7 Tips on How to Get Your Ex Back from the Pros ...

Is there a real way to get your ex back? While most times, it's better to leave the past in the past, don't you sometimes wish there was a way of undoing some mistakes? Like letting go of the love of your life? Afterall, they do say that you don't know what you've got until you lose it.

So, when you do realize that you've made a mistake, how do you get your lost love back? Let Michael Griswold, founder of Reunitedrelationships.com and a true expert on the matter, give you some tips on how exactly you can get your ex back!

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Understanding What Went Wrong

The first step to fixing something that is broken, is to figure out what went wrong in the first place. So sit down and really think about it. Analyze the relationship and try and figure out when and why the downfall began. Then ask yourself, if you are willing to do what it will take to fix it.Remember, that you will both have to make compromises and changes if it's going to work this time.

No Pressure

Now that you've decided that you want your ex back, how do you actually go about it? Here's what you should NOT do! Call him a thousand times, send him messages, stalk him on Facebook or real life...you get the picture. Doing this wil only make you seem needy as Micheal says and push him farther away. No one wants to be with a desperate soul, especially not your recent ex.

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Take Time to Heal

This is the most crucial step for any breakup. Take a break! Do not call him. Do not text him.Do not meet him no matter how badly you want to. The fact of the matter is if you haven't healed from the breakup, you aren't going to able to make it work this time. Also, taking time off will help you realize if you really want him back or if you're just too used to him to not have him around. Michael advises to take out your calendar and mark a date three weeks from now. This will be C-Day or Communication day. Until then, lay off! Immerse yourself in hobbies and things you've always wanted to do but couldn't. If your ex tries to contact you, be civil but keep it short. Tell them you really have to go right now and that you'll get back to him when you can.

After Three Weeks

Michael says it's always better to re-initiate contact by calling your ex since sms-es can be impersonal and also make it hard to judge a person's tone. Also, preferably call them at a time when you think they won't answer (you heard me right). Leave a short nonchalant voicemail, something to the effect of "I just noticed that your favorite store has a sale and thought I'd tell you about it!". What you are essentially doing is letting him know that you're thinking of him without actually saying so. When he does call you back, remember to sound positive, upbeat and genuine! Keep it short and end it with a "I've got to run, but do you want to catch up for coffee later this week?".

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If He Agrees

Give yourself a pat on the back because it means that he is still interested in you. Remember to keep the positive attitude you had on the phone and have a good story or two to share.This is not the time to discuss your past and other dreary aspects of the breakup. If things start to get uncomfortable or weird, Michael says make an excuse and leave immediately. The longer you stay, the more damage will be done. If on the other hand, it is going well, let them be the one to ask to see to you again. Now it looks like you have a great chance of getting your ex back, but there's still more ahead.

Ex-Sex

Once the two of you have met a couple of times, the physical attraction is going to creep its way back. It's probably been a while for the both of you and you're longing for his famiiar touch, but Michael says do NOT have sex with him straight away. Here's why: Men like the chase. The more you make him wait, the more he'll want you. At the same time, do not use sex to get him back. There is a fine line between persuasion and manipulation and the latter is not going to give you what you want in the long run. Wait till the two of you have established that this is not going to be just sex, that the two of you are genuinely going to try and work things out and then give him the best sex of his life!

If None of These Work

We all learn from experience that nothing in life is a guarantee. All we can do is try and if it doesn't work, keep your chin up and move on. Remember, if it's meant to be, it will! All you need to do is be smart about the situation, take in all the tips you can and give it your very best try.

And those, dear ladies, are some great words of wisdom from the pro, Michael Griswold himself. Of course there is much, much more to it, than what I just described above, so if you really, really need to get your ex back, I highly recommend you read Michael's e-book which will give you the best detailed advice and make it so much easier for you to work out a perfect plan of getting your own ex back.

Also, watch our pro's Youtube video to know more! And don't forget to share your own tips and experiences with winning your ex back below! You know how much we love hearing from you!

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@shakti that's such a awesome love story! My love life is so messed up :( I like a 22. Year old and he likes me, but we went threw so much with family and friends giving us crap because I'm only 16 . We wernt having sex or Nything so that's why we are mad that we decided we will wait till I'm 18 and it's best if we stop talking all together because my family is starting to hate him. I see him alot cos he goes to my church and we just stair at eachother threw out the service . I miss him :(

I had this boyfriend who I really liked and cared about, but we broke up almost two years ago. We were fighting a lot and we decided that we needed a break from each other. Two weeks after we broke up, my best friend told me that he cheated on me with a different girl. I was heartbroken and no idea what to do. So I confronted him about it in a very civil manner and he denied it all. A couple of months later, he started talking to me again and wanted to get back together. He finally admitted that he did cheat and said he was really sorry. But I was still really upset about the whole situation and could never find it in me to give him back my trust. (Keep in mind that he was my first REAL boyfriend!) He's a year older than me, so when we dated the first time we were in different schools. Well when I came into his school a year later and I started to see him everyday, I realized how much I really did miss him and still cared for him. So, I tried just being friends with him. I told him how I felt about our relationship and that I wished that we could just start it over. He said he feels that way sometimes too, but right now he's in a reltionship. So maybe we could try again some other day. I respected that he had a girlfriend and everything, so I kept texting him as a friend. After a couple weeks, I just couldn't do it anymore! I started thinking about him 24/7 and I was even having dreams with him in them! So I told him that I couldn't be friends with him because of that and he still wanted to be friends. But I told him it was driving me insane thinking about him so much. He told me that I still come to him for anything if I needed to ever talk. So my question is, do you think it's too late for us to get back together? Of course after him and his girlfriend break up!

Hey sheila I had a question about the three weeks without talking to him..well I really like this guy and I'm concerned about what I should say when cday comes because the last time we talked we had a really bad argumentand he basically said he'd talk to me again when he isn't mag at me anymore. what should I say on cday??

I'm going to try these tips. My guy called it off because he was 'spending too much time with me' and his family got upset, but he wanted to get back with me the next day. I told him no because I had too much pride in myself to want to get back with someone who can carelessly break up with me. It's been almost 3 weeks since we've broke up. I saw him today and nothing has changed. I still feel the same way I do about him like when we first met. I'm seeing him tomorrow. Hopefully I can get him back. Wish me luck! :)

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