NO. It’s not easy, but sometimes the straightforward approach works best.
Can you blame the poor guy for wanting your number? Of course not! You’re attractive, smart, funny… you know it! But you can’t say yes all the time, to everyone, so keep these tips in mind the next time you have to say no. Or do you have a better way of not giving out your phone number? Please let me know… thanks!
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