Here’s our top 5 tips on how you can effectively get over him and overcome your oh-so-painful heartache: 5. Allow yourself to be on self-pity mode. Eat your heart out or go on a photo retrospective of your good times together. Cry, scream, go all ‘drama queen-like’. Allowing yourself to wallow in self-pity is the first stage of the getting-over-him stage. 4. Get rid of all of his stuff. Get rid of all of his stuff, as well as any item which will remind you of your time together as a couple. After drowning yourself in self-pity, the next step is to get rid of all of his stuff so that you can start moving on. 3. Be like Victoria Beckham. Even if you’re going out for an ice cream – imagine that there’s a million paparazzi out o your trail who’ll take photos of what you’re wearing. This will give you that extra confidence and bounce on your step. 2. Treat yourself like a queen. Go to a really expensive salon and get a hair treatment. Don’t snip off your locks, however. Just give your hair a hair makeover, do your nails, get a massage. Treat yourself like a queen and stop lounging at home wearing pajamas all the time! 1. Start going out again. The only way that you can really get over a heartache is when you’ve already moved on. Start by going out again. Call your girlfriends and club-hop. Flirt with the cutest guy in the bar while looking like your usual hot self. These tips should get you on the right track of getting over him and whatever heartache the bastard has caused! Lol…

It’s so sad that all these women will put up with the worst of the worst for some dude who isn’t even slightly decent, I’ve been there.

..i really love him but i dont know if he does either..i dont want to lose him forever..but we are now in a cool-off stage..are there still possibilities that we can be together again?it's all my fault..i made him jealous with other guy and also because of my childish act..i really love him so much..i realized that now after what had happened...please..advise me if what i gonna do..thanks..ill wait..

Hi Everybody, It is so good to come across this site.......some of you have come through break ups and lived to tell the tale. Unfortunately, i am just at the beginning of mine!!! I've been married to the love of my life for 5 years, we're together 6 years in total. he meant the world to me but everythign went bad 2 years ago. I found out while i was 7 months pregnant that my husband was having affairs, with a numer of women all at the same time.......i was gutted.....I had my suspiscions before that he had been unfaithful but he had always convinced me i was being paranoid, over jealous etc., i mean he did the ususal hiding his phone, getting a second phone, never answering my calls when he was out etc. When i found out 2 months before giving birth i was totally devasted but he broke down crying saying he wanted to work things out, he loved me and all that and of course i couldnt contemplate life bringing a child up alone so i stayed and tried to make it work. Of course i still had suspicions that he might stray again. Anyway, in November 2010 i decided to have a PI follow my husband, and sure enough within the first few hours of following him the PI was able to confirm he was seeing another woman. Naturally, DH denied it and begged for forgiveness. I really wanted to believe he could change so again i gave him chance but i decided to buy a vehicle tracker to monitor his whereabouts without him knowing and sure enough the minute i went our of town he was back to the same woman. I couldn't believe it, this woman is around 48, she has 4 children by 4 different men and i am only 28. I'm not stunning looking but i would say i have average beauty. Just cant believe he would ruin our marriage for a woman like her!!! He said it was just for sex....but it still hurts. So, anyway in the last few weeks i just couldnt take anymore and decided i had to move for my daughter's sake and my own as we were lviing in the city and had no life really except eing lonely at home while he "worked". So, i've actually managed to find a job in my home town and i'm moving everything next weekend....thing is, i'm heartbroken over it. DH didnt even try to fight for us to stay...i asked him to come home and talk about it before i handed in my notice at my current job and he didnt come home till early next morning so i took that a s a sign that he couldnt be bothered and went ahead and gave my notice at work and DD creche. Thing is i dont know if i'm about to make the biggest mistake of m life or the best one. he has been my life for 6 yrs, i havent stopped crying in the last week, and it upsets my daughter when she sees me crying. I just wish he could make some attempt to keep us. I even asked him to move with us but he refused. Right now i just put a brave face on but inside i am devasted. He says he will never have a family with anybody else, and that it was just sex he was getting from these other women and not love and that i am the only person he loves..........its a funny wayof showiing love to somebody!!! Has anybody been in a similiar situation and overcome it? How long will i be feeling like his. I'm so miserable.

Thanks Sheila...Can i continue talking to him because i found a very gud friend in him and he too cared a lot about my sentiments too..

I have been in love with my exhusband for over 15 years, divorced 6. He had an affair and it tore me up. He saw the girl for 8 years,they broke up, she left him and is begging to come back after 6 months. Now he came back to me because I think he knows he could. It made me so happy that maybe there would be another chance. He started calling everyday, seeing him 3 x week, then 2 x week, then 1 x week and didn't want sex anymore. Sex was never an issue with us. It was always good. He said he needed some space because he has never dated. I go to his church yesterday to only find what I expected. He had her(the new girl) there, which showed me this was more than he let on. He never took me to church recently. He told me that he didn't think it would work between her and him because she had another boyfriend. but if she took the time to go to church with him then there's more. He says he wants to be friends and that he will always love me. Is he being true or did I get used again? I feel awful, first; for being a fool to let him back to hurt me again. But I truely loved him. Then the lies he told in the mean time. He cried when I said I couldn't see him anymore. then after about a month, he called to see how I was doing? Said he wanted to be friends, not his decision. I miss him so bad and the hurt is so deep like no other hurt I have experienced. He was my soul mate for 15 years, I wished he fathered my children. What can I do to get over him? I already put his pictures up, put his toothbrush up and I'm in a waiting mode to see if he feels he made a mistake. Not letting him know though. I don't want him to think he has a big head and 2 women want him back. by the way this new girl is a doll. I can't compete with her. What does she see in him, he's not that good looking and is 14 years younger. HELP! S