**“…**what I always thought was that there was this one perfect person for everybody in the world, you know, and when you foundthat person, uh, the rest of the world just kinda magically faded away and...and you know, the two of you would just be inside this kind of protective bubble.But there is no bubble.
Or if there is, we have to make it.**”**
(From Forces of Nature)
In the Ben Affleck-Sandra Bullock movie you probably didn’tsee, Forces of Nature, boy getsengaged to girl he loves.
Next, boy gets confused on the way to the wedding when hefinds himself attracted to and tempted by another girl.
But in the end [warning: spoiler], boy experiences a shining moment of clarity, chooses to protect therelationship he already has, and marches down the aisle with girl he loved from the get-go.
Everyone, of course,lives happily ever after.
Don't you wish it always happened that way for the rest of us mere mortals?
Instead, it's quite common for people to not experience moments of absolute clarity in matters of the heart...sometimes even when the love they're in the middle of is the right place to be.
No wonder, then, that people ask themselves questions like this:
• Is my near-perfect partner perfect enough?• Would another person be more perfect?• Am I really in love if I can have these doubts about my partner?
In many cases, I believe that the ultimate threat to a budding or established relationship isn't the absence of clarity 24/7. You'd be surprised how many people who love each other for very good reasons have doubting moments, 5 months -- or 5 decades -- into the relationship.
Amazing love that endures can be fragile sometimes. But so what.
The real threat to an otherwise good relationship, as far as I'm concerned, is the fear that accompanies those fuzzy moments of wondering. Fear makes people do the dumbest things. Like sabotage a good relationship. Or stay in the wrong one. But that's a whole other topic for another day!
If it is right between you and another person -- even if the love feels fragile sometimes -- I promise that a part of you will want to protect what you have.
Then do it.