Hi Everybody, It is so good to come across this site.......some of you have come through break ups and lived to tell the tale. Unfortunately, i am just at the beginning of mine!!! I've been married to the love of my life for 5 years, we're together 6 years in total. he meant the world to me but everythign went bad 2 years ago. I found out while i was 7 months pregnant that my husband was having affairs, with a numer of women all at the same time.......i was gutted.....I had my suspiscions before that he had been unfaithful but he had always convinced me i was being paranoid, over jealous etc., i mean he did the ususal hiding his phone, getting a second phone, never answering my calls when he was out etc. When i found out 2 months before giving birth i was totally devasted but he broke down crying saying he wanted to work things out, he loved me and all that and of course i couldnt contemplate life bringing a child up alone so i stayed and tried to make it work. Of course i still had suspicions that he might stray again. Anyway, in November 2010 i decided to have a PI follow my husband, and sure enough within the first few hours of following him the PI was able to confirm he was seeing another woman. Naturally, DH denied it and begged for forgiveness. I really wanted to believe he could change so again i gave him chance but i decided to buy a vehicle tracker to monitor his whereabouts without him knowing and sure enough the minute i went our of town he was back to the same woman. I couldn't believe it, this woman is around 48, she has 4 children by 4 different men and i am only 28. I'm not stunning looking but i would say i have average beauty. Just cant believe he would ruin our marriage for a woman like her!!! He said it was just for sex....but it still hurts. So, anyway in the last few weeks i just couldnt take anymore and decided i had to move for my daughter's sake and my own as we were lviing in the city and had no life really except eing lonely at home while he "worked". So, i've actually managed to find a job in my home town and i'm moving everything next weekend....thing is, i'm heartbroken over it. DH didnt even try to fight for us to stay...i asked him to come home and talk about it before i handed in my notice at my current job and he didnt come home till early next morning so i took that a s a sign that he couldnt be bothered and went ahead and gave my notice at work and DD creche. Thing is i dont know if i'm about to make the biggest mistake of m life or the best one. he has been my life for 6 yrs, i havent stopped crying in the last week, and it upsets my daughter when she sees me crying. I just wish he could make some attempt to keep us. I even asked him to move with us but he refused. Right now i just put a brave face on but inside i am devasted. He says he will never have a family with anybody else, and that it was just sex he was getting from these other women and not love and that i am the only person he loves..........its a funny wayof showiing love to somebody!!! Has anybody been in a similiar situation and overcome it? How long will i be feeling like his. I'm so miserable.

please help me..... I'm still in love to the man i know i can never be mine anymore. He is my first love and a boyfriend 2 years ago yet until know even i already try a lot of new relationships still i cant get over with him. he is already live in and he already have one child. Every time i try to show that i am strong enough i cant rid and vanished all those moments we have together i want to be with him forever. what should i do

Thanks Sheila...Can i continue talking to him because i found a very gud friend in him and he too cared a lot about my sentiments too..

This guy and I have been dating for a little over a year. He was my first love, so obviously it's been a little tough getting over him after we broke up. He said he didn't feel like we had any romance anymore, that we were disconnected lately. But he also said that after we "broke up" after six months of us dating. He asked for me to take him back, because he realized he still loved me. So we dated happily for another six months. Before he even voiced his feelings, I could feel things getting a little rocky, but I was trying so hard to make things work. Every couple goes through that, right? So I thought we could get over this "disconnection". We got over the disconnection six months ago, right? But when he was finally like, "Do you think we should break up?" I agreed in an instant. But I feel like maybe I was just caught in the moment, and I felt like I didn't love him anymore. Not even one full day, he asked another girl to prom, but he said he asked her because he felt it would be awkward if I was his date. That hurt, but I figured I could get over it. Then within the week, he started to text a girl from a different school, and when I asked him two weeks later, he said he liked her. Trust me, I don't want to get back with him now, or ever, after all the hurt this has caused me. But why do I find myself still thinking about him so much? We were so alike, he understood me. And now I feel like there's no hope of finding another person as wonderful as him. He didn't do anything wrong to me, he just didn't feel the same way about me. After we broke up, a bunch of these guys started talking to me, and they're all great, but why can't I get over the guy who broke my heart? I don't want to be like those girls that compare all the future guys to this one guy. But he really was amazing while we were dating. I don't know what to do. Please help.

I quiet in love with my bestfriend for 5years...we so very close to each other, and even the family of us is very close...now, my b.friend got many affairs..to every guys and i was praying that they will not last..am so selfish by then...till she decided to go abroad to find her future soon..what will i do? she still on my mind..i keep my self busy as always i pampered my self...and trying to be happy for what she takes...then why she still on my mind. pls pls pls help me.