How can I tell if I'm really ready to lose my virginity?

It's a mix of emotional and physical readiness. If you feel comfortable and confident with your partner, and you're making the decision for yourself (not because of pressure), it might be a sign you're ready.

Is there a 'right' age to lose your virginity?

There's no magic number! What matters most is your comfort, consent, and readiness. Everyone's timeline is different.

What if I regret losing my virginity?

It's natural to have mixed feelings. Reflect on your reasons and feelings. Talking with someone you trust, like a friend or counselor, can help process those emotions.

I'm nervous about losing my virginity. Is that normal?

Absolutely! It's a big step, and feeling anxious or unsure is completely normal. Take your time and make sure you're making the choice for yourself.

What if I don't ever want to lose my virginity?

That's perfectly okay, too! Your choices about your body and sexuality are yours to make, and there's no right or wrong decision. Do what's best for you.

From time to time, I do some posts on sex. Some of you have a hissy with me and go way against what I say, but that is perfectly fine. I was a teenager once before too, but I never chose to give it up to anyone, except for my husband and I will tell you that I was not married when I lost my virginity to him, so I don’t really believe that it’s an absolute must to be married before you lose your virginity. However, I do believe that you should make sure you are ready and do not rush into things, because this is one thing that cannot be undone. Below, I am going to give you 7 ways to tell you are ready to lose your virginity…

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7. What about the Finances?

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Is he or she financially secure and can pay rent on housing? Guys, would you be able to support her if you had to? Can you keep the relationship during the quest to become financially secure? Now, i’m not saying that you can only sleep with someone that is rich, but if push comes to shove and something happens, then the two of you should have finances to take care of it. I know many of you are going to complain about this, but it is fine. It’s a cold world out there and money does not grow on trees. You’d be very immature to sleep with someone when you don’t even have money to support yourself.

6. Could You See Yourself Spending a Future with This Person?

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If you cannot see yourself spending a future with this person, then obviously, you are not ready to give yourself to them and that is just your hormones speaking. When you are ready, you will see that person in your future. I’m not saying that they will actually be in your future or you have to make plans to get married, but obviously, you shouldn’t sleep with someone that you plan on breaking up with.

5. When You do Not Feel Pressured to do It

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When you do not feel pressured to do it just because everyone else is doing it – that’s a sign. When you no longer base your opinions on something because it is everyone else’s opinion. It’s your own ballgame out there. Now that you’re thinking for yourself and not feeling pressured and have decided that you want to lose your virginity, then that’s a sign.

4. Do You Want to Wake up at Odd Hours of the Night?

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I know, when there is sex, there is consequences. I’m not saying to remain a virgin forever, but do not have sex until you are ready to wake up at odd hours of the night to take care of a baby. Even with protection, you will face these consequences. Gripe at me all you want, but it’s the truth.

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3. You Are in a Loving Relationship

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Are you in a loving relationship with someone that you feel really close with? Do you feel that you can take on anything ahead of you? Then you are ready.

2. Plan It!

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No, I’m not saying plan to do it on Saturday at noon. I mean to get everything ready – the contraceptives, lubricants and all of that. Think about the type of music you want to listen to during it. After you go through all of this, if you get all excited, then you’re ready! If you feel scared, then you’re not ready.

1. You Just Feel It

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With me, things just happened. I didn’t plan on it, I didn’t read blogs on if I was ready – it just happened. Do I regret it? Nope, I don’t regret it. You can never be sure that you are 100 percent ready to lose your virginity until you are in the situation. If you get yourself in the situation and you feel you are not ready, then don’t be afraid to speak up and stop.

Those are 7 ways to tell you are ready to lose your virginity. It is such a complicated thing when you’re looking for signs, but they’re there. If you feel scared about sex, then you’re not ready. Sex is a very powerful thing and it’s very natural. So, what do you think?

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Kayla
2010-12-09T22:11:12.000Z
I have known this guy for about 3 years now. We had a thing for a while, but he ended up being a total asshole to me. Stupid as it is, I went back to him time and time again. Eventually, I decided to end everything with him because I just couldn't take his dick moves and emotional roller coaster anymore. After a while we both moved on to different people but there is always that liiitttle feeling for him in the back of my mind because he was the first guy I ever "did stuff" with (not sex, I'm still a virgin). We are both currently single and I think I want to get back together with him and most likely lose my virginity to him, he's the only guy I ever pictured doing it with. I don't want to do it just because of peer pressure, I think I might be ready. (I'm almost 16) However, my bestfriends HATE this boy because of how he treated me and don't want me to ever talk to him again. How can I get him back and make sure things are different this time and know that I'm ready to have sex with him and that I'm not being a total idiot?! Ahhh, I'm so confused please help me :(
Karen
2013-11-25T16:02:20.000Z
Hi, I am 20 and I played a game called RuneScape and I met this guy who is one year younger then me and I have known him since I was 13 or 14. We dated and I got to meet him in feb then he came over here in April. We live a few hours apart and we stopped dating because I assumed he was cheating on me instead of asking him. I have had nothing but heartbreak from the guys I have dated I have real bad trust issues..and him and I started talking again a few months ago. I fell in love with this guy and he's always on my mind. I am seeing him again in a few days...he wants me to lose my virginity and I told him I want to wait until next fall I don't feel like i'm ready to do it yet and he kept telling me I need facts not just a reason so we are not talking until I have a good excuse to say no. Every time I talked about an excuse to not do it he gives me all the truths on how we have known each other for 5 years and so on. I am in complete shock right now because this is the guy I see myself spending the rest of my life with..but he is pressuring me into losing it with. I won't be on birth control until next fall and I will also be out of college then. I can't get him out of my life I tried that before it didn't work. I was waiting until marriage but for him I am waiting until next fall. He just don't want to wait that long. Can anyone help me please, what should I do? I'm not on birth control and he told me his condoms he have are the expensive kind "$30" and they are completely 100% safe if that is what i'm worried about.
Lyzzie
2010-11-21T13:50:00.000Z
Lylas right, whorish as this sounds my first time was in the back of a car but I loved every second of it! almost every time I had sex there wasn't a fancy dinner and an elegant movie involved, there was just lust hehe. as long as u enjoy what ur doing the setting doesn't matter too much =] my ex and I did it in his bedroom like rabbits because his room is messy but comfy =] and cuddling afterwords makes it more fun!
Anneka
2010-07-05T21:16:09.000Z
I agree with most of these but some of them sound like you're just trying to scare girls into thinking that if you have PROTECTED sex you're going to become pregnant. Now, while this does happen, it's not very likely to occur. I'm not saying don't have sex, but don't be so terrified that you don't want to try it because you don't want to become a lonely teenage mother. Just remember to be smart when you have sex and use proper protection. Anyways, great post all in all. :)
Lyzzie
2010-11-21T13:45:45.000Z
I liked this but it seemed a little pushy. But I know that I was 16 when I lost my virginity and was totally prepared for any consequences. I didn't use birth control pills because I knew that if I didn't wanna be pregnant all I had to do was just not have sex. I don't need a pill to mess up my stuff to prevent a natural occurrence that's my own fault. I also did my own research on sex so I knew what I was doing and knew what to expect. idk why everyone tells teens motto have sex, it's when we're our horniest and one little playful night isn't going to ruin u if it's done right =] lol that's bad to say but it's true...