Spring has sprung, and love is in the air! Whenever the weather starts getting warmer, we all start wishing we had a special someone to spend time with. Sometimes, it can be tricky to find – and get! – that great guy you’ve been wishing for. So, here are my top twenty tips on making a guy fall in love …
1. Be yourself …
All of my tips will give you tricks and ideas, but I mean for them all to be enhancements of who you really are, not make you into someone you’re not. If you’re fake, it doesn’t matter if you get a guy to fall in love with you, because he won’t really be in love with the real you. So, my first idea is to always be myself, no matter what, so a guy likes me for me.
2. Optimize your appearance …
Whenever I’m trying to be more attractive to someone, I always optimize. Now, this doesn’t mean I starve myself to look thin, buy tons of new clothes, or get a dramatic hair cut. Instead, I just try to make myself look my best. This means a cute outfit that emphasizes my best features, combed and fixed hair, a little makeup, a clean bright smile, and a spritz of light perfume.
3. Listen, listen, listen …
Guys love to talk about themselves, and they think a girl who actively listens to them is so charming. So, I always listen more than I talk when I was trying to attract a guy. Talk about yourself, current topics, news events, etc about 20% of the time, and let him control the conversation about 80% of the time.
4. Laugh a lot …
Guys are drawn to girls with a great sense of humor, and I think humor always begins with a lot of laughter. So, I always tried to laugh a lot and be easy to please when I was trying to attract a guy. If I want a guy to fall in love with me, I make sure to laugh and all his jokes!
5. Have a great attitude …
In my experience, guys like girls with cheerful, sunny dispositions. No one likes to hang out with a pessimistic, negative person. So, I always try to look on the bright side of life and be a “glass half full” person when I’m trying to catch a hot guy. People always tend to look my way more often and gravitate toward me when I’ve got a smile on my face!
6. Be sweet …
Sometimes, I can be catty… all girls can be. When I’m with my girlfriends, we’ll gossip or trash some other girl for being rude or trashy, but that’s not a nice way to act. And, let me just tell you, I’ve learned that this kind of behavior doesn’t attract guys. Boys are drawn to girls who are sweet and don’t gossip, so keep cattiness and snotty comments to yourself around your new guy.
7. Flirt …
Some of my friends used to think flirting was beneath them, but I’m telling you – it works. Guys just love to be showered with attention and treated like a king. So, toss your hair a little bit, throw your head back and laugh, grin a lot, and look up and him from under your eyelashes. Even those these old tricks might seem tried and true, they’re tried and true because they actually work!
8. Be different …
Trying to be unique and different is a way I’ve always tried to interest guys. I don’t want him to think that I’m just like all the other girls out there… instead, I want to be seen as charming, witty, and smart. So, I don’t talk about all those same old topics, like school gossip. Ask him about how he feels about current events or newsworthy stories and show him you’re worldy!
Other Fabulous Dating Tips:
- 10+ Ways to Get a Guy to Ask You Out …
- 15 Ways to Start a Conversation with a Guy You Like …
- 20 Flirting Rules to Always Get The Guy You Like …
9. Be witty …
As I said before, guys like a girl with a sense of humor. The best way to show you value humor is to laugh at his jokes, but I always try to crack a few jokes myself, too. Guys are drawn to girls with a funny side, and there’s nothing that draws two people closer than sharing a laugh. So, I always bust out a few comments or funny one-liners when I’m trying to draw a guy to me.
10. Initiate physical contact …
Guys love physical touch, and touching someone is a quick way to develop intimacy. So, when I’m trying to attract a guy’s attention, I will look for ways to bring physical touch into play. For instance, I touch his arm lightly when I’m laughing at a joke, or I’ll slap him on the knee playfully if he says something funny, or I’ll touch his hand while I’m explaining something.
Other 10 tips on second page
Just happened upon your site today. Very interesting, I learned some interesting things. Vance
sorry to bother you but..
Hey, my name is abby and im 16, im not ready for love or anything but I was wondering, How can you bring confidence up?
cuz im always negative about myself. Even though some people say im kinda pretty, its still doesnt do.
Abby, fake it. I know that it sounds like a strange advice but if we pretend or fake-believe that we are gorgeous, our mind will eventually believe it is so. Not to the point that we become delusional but just enough to make us feel positive. Another thing is to remember that no one is perfect. If you are always negative because you have insecurities, you have to remember that other people have their own insecurities, too. And lastly, accept compliments gracefully. Do not shrug them off or roll your eyes. Say thanks and smile. That is an attractive quality.
Great tips. Would be interesting to read more articles about hard to get.
@layla: make a hard to get guy fall for you? hmm that sounds like a good topic. some of this might work on one, though.
Quick tips from a guy,
1) be hot (which is a result of being healthy)
2) be submissive to me
If you want to a guy to fall in love without without following these critera, expect imminent disaster in every relationship. guaranteed. Your next best option would be to save guys the waste of time and go indulge yourself in the lesbian drug addict low life.
Some more clarification:
1. Be yourself … (be healthy)
2. Optimize your appearance …(be healthy)
3. Listen, listen, listen …(be submissive)
4. Laugh a lot … (be healthy & submissive)
5. Have a great attitude … (be healthy & submissive)
6. Be sweet … (be submissive)
7. Flirt … (be submissive)
8. Be different …(be healthy)
Faisal, those are great insights but I will have to disagree on the submissive part. There are actually guys who like aggressive women or those who can stand on their own feet (they are being themselves and not putting up a tough front).
My Advise would be, just to be yourself.
Guys hate fake girls, they want someone whose natural and fun to be with.
Dont chnage who you are for a guy, if you feel like you need to change, hes the problem, NOT you.
I agree, Ashlee. When we pretend to be somebody else, our facade breaks down sooner or later. It’s better to be natural.
hi im 23 male but im in love with a gorgeous woman that oready engaged and olso older than me he is 27 ..turning 28 in june..i dont know how to express my feeling im just consurned she will be upset from me and wont talk to me ever again..as women most time get offended from a younger man..witch way should i ask her or express how much deeply in love with her..and i feel like telling her as well im better than her fiance he does not ven care for her and not that well looking..please advice me
Excuse me ladies, I found this place quite by accident. But,
“Make” a guy fall-in-love with you???
If 80% of you would stop chasing the top 20% of handsomest men, and give an average guy half-a-chance, you would be happy and contented in life… raising loving families bonding deeply with honest, hard-working blokes instead of fretting about your weight searching here drudging for tips.
I have a tip for ya’ll!
PRAY your men never discover Asian & Asian women!
I have been living abroad for awhile now, and ladies, it is a bloody paradise…for us (average White men).
ZERO overweight females, loving attitudes, extremely feminine…
Thank you Lord.
It’s good to be home.
how to make a guy who knows i like him ,but who do not like me to make him like me?
how to make a guy who knows i like him ,but who do not like me to make him like me? he is avoiding me , keeping a distance away from me, does not want to talk to me. How should i approach to make him like me and woo after me?