Do you have a friend, or a friend of a friend who just cannot seem to get over his or her past relationship? I do – and it’s been several months that I’ve been cajoling her to get out of the funk that she’s currently in – but I just can’t seem to help her!

When it comes to recovering after a break up, there are just some things that a friend cannot help you out with – so you better start doing it yourself!

Here’s my own version of the 3 simple rules that you need to follow to restore your dignity right after a falling out:

1. Get rid of his stuff – and all of your ‘couple’ stuff.

Whether you moved into his apartment, or he moved into yours – there will be little reminders of the time that you had together. Change the sheets, throw away his stuff on your bathroom – rearrange your apartment if you need to!

2. Look great and look happy when you ‘accidentally’ bump into him.

After a breakup, there’s such a thing as an orchestrated ‘accidental meeting’. Wear your red killer heels if you know that there’s a chance that you’ll bump into him. Don’t just look great – you need to look happy, too – even if the mere sight of him is enough to want you to beg him to come back into your life.

3. Repeat this mantra: “I’ll get over him – soon!”

Don’t let this soon be anytime within the next ten years or so. When you say soon – it should really be soon! Remember that time is the best healer – and if you really want to get over someone, just give yourself a little time to moon – then gather your wits together and start putting your life back together. It’s only then that you’ll get to say that you’ve finally, really gotten over that jerk who broke your heart. =)