From time to time, I do some posts on sex. Some of you have a hissy with me and go way against what I say, but that is perfectly fine. I was a teenager once before too, but I never chose to give it up to anyone, except for my husband and I will tell you that I was not married when I lost my virginity to him, so I don’t really believe that it’s an absolute must to be married before you lose your virginity. However, I do believe that you should make sure you are ready and do not rush into things, because this is one thing that cannot be undone. Below, I am going to give you 7 ways to tell you are ready to lose your virginity…
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7. What about the Finances?
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Is he or she financially secure and can pay rent on housing? Guys, would you be able to support her if you had to? Can you keep the relationship during the quest to become financially secure? Now, i’m not saying that you can only sleep with someone that is rich, but if push comes to shove and something happens, then the two of you should have finances to take care of it. I know many of you are going to complain about this, but it is fine. It’s a cold world out there and money does not grow on trees. You’d be very immature to sleep with someone when you don’t even have money to support yourself.
It's a mix of emotional and physical readiness. If you feel comfortable and confident with your partner, and you're making the decision for yourself (not because of pressure), it might be a sign you're ready.
There's no magic number! What matters most is your comfort, consent, and readiness. Everyone's timeline is different.
It's natural to have mixed feelings. Reflect on your reasons and feelings. Talking with someone you trust, like a friend or counselor, can help process those emotions.
Absolutely! It's a big step, and feeling anxious or unsure is completely normal. Take your time and make sure you're making the choice for yourself.
That's perfectly okay, too! Your choices about your body and sexuality are yours to make, and there's no right or wrong decision. Do what's best for you.
6. Could You See Yourself Spending a Future with This Person?
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If you cannot see yourself spending a future with this person, then obviously, you are not ready to give yourself to them and that is just your hormones speaking. When you are ready, you will see that person in your future. I’m not saying that they will actually be in your future or you have to make plans to get married, but obviously, you shouldn’t sleep with someone that you plan on breaking up with.
It's a mix of emotional and physical readiness. If you feel comfortable and confident with your partner, and you're making the decision for yourself (not because of pressure), it might be a sign you're ready.
There's no magic number! What matters most is your comfort, consent, and readiness. Everyone's timeline is different.
It's natural to have mixed feelings. Reflect on your reasons and feelings. Talking with someone you trust, like a friend or counselor, can help process those emotions.
Absolutely! It's a big step, and feeling anxious or unsure is completely normal. Take your time and make sure you're making the choice for yourself.
That's perfectly okay, too! Your choices about your body and sexuality are yours to make, and there's no right or wrong decision. Do what's best for you.
5. When You do Not Feel Pressured to do It
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When you do not feel pressured to do it just because everyone else is doing it – that’s a sign. When you no longer base your opinions on something because it is everyone else’s opinion. It’s your own ballgame out there. Now that you’re thinking for yourself and not feeling pressured and have decided that you want to lose your virginity, then that’s a sign.
It's a mix of emotional and physical readiness. If you feel comfortable and confident with your partner, and you're making the decision for yourself (not because of pressure), it might be a sign you're ready.
There's no magic number! What matters most is your comfort, consent, and readiness. Everyone's timeline is different.
It's natural to have mixed feelings. Reflect on your reasons and feelings. Talking with someone you trust, like a friend or counselor, can help process those emotions.
Absolutely! It's a big step, and feeling anxious or unsure is completely normal. Take your time and make sure you're making the choice for yourself.
That's perfectly okay, too! Your choices about your body and sexuality are yours to make, and there's no right or wrong decision. Do what's best for you.
4. Do You Want to Wake up at Odd Hours of the Night?
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I know, when there is sex, there is consequences. I’m not saying to remain a virgin forever, but do not have sex until you are ready to wake up at odd hours of the night to take care of a baby. Even with protection, you will face these consequences. Gripe at me all you want, but it’s the truth.
It's a mix of emotional and physical readiness. If you feel comfortable and confident with your partner, and you're making the decision for yourself (not because of pressure), it might be a sign you're ready.
There's no magic number! What matters most is your comfort, consent, and readiness. Everyone's timeline is different.
It's natural to have mixed feelings. Reflect on your reasons and feelings. Talking with someone you trust, like a friend or counselor, can help process those emotions.
Absolutely! It's a big step, and feeling anxious or unsure is completely normal. Take your time and make sure you're making the choice for yourself.
That's perfectly okay, too! Your choices about your body and sexuality are yours to make, and there's no right or wrong decision. Do what's best for you.
If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.
3. You Are in a Loving Relationship
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Are you in a loving relationship with someone that you feel really close with? Do you feel that you can take on anything ahead of you? Then you are ready.
It's a mix of emotional and physical readiness. If you feel comfortable and confident with your partner, and you're making the decision for yourself (not because of pressure), it might be a sign you're ready.
There's no magic number! What matters most is your comfort, consent, and readiness. Everyone's timeline is different.
It's natural to have mixed feelings. Reflect on your reasons and feelings. Talking with someone you trust, like a friend or counselor, can help process those emotions.
Absolutely! It's a big step, and feeling anxious or unsure is completely normal. Take your time and make sure you're making the choice for yourself.
That's perfectly okay, too! Your choices about your body and sexuality are yours to make, and there's no right or wrong decision. Do what's best for you.
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2. Plan It!
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No, I’m not saying plan to do it on Saturday at noon. I mean to get everything ready – the contraceptives, lubricants and all of that. Think about the type of music you want to listen to during it. After you go through all of this, if you get all excited, then you’re ready! If you feel scared, then you’re not ready.
It's a mix of emotional and physical readiness. If you feel comfortable and confident with your partner, and you're making the decision for yourself (not because of pressure), it might be a sign you're ready.
There's no magic number! What matters most is your comfort, consent, and readiness. Everyone's timeline is different.
It's natural to have mixed feelings. Reflect on your reasons and feelings. Talking with someone you trust, like a friend or counselor, can help process those emotions.
Absolutely! It's a big step, and feeling anxious or unsure is completely normal. Take your time and make sure you're making the choice for yourself.
That's perfectly okay, too! Your choices about your body and sexuality are yours to make, and there's no right or wrong decision. Do what's best for you.
1. You Just Feel It
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With me, things just happened. I didn’t plan on it, I didn’t read blogs on if I was ready – it just happened. Do I regret it? Nope, I don’t regret it. You can never be sure that you are 100 percent ready to lose your virginity until you are in the situation. If you get yourself in the situation and you feel you are not ready, then don’t be afraid to speak up and stop.
Those are 7 ways to tell you are ready to lose your virginity. It is such a complicated thing when you’re looking for signs, but they’re there. If you feel scared about sex, then you’re not ready. Sex is a very powerful thing and it’s very natural. So, what do you think?
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Anneka: Also, the first time you have sex doesn't have to be the last. You can have sex with more than one person and you wont be considered a 'whore' or 'slut'. Just don't sleep around. I would suggest doing it with someone you've been dating awhile, someone you love and care about and someone who loves and cares about you. Just be smart with who you have sex with. :)
ofifhsbmakajs: I am 16 and I have been in a relationship for over a YEAR one whole year and I like the boy for a good year and a half before that too, and I always wanted to lose my virginity to him but recently I've been starting to go a bit lukewarm on the whole relationship, I feel like it might be coming to and end and I don't know whether I should have sex with him or not, I don't want to regret not doing it cause I don't know when the chance will come again.. But I am worried about it hurting, and some of my friends say they bled on their first time which I do not want to happen either :(
Lyzzie: Lylas right, whorish as this sounds my first time was in the back of a car but I loved every second of it! almost every time I had sex there wasn't a fancy dinner and an elegant movie involved, there was just lust hehe. as long as u enjoy what ur doing the setting doesn't matter too much =] my ex and I did it in his bedroom like rabbits because his room is messy but comfy =] and cuddling afterwords makes it more fun!
Nat: I have a problem and if anyone could help that would be great. I dated this guy for about a year and a half and we wanted to lose it together but never did. now that we are apart, we still talk about it but he told me unless i dated him he didnt want to. im 16 by the way. and hes also very controlling almost scary controlling. i dont even feel attracted to him anymore but i know that he cares about me. on the complete other hand i have a guy ive hooked up with for almost a year now, after me and the one guy broke up, who i could sleep with, but we arent emotionally connected. i don't know what to do..
Alana: Thank you so much denise (:
Yourmom: #4 But I am gay... And would not adopt
Elihaika: I am a 20 years old african girl.i am still a virgin..me n.my boyfriend have been trying to have sex for about couple of months now but thngs didnt went well ..i remmbr bleeding n pain .that i couldnt tolerate ...but too bad the dick ddnt get in still. Tried fingerz but still aint working..i got so nervous..but what i learned lately is that..losing virginity is about being ready physically and emotionally to let someone in.ts best if you love that person nad that person loves you back.Dnt do t f you feel pressured by the guy or your friends..i realy love my guy and he supported me all the time and he wasnt forcing me to do anythng ,he just told me to take all the time i need to get ready .And about pain .not all girls experience pain plus even if t will be abit painful t will be just fo a short time and worthy it
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