Get over Him How to Overcome Heartaches ...

Well, looking at this web page I'm not alone. This guy I was talking to decided that we needed to "cool off" this was three months ago so, therefore I assume he no longer wants to talk to me anymore. As much as it hurts I refuse to chase him. I've been doing the chasing since 2001 with no progress. Meaning, no relationship! So, as of today today I have thrown my middle finger up! I mean what what else can I do? Continue to wait when deep down inside I know he hates me.

Hi Everybody, It is so good to come across this site.......some of you have come through break ups and lived to tell the tale. Unfortunately, i am just at the beginning of mine!!! I've been married to the love of my life for 5 years, we're together 6 years in total. he meant the world to me but everythign went bad 2 years ago. I found out while i was 7 months pregnant that my husband was having affairs, with a numer of women all at the same time.......i was gutted.....I had my suspiscions before that he had been unfaithful but he had always convinced me i was being paranoid, over jealous etc., i mean he did the ususal hiding his phone, getting a second phone, never answering my calls when he was out etc. When i found out 2 months before giving birth i was totally devasted but he broke down crying saying he wanted to work things out, he loved me and all that and of course i couldnt contemplate life bringing a child up alone so i stayed and tried to make it work. Of course i still had suspicions that he might stray again. Anyway, in November 2010 i decided to have a PI follow my husband, and sure enough within the first few hours of following him the PI was able to confirm he was seeing another woman. Naturally, DH denied it and begged for forgiveness. I really wanted to believe he could change so again i gave him chance but i decided to buy a vehicle tracker to monitor his whereabouts without him knowing and sure enough the minute i went our of town he was back to the same woman. I couldn't believe it, this woman is around 48, she has 4 children by 4 different men and i am only 28. I'm not stunning looking but i would say i have average beauty. Just cant believe he would ruin our marriage for a woman like her!!! He said it was just for sex....but it still hurts. So, anyway in the last few weeks i just couldnt take anymore and decided i had to move for my daughter's sake and my own as we were lviing in the city and had no life really except eing lonely at home while he "worked". So, i've actually managed to find a job in my home town and i'm moving everything next weekend....thing is, i'm heartbroken over it. DH didnt even try to fight for us to stay...i asked him to come home and talk about it before i handed in my notice at my current job and he didnt come home till early next morning so i took that a s a sign that he couldnt be bothered and went ahead and gave my notice at work and DD creche. Thing is i dont know if i'm about to make the biggest mistake of m life or the best one. he has been my life for 6 yrs, i havent stopped crying in the last week, and it upsets my daughter when she sees me crying. I just wish he could make some attempt to keep us. I even asked him to move with us but he refused. Right now i just put a brave face on but inside i am devasted. He says he will never have a family with anybody else, and that it was just sex he was getting from these other women and not love and that i am the only person he loves..........its a funny wayof showiing love to somebody!!! Has anybody been in a similiar situation and overcome it? How long will i be feeling like his. I'm so miserable.

well i was in love with my best frend... whom i know for 6 yrs, since teenage! and he liked me since i met him( as he said) i liked him also bt never luved him... bt than i admitted tht i luve him aswell.... he was really nice although our relationship was never knwon to any one, he was my net frend ... and last yr we broke up... he was upset b'coz of our long distance relationship.... i'm devastated.. its been 7 months.. and i think he will come again in my life... bt i know he never will... i'm upset b'coz i feel this is failure of my life... im very shy person and don't share any personal related stuff to any one... even if its my thought... my only prob is i dun want any one bt him... or else no one.. bt still every one wants to be luved cared.. God i feel the biggest loser of the world

please help!! i have a live in partner for almost 4yrs we have 2yrs old daughter. hes been cheating on me for many times but i forgiven him for our daugther sake and its hard for me too to be alone raising my child since i am a fulltime mother. lately, i have a suspicious again that he has another woman and its breaking my heart so much i always cried and so last night too i think my daughter felt that im hurt coz when she saw me crying she said wat and why even she just cant talk so well yet. now my heart is dying coz yesterday i confronted him why he wasnt able to go home the other night instead of giving his reason he is angry on me and he left without leaving our allowance.he said i am too jealous and suspicious.. i am so tired of him coz i feel he dont care my feelings but im thinking also formy daughter.. i am so confuse on what to do now..he will be home tomorrow but i dont what should i say to him. i used tothink that i will leave him and move on but still i stayed. please help what will i do?

We all wonder why love is so tough, but it is life, life will throw you pain and broken hearts but show life that you are strong and have no reason to be down, pick yourself up, have hope, believe, fight and never look back. Losing the one you love for whatever reason whether it be him not sharing the same feelings as you at all ever or a breakup perhaps is something noone deserves to go through but it is important to remember if someone has touched your heart then they are something special and you will never forget them, they will be a memory and it is a good thing. It is not love in my honest opinion if you forget someone you care about. You know there is always a choice, you don't have to move on but think about if you don't all you will be doing for the rest of this life is being down and depressed it isn't attractive. Leave that person in your past and don't waste this short life or take it for granted. I believe it is better to stay single you number one get more out of life and 2 are happier because there is no heartache but i suppose you can't not act on feelings when you see someone special

I need to get over this guy, but we never dated. At all, or anything like it. I thought I was over him, but apparently not. He and I have the same circle of friends, have some classes together, and are kinda on our way to be friends again, which is what i want, so i don't wanna ruin it with feelings. How do I get over him, or at least move on. I know that I shouldn't like him. I don't want to like him, and for a while I thought I didn't. I just can't get him out of my head, and truthfully, I'm starting to hate not only him, but myself for liking him so much. Help me please?