7 Ways to Know He's Not into You ...

I don’t know about you ladies but I know for a fact that in my 20 years of life I’ve already wasted too much time on men that just weren’t interested. And just about every time that things with these guys end, I look back and think “How did I miss all those signs?” Well ladies, miss no more, waste no more time. These are the 7 sure fire ways to know he’s not into you!

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You Have to Make Contact

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Does it seem like you’re always the one to call, text, say hi in person? Then stop making excuses for him. My grandmother gave me the best advice ever when I was 15 “If a man really likes you there is nothing that will keep him from making contact.” And that is true at any age. If he likes you, he won’t hesitate to break the silence.

He is Not Affectionate

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Now I know for a fact that some men just aren’t into hand holding and cuddling up in public but your guy has to at least be a little affectionate. If he likes you and can see you spending a lot of time together in the future he won’t mind grabbing your hand at the movies. He won’t mind you resting your head on your shoulder. And he really won’t mind showing you that he likes you with the little things.

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He Doesn’t Make Solid Plans

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This is one that we let slide a bit too much ladies. Vague plans of “hanging out later” or “Seeing what happens” are not plans. I understand that people lead busy lives but if you can set aside a certain time period for him then he should be able to do the same for you. Don’t let him get away with making you feel like a backup plan.

You’re Only Together for… Bedroom Time

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It’s a new day and age and sometimes we grown up women sleep with men even before things get a little serious. It may not be the best thing to do but it happens. But, if you’re dating a guy and all your time is spent sleeping together chances are the relationships will never leave the bedroom. If you’re alright with that then that’s your choice but if you want more you have to get past that bedroom door threshold.

He Tells You That It’s Ok to See Other Men

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If a guy’s telling you it’s ok to see other guys then chances are, he doesn’t mind letting you go. You’re pretty great and if your guy really likes you, he won’t want another guy realizing this and trying to move in on you. If he’s telling you it’s alright to see other men, maybe you should, after breaking up with him.

He’s Seeing Someone else

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If he’s seeing someone else run the other way! If he has a girlfriend, wife or any other type of significant other that he’s with, he will never leave them for you and even if he does, that’s not a man that you want anyway. It’s ok to date other people in the beginning but when you get serious, he should too.

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He Ditches You

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If you make plans and he calls to tell you he can’t make it or he just doesn’t show up, it seems pretty obvious that he doesn’t want to spend time with you. Sometimes it’s easier to make excuses than admit that fact but, you have to admit it and move on. You’re not going to get anywhere with a guy you can’t see!

Well ladies hopefully this hasn’t ended too many relationships! Just remember men aren’t dogs just because they’re not interested, no one can help who they’re attracted to. We just need to be able to walk away when we realize they’re not interested. It’s not fair to waste anyone’s time!

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Great article. From all seven points, I think the fourth is the most obvious way to know he really isn't that into you...into the sex with you but I mean..if he's not taking you out, but he goes out with his friends, well that is a big red flag. Drica

Ma dear, this is interesting. I have experienced this, and what you are saying is true and i consider it to be love, then keep on waiting. I have learnt, no more wasting my time with guys. I need to change ma strategies of how to handle things with men. Thanks for the ideas and information.

I so agree it's been five months. After two month we became gf and bf then a month later he broke up with me. Then after a week breaking up we missed each other and in time we've turned exactly how we were just that he won't take me back we actlike more then a couple then ever but he doesn't want me as his gf to much pressure. He ditches me on weekends and sometimes never replys but when were tgether it's AMAZING!! I wish someone could help

Umm... for the last few months me and this guy have been getting friendly and i've really started to like him. He gives me signs that he likes me like; looking at me in a conversation with a group of people, searching for me if i've moved seats and playfully teasing me. However I texted him to see if I should ask him out. I said "someone just told me you like me, is it true or not?" and he replied with "no its not, whos this person this time, i want to know who?" and i just said "dw". Does this really mean he doesn't like me? :/

Me and this guy had been together for around a month, we were getting on well. but he seemed to be shy and wasn't affectionate with me. He would also ditch me for his friends a lot, and if he promised to come see me, most of the time he would break his promise. I kept telling him that he was ditching me, and he would notice that i'd be upset about it afterwards. I told him that we needed to do something because I couldn't keep being in a relationship where we acted more like friends than together and all he could say is that something didn't feel right between us and said he wanted to go on a break. I don't know what to do? I still want to be with him, but clearly its over now :'(

Hey Shelia so hard tho I don't know what to do :(

theres this guy who am dateing ad he said that e likes me alot and he calls everydayy tellig me how much he misses me but he dont have much time to see me so should i believe him or his just fooli around??

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