I have a friend who isn’t the best-looking girl in the world, but who always has guys hovering over her. She’s not easy or slutty. I always wondered: how does she do it? What about her makes her so approachable? How does she attract men everywhere she goes, without looking easy? I watched her closely, and finally just asked her. Here’s what I noticed, and what she told me.
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1. Be Friendly
Men are more likely to approach a woman who looks and acts friendly, not intimidating or cold or severe.
2. Smile
One of the best ways to appear friendly is to smile. A lot. At just about everyone. Look like you’re having fun, and like everyone is delightful around you.
3. Get Caught Looking
It’s not a bad thing to make eye contact with a man. Make sure you give him a friendly look, though, not a leering one.
4. Dress Nicely
Dressing provocatively will definitely get men to approach you, but only because they’ll be into your physical appearance. In other words, dress a little more modestly, and you’ll be approached by men who are interested in more than just getting you in bed!
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5. Don’t Travel in a Pack
Men find it difficult to approach women who are surrounded by too many people.
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6. Don’t Smoke or Drink Heavily
If a man approaches you after you’ve been drinking heavily, rest assured, he’s hoping to get you into bed, and he’s not interested in much else. And most men also find heavy smoking a turn-off.
7. Don’t Appear Moody or Cold
If you’re a total drama queen, no-one is going to want to approach you. Who would want the hassle?
8. Be Nice to Everyone
If the barista at Starbucks forgets the whipped cream on your mocha, don’t throw a fit and start screaming at him. This goes back to the “friendly” and “moody” tips. Be nice to everyone!
9. Be a Little Modest on the Dance Floor
If you’re out there grinding away, chances are, the only men who will approach you are doing it because they think you’re easy. So have fun out on the dance floor, by all means, but be a little modest. Also remember that if a guy asks you to dance, go ahead and say yes, if you want to. It’s just a dance! But feel free to walk away if he makes you uncomfortable.
10. Be Confident
There’s a fine line between confident and aggressive, and a wide line between confident and shy. Men find it easier to approach confident women, but not aggressive ones. And it’s also easier to approach someone who isn’t overly shy.
11. Have a Sense of Humor
If you seem bored or unhappy or just hard to please, men will stay far away. Have a sense of humor! Laugh, smile, be light-hearted and happy, and you won’t be able to keep the men away!
12. Know How to Chat
When a guy does approach, know how to chat politely but with a little flirtation. Keep it light, and know what you can talk about (idle chatter) and what you can’t (your ex).
Most of my friend’s tips had to do with her friendliness. I noticed that she tended to attract men who liked her for her humor and sweetness, not because she looked or seemed easy. Do you have any ideas to share on how to attract a guy without seeming easy or slutty? How do you attract guy who like you for you? Let me know!
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Meream: Number5 is so true. Guys get easily intimidated by girl friends.
Amy: Great advice! a guy would be more confident approaching a cute, friendly looking girl instead of a glamorous ice queen! look available and smile!
Xannyyy: One of the best games ever.. I enjoy so much playing hard to get! :) Really good tips! I’m right with you Jen about not dressing provocatively. You give men the wrong feeling, and he will only appreciate you for your physical appearance and not for who you really are. I also loved to do this particular game.. When I really was into some one, I used to do everything I could to be his friend’s best friend. I always smiled that smile that said I like you to, but made me impossible to get cause I was his friends best friends. You know mixing some emotions.. Does she like me? ‘Cause she keeps smiling or does she likes him, ‘cause she’s always with him. I love this kind of games lol! Wicked me!!!!!!
Sheila: Em, Maybe you should try getting to know him better and maybe flirt a little while at it?
Xannyyy: Sheila, Lol @ your comment. It actually worked on two guys. One of them I had that totally maddening crush on him! I went out with one of his best friends at a party. As soon as he saw me he bought me a drink and came with it near us. The guy I was with was talking to another person and so he told me to walk him near the toilets cause his friends where all there! Sooo Mission accomplished! HAHA!! And at another time I was with a friend’s guy who I liked and when I smiled at him and didn't approach him but instead I approached his friend he got so mad that he finally came to me saying that he liked me, asking staff like… Are you going with my best friend cause I saw you first and I like you.. You know staff like that. I used to enjoy my self so much… I still have a good laugh when I remember the methods I used to use!! Even with my man I played so hard to get!! Then he totally surrendered. That was when I reacted and knew I was going to loose him. And here we are three years later thinking about marriage! :)
Xannyyy: Sheila, Yeah love, do that and enjoy it!! Tell me how it went when you try it! Ohhh!!! I love to be a tiny fly watching you do this!! :P Loooool
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