Here’s our top 5 tips on how you can effectively get over him and overcome your oh-so-painful heartache: 5. Allow yourself to be on self-pity mode. Eat your heart out or go on a photo retrospective of your good times together. Cry, scream, go all ‘drama queen-like’. Allowing yourself to wallow in self-pity is the first stage of the getting-over-him stage. 4. Get rid of all of his stuff. Get rid of all of his stuff, as well as any item which will remind you of your time together as a couple. After drowning yourself in self-pity, the next step is to get rid of all of his stuff so that you can start moving on. 3. Be like Victoria Beckham. Even if you’re going out for an ice cream – imagine that there’s a million paparazzi out o your trail who’ll take photos of what you’re wearing. This will give you that extra confidence and bounce on your step. 2. Treat yourself like a queen. Go to a really expensive salon and get a hair treatment. Don’t snip off your locks, however. Just give your hair a hair makeover, do your nails, get a massage. Treat yourself like a queen and stop lounging at home wearing pajamas all the time! 1. Start going out again. The only way that you can really get over a heartache is when you’ve already moved on. Start by going out again. Call your girlfriends and club-hop. Flirt with the cutest guy in the bar while looking like your usual hot self. These tips should get you on the right track of getting over him and whatever heartache the bastard has caused! Lol…

Thanks Sheila...Can i continue talking to him because i found a very gud friend in him and he too cared a lot about my sentiments too..

Well, looking at this web page I'm not alone. This guy I was talking to decided that we needed to "cool off" this was three months ago so, therefore I assume he no longer wants to talk to me anymore. As much as it hurts I refuse to chase him. I've been doing the chasing since 2001 with no progress. Meaning, no relationship! So, as of today today I have thrown my middle finger up! I mean what what else can I do? Continue to wait when deep down inside I know he hates me.

i have a boyfriend nd we've been together since last year june. We broke up last january for a reason that he still love his bestfriend he used to court the girl but he was rejected.I know that it is not the main reason why he quit, his friend told me that maybe he is tired of being with me.He just texted me and that's it.I really love him so much.And its really painful for me,i always got drunk!and everytime i miss him it hurts like hell!Until i came to the point that i went to their house and i beg him to come back but then he refused!damn! i thought it was the end of the world!I cried so much. And tried my best to overcome the pain, i had a relationship with another guy i admit that i used him to forget my x but still it does not work.. 6 months after our breakup, i can convince myself that im ok already.. i've already pick-up the pieces and moved on.. i already did those 5 steps to overcome the heartache. Then we had a communication again, he texted me..then we became friends because for me in order to forget a person u must to forgive first.Until we met each other again and gosh! i still love him! i can feel my heart is beating so fast and i was so overwhelm when i saw him..and it was so weird that we treat each other as if nothing happened.We are so sweet,when we talk about our breakup we just laugh about it. I know its unfair for me but being with him again is enough to forget those pain that's how much i love him.Then we decided to be together again for the second time. maybe by this time our relationship will work. There's a lot of changes on him even on me.. I became more aware that I must not expect too much from him I must love myself more that him.And he became more concern to me than before and its convincing. But recently, when were both busy and we cant find to see each other he became so annoying when i texted him, it seems that he's not interested anymore,even a simple "i love you" he can't tell even on txt. And then just this morning he say sorry for all the things he done. And for the second time he is breaking up with me and by this time he told me that maybe he's not ready because he does not yet overcome of what his first girlfriend did to him..And it was so FuCK! I feel that I was used again!And I refused, I told him that let me decide when will i give up..not now..im not ready for this. I hate myself of being like this Why i cant give up on him. Please give me some advice! I dont want to be hurt again.. Does he love me too?Do i have to hold on? :(

Hi Everybody, It is so good to come across this site.......some of you have come through break ups and lived to tell the tale. Unfortunately, i am just at the beginning of mine!!! I've been married to the love of my life for 5 years, we're together 6 years in total. he meant the world to me but everythign went bad 2 years ago. I found out while i was 7 months pregnant that my husband was having affairs, with a numer of women all at the same time.......i was gutted.....I had my suspiscions before that he had been unfaithful but he had always convinced me i was being paranoid, over jealous etc., i mean he did the ususal hiding his phone, getting a second phone, never answering my calls when he was out etc. When i found out 2 months before giving birth i was totally devasted but he broke down crying saying he wanted to work things out, he loved me and all that and of course i couldnt contemplate life bringing a child up alone so i stayed and tried to make it work. Of course i still had suspicions that he might stray again. Anyway, in November 2010 i decided to have a PI follow my husband, and sure enough within the first few hours of following him the PI was able to confirm he was seeing another woman. Naturally, DH denied it and begged for forgiveness. I really wanted to believe he could change so again i gave him chance but i decided to buy a vehicle tracker to monitor his whereabouts without him knowing and sure enough the minute i went our of town he was back to the same woman. I couldn't believe it, this woman is around 48, she has 4 children by 4 different men and i am only 28. I'm not stunning looking but i would say i have average beauty. Just cant believe he would ruin our marriage for a woman like her!!! He said it was just for sex....but it still hurts. So, anyway in the last few weeks i just couldnt take anymore and decided i had to move for my daughter's sake and my own as we were lviing in the city and had no life really except eing lonely at home while he "worked". So, i've actually managed to find a job in my home town and i'm moving everything next weekend....thing is, i'm heartbroken over it. DH didnt even try to fight for us to stay...i asked him to come home and talk about it before i handed in my notice at my current job and he didnt come home till early next morning so i took that a s a sign that he couldnt be bothered and went ahead and gave my notice at work and DD creche. Thing is i dont know if i'm about to make the biggest mistake of m life or the best one. he has been my life for 6 yrs, i havent stopped crying in the last week, and it upsets my daughter when she sees me crying. I just wish he could make some attempt to keep us. I even asked him to move with us but he refused. Right now i just put a brave face on but inside i am devasted. He says he will never have a family with anybody else, and that it was just sex he was getting from these other women and not love and that i am the only person he loves..........its a funny wayof showiing love to somebody!!! Has anybody been in a similiar situation and overcome it? How long will i be feeling like his. I'm so miserable.

It’s so sad that all these women will put up with the worst of the worst for some dude who isn’t even slightly decent, I’ve been there.

I need to get over this guy, but we never dated. At all, or anything like it. I thought I was over him, but apparently not. He and I have the same circle of friends, have some classes together, and are kinda on our way to be friends again, which is what i want, so i don't wanna ruin it with feelings. How do I get over him, or at least move on. I know that I shouldn't like him. I don't want to like him, and for a while I thought I didn't. I just can't get him out of my head, and truthfully, I'm starting to hate not only him, but myself for liking him so much. Help me please?