You two used to be like sisters. She was the keeper of your dark little secrets, the shoulder you could cry on, your missing piece and your favorite shopping pal. But lately, things have changed and you just don’t know, is she a friend or an enemy? Here are 10 signs your bestie is becoming your frenemy...
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1. She Doesn’t Look Too Happy when Something Good is Happening to You
That hot guy is totally into you, you finally got promoted or you have just passed an incredibly hard exam and you can't wait to share the great news with your best friend! Only, she doesn’t look or sound too happy about it… She mumbles something like “Mhm... Great… That’s nice…” and continues the usual chit-chat like nothing happened. Hello! What happened to “Wow! That’s great honey! I knew you can do it!” ?
Oh, a frenemy is like that friend who gives you mixed signals. They're your buddy but sometimes act more like a rival. Like, they're nice one day and shady the next. It's confusing!
Trust your gut! If someone is always competing with you, makes backhanded compliments, or seems to enjoy your failures, those are some red flags. Pay attention to how you feel after you hang out with them.
Sometimes it's jealousy, insecurity, or just plain old differences that cause this shift. People can grow apart, and unfortunately, some friendships turn sour.
It depends on the situation. Communication is key! If you value the friendship, try having an open and honest conversation. But if they're toxic, it might be best to distance yourself.
Set boundaries and limit how much time you spend with them. Focus on positive relationships and surround yourself with people who genuinely support you. Life's too short for toxic vibes!
It used to be so simple – if you have news, I’m the one that is listening, and if I have something to say, you, my dear BFF, are expected to listen. If your BFF’s definition of friendship is, “me and my faithful listener,” get her a new dictionary or, if that doesn’t help, get her a pocket mirror! That way she will always have somebody to talk to.
Oh, a frenemy is like that friend who gives you mixed signals. They're your buddy but sometimes act more like a rival. Like, they're nice one day and shady the next. It's confusing!
Trust your gut! If someone is always competing with you, makes backhanded compliments, or seems to enjoy your failures, those are some red flags. Pay attention to how you feel after you hang out with them.
Sometimes it's jealousy, insecurity, or just plain old differences that cause this shift. People can grow apart, and unfortunately, some friendships turn sour.
It depends on the situation. Communication is key! If you value the friendship, try having an open and honest conversation. But if they're toxic, it might be best to distance yourself.
Set boundaries and limit how much time you spend with them. Focus on positive relationships and surround yourself with people who genuinely support you. Life's too short for toxic vibes!
3. Bitter-sweet Comments
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Don’t fall for the “sweet talk” sisters! If she says, “I could never imagine myself wearing those shoes, but they look great on you,” she is not giving you a compliment!
Oh, a frenemy is like that friend who gives you mixed signals. They're your buddy but sometimes act more like a rival. Like, they're nice one day and shady the next. It's confusing!
Trust your gut! If someone is always competing with you, makes backhanded compliments, or seems to enjoy your failures, those are some red flags. Pay attention to how you feel after you hang out with them.
Sometimes it's jealousy, insecurity, or just plain old differences that cause this shift. People can grow apart, and unfortunately, some friendships turn sour.
It depends on the situation. Communication is key! If you value the friendship, try having an open and honest conversation. But if they're toxic, it might be best to distance yourself.
Set boundaries and limit how much time you spend with them. Focus on positive relationships and surround yourself with people who genuinely support you. Life's too short for toxic vibes!
Your best friend knows what you like and dislike, she knows your style, your favorite colors, hobbies, books and poems you adore. So picking a birthday present for you would be a piece of cake even if she was strapped for cash because you don’t expect an expensive but a creative and personal gift. However, this year, you’ve got a hideous thing from a dollar store and you could just swear she picked that up on her way to your house…
What exactly is a frenemy?
Oh, a frenemy is like that friend who gives you mixed signals. They're your buddy but sometimes act more like a rival. Like, they're nice one day and shady the next. It's confusing!
How do you spot a frenemy?
Trust your gut! If someone is always competing with you, makes backhanded compliments, or seems to enjoy your failures, those are some red flags. Pay attention to how you feel after you hang out with them.
Why do people become frenemies?
Sometimes it's jealousy, insecurity, or just plain old differences that cause this shift. People can grow apart, and unfortunately, some friendships turn sour.
Can you fix a relationship with a frenemy?
It depends on the situation. Communication is key! If you value the friendship, try having an open and honest conversation. But if they're toxic, it might be best to distance yourself.
How should I deal with a frenemy?
Set boundaries and limit how much time you spend with them. Focus on positive relationships and surround yourself with people who genuinely support you. Life's too short for toxic vibes!
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I’m really not a jealous person and I completely love the fact that all my girls treat my significant other like a part of our crew, but there is a certain line that is not supposed to be crossed! When she starts emphasizing how she absolutely looovees your boyfriend, how he’s so cool, how they share the same taste in music or how he’s the only decent guy you’ve had in years – it’s time to wake up and smell the onions!
What exactly is a frenemy?
Oh, a frenemy is like that friend who gives you mixed signals. They're your buddy but sometimes act more like a rival. Like, they're nice one day and shady the next. It's confusing!
How do you spot a frenemy?
Trust your gut! If someone is always competing with you, makes backhanded compliments, or seems to enjoy your failures, those are some red flags. Pay attention to how you feel after you hang out with them.
Why do people become frenemies?
Sometimes it's jealousy, insecurity, or just plain old differences that cause this shift. People can grow apart, and unfortunately, some friendships turn sour.
Can you fix a relationship with a frenemy?
It depends on the situation. Communication is key! If you value the friendship, try having an open and honest conversation. But if they're toxic, it might be best to distance yourself.
How should I deal with a frenemy?
Set boundaries and limit how much time you spend with them. Focus on positive relationships and surround yourself with people who genuinely support you. Life's too short for toxic vibes!
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Up until some time ago, she claimed she wouldn’t want to be caught dead wearing your favorite color but now she seems to be the biggest fan of it. When you say you are planning to buy certain shoes, she buys them the next day and pretends she never heard you say that. What's going on?
What exactly is a frenemy?
Oh, a frenemy is like that friend who gives you mixed signals. They're your buddy but sometimes act more like a rival. Like, they're nice one day and shady the next. It's confusing!
How do you spot a frenemy?
Trust your gut! If someone is always competing with you, makes backhanded compliments, or seems to enjoy your failures, those are some red flags. Pay attention to how you feel after you hang out with them.
Why do people become frenemies?
Sometimes it's jealousy, insecurity, or just plain old differences that cause this shift. People can grow apart, and unfortunately, some friendships turn sour.
Can you fix a relationship with a frenemy?
It depends on the situation. Communication is key! If you value the friendship, try having an open and honest conversation. But if they're toxic, it might be best to distance yourself.
How should I deal with a frenemy?
Set boundaries and limit how much time you spend with them. Focus on positive relationships and surround yourself with people who genuinely support you. Life's too short for toxic vibes!
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7. She Takes Credits for Your Ideas
You gave her a good advice because you love her and you want to see her happy and now, when things are exactly the way you predicted they would be, she says: “You see? I can’t believe how smart I am.” Now, I sincerely hope you don’t work in the same company because, if you do, she could be the one stealing your idea and getting your promotion.
What exactly is a frenemy?
Oh, a frenemy is like that friend who gives you mixed signals. They're your buddy but sometimes act more like a rival. Like, they're nice one day and shady the next. It's confusing!
How do you spot a frenemy?
Trust your gut! If someone is always competing with you, makes backhanded compliments, or seems to enjoy your failures, those are some red flags. Pay attention to how you feel after you hang out with them.
Why do people become frenemies?
Sometimes it's jealousy, insecurity, or just plain old differences that cause this shift. People can grow apart, and unfortunately, some friendships turn sour.
Can you fix a relationship with a frenemy?
It depends on the situation. Communication is key! If you value the friendship, try having an open and honest conversation. But if they're toxic, it might be best to distance yourself.
How should I deal with a frenemy?
Set boundaries and limit how much time you spend with them. Focus on positive relationships and surround yourself with people who genuinely support you. Life's too short for toxic vibes!
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8. She Enjoys “putting Salt on Your Bleeding Wounds”
If your best pal invites you to go shopping with her only when she knows you are completely broke, talks about how happy she is every time you have problems or comments how you put on some weight just when you’ve mentioned your diet is giving amazing results – RUN! Frenemy!
What exactly is a frenemy?
Oh, a frenemy is like that friend who gives you mixed signals. They're your buddy but sometimes act more like a rival. Like, they're nice one day and shady the next. It's confusing!
How do you spot a frenemy?
Trust your gut! If someone is always competing with you, makes backhanded compliments, or seems to enjoy your failures, those are some red flags. Pay attention to how you feel after you hang out with them.
Why do people become frenemies?
Sometimes it's jealousy, insecurity, or just plain old differences that cause this shift. People can grow apart, and unfortunately, some friendships turn sour.
Can you fix a relationship with a frenemy?
It depends on the situation. Communication is key! If you value the friendship, try having an open and honest conversation. But if they're toxic, it might be best to distance yourself.
How should I deal with a frenemy?
Set boundaries and limit how much time you spend with them. Focus on positive relationships and surround yourself with people who genuinely support you. Life's too short for toxic vibes!
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9. She is Trying to Make Fun of You in Front of Other People
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Making fun of others is just not cool, especially if that other person is your best friend! So don’t try to look past this thinking that she just has a bad sense of humor. Ok, maybe your friend really doesn’t know how to make a good joke but if she, for example, knows you are wearing pants today because you didn’t have time to wax your legs, she has no right to abuse that information! You see, in her eyes, you are the big tree that everybody admires and chopping you down means she will finally get all the light for herself.
What exactly is a frenemy?
Oh, a frenemy is like that friend who gives you mixed signals. They're your buddy but sometimes act more like a rival. Like, they're nice one day and shady the next. It's confusing!
How do you spot a frenemy?
Trust your gut! If someone is always competing with you, makes backhanded compliments, or seems to enjoy your failures, those are some red flags. Pay attention to how you feel after you hang out with them.
Why do people become frenemies?
Sometimes it's jealousy, insecurity, or just plain old differences that cause this shift. People can grow apart, and unfortunately, some friendships turn sour.
Can you fix a relationship with a frenemy?
It depends on the situation. Communication is key! If you value the friendship, try having an open and honest conversation. But if they're toxic, it might be best to distance yourself.
How should I deal with a frenemy?
Set boundaries and limit how much time you spend with them. Focus on positive relationships and surround yourself with people who genuinely support you. Life's too short for toxic vibes!
Ask
10. Doesn’t Matter What It is, but Her’s is Always Bigger
If you had a great time, she always had a better time than you so, you have to listen while she recounts every single unimportant detail of it. If you have a problem, she has three and they are, of course, much bigger than yours so “It’s easy for you to say…” She is being selfsh and may not be a friend at all!
Unbelievably, my “best” friend did all this and still had the nerve to get mad at me for not choosing her as my maid of honor! What about yours? Is she a friend or a foe? How do you know?
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i have a frenemy right now but im slowly taking her out of my life...i dont text her anymore and i dont say hi to her on FB anymore...she's been a frenemy since college and I sensed it but ignored the signs because she was so great to hang out with...she is r a bitch making fun of me embarrasing me infront of other people so she'd feel good about herself and whenever im with her i feel bad about myself coz of the things she says...its not good having a frenemy they can make your life miserable and make you feel unhappy...get rid of the bitch NOW...dont be in denial...
I had a frenemy back when I was in highschool. Cut her out and never looked back. Life is too short to be hanging around people like that.
Good article, you nailed the signs truely.
Thanks for writing this article to help us recognize these awful people. I suppose I will have to be a big girl now and stop a "friendship" that is very much turning sour before it gets to a bad state as well. This girl is already a mild frenemy, I just didn't really want to believe it. And I know she won't change. Very happy for those of you who have risen above these kind of girls. They're no good...
sounds just like my best friend. That's depressing.
If I can relate to at least five points in this article, should I face the truth?! My frenemy is a sister in law. She was great for a while, but it started becoming apparent to me she was being so fake! Everything I did she would have to come back with something bigger and better she has done. Or the other major factor is she can't stop talking about herself. It's draining. Everything will come back to her. It's all a competition.. My real friends do not do this! Also she brags a lot 'oh I went out and all the me. In the bar were looking at me, girls say I'm so pretty. What the hell is that about?! Is she big headed or insecure! I can't make up my mind. All I know is I am going to start keeping her at a distance as she is toxic.
Sounds like my "ex" best friend
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moosa:i have a frenemy right now but im slowly taking her out of my life...i dont text her anymore and i dont say hi to her on FB anymore...she's been a frenemy since college and I sensed it but ignored the signs because she was so great to hang out with...she is r a bitch making fun of me embarrasing me infront of other people so she'd feel good about herself and whenever im with her i feel bad about myself coz of the things she says...its not good having a frenemy they can make your life miserable and make you feel unhappy...get rid of the bitch NOW...dont be in denial...
CDambrosio:I had a frenemy back when I was in highschool. Cut her out and never looked back. Life is too short to be hanging around people like that.
Lisa:Good article, you nailed the signs truely.
Lilia:Thanks for writing this article to help us recognize these awful people. I suppose I will have to be a big girl now and stop a "friendship" that is very much turning sour before it gets to a bad state as well. This girl is already a mild frenemy, I just didn't really want to believe it. And I know she won't change. Very happy for those of you who have risen above these kind of girls. They're no good...
Christine:sounds just like my best friend. That's depressing.
Jasmine:If I can relate to at least five points in this article, should I face the truth?! My frenemy is a sister in law. She was great for a while, but it started becoming apparent to me she was being so fake! Everything I did she would have to come back with something bigger and better she has done. Or the other major factor is she can't stop talking about herself. It's draining. Everything will come back to her. It's all a competition.. My real friends do not do this! Also she brags a lot 'oh I went out and all the me. In the bar were looking at me, girls say I'm so pretty. What the hell is that about?! Is she big headed or insecure! I can't make up my mind. All I know is I am going to start keeping her at a distance as she is toxic.
Meesha:Sounds like my "ex" best friend
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