How can I tell if I'm really ready to lose my virginity?

It's a mix of emotional and physical readiness. If you feel comfortable and confident with your partner, and you're making the decision for yourself (not because of pressure), it might be a sign you're ready.

Is there a 'right' age to lose your virginity?

There's no magic number! What matters most is your comfort, consent, and readiness. Everyone's timeline is different.

What if I regret losing my virginity?

It's natural to have mixed feelings. Reflect on your reasons and feelings. Talking with someone you trust, like a friend or counselor, can help process those emotions.

I'm nervous about losing my virginity. Is that normal?

Absolutely! It's a big step, and feeling anxious or unsure is completely normal. Take your time and make sure you're making the choice for yourself.

What if I don't ever want to lose my virginity?

That's perfectly okay, too! Your choices about your body and sexuality are yours to make, and there's no right or wrong decision. Do what's best for you.

From time to time, I do some posts on sex. Some of you have a hissy with me and go way against what I say, but that is perfectly fine. I was a teenager once before too, but I never chose to give it up to anyone, except for my husband and I will tell you that I was not married when I lost my virginity to him, so I don’t really believe that it’s an absolute must to be married before you lose your virginity. However, I do believe that you should make sure you are ready and do not rush into things, because this is one thing that cannot be undone. Below, I am going to give you 7 ways to tell you are ready to lose your virginity…

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7. What about the Finances?

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Is he or she financially secure and can pay rent on housing? Guys, would you be able to support her if you had to? Can you keep the relationship during the quest to become financially secure? Now, i’m not saying that you can only sleep with someone that is rich, but if push comes to shove and something happens, then the two of you should have finances to take care of it. I know many of you are going to complain about this, but it is fine. It’s a cold world out there and money does not grow on trees. You’d be very immature to sleep with someone when you don’t even have money to support yourself.

6. Could You See Yourself Spending a Future with This Person?

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If you cannot see yourself spending a future with this person, then obviously, you are not ready to give yourself to them and that is just your hormones speaking. When you are ready, you will see that person in your future. I’m not saying that they will actually be in your future or you have to make plans to get married, but obviously, you shouldn’t sleep with someone that you plan on breaking up with.

5. When You do Not Feel Pressured to do It

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When you do not feel pressured to do it just because everyone else is doing it – that’s a sign. When you no longer base your opinions on something because it is everyone else’s opinion. It’s your own ballgame out there. Now that you’re thinking for yourself and not feeling pressured and have decided that you want to lose your virginity, then that’s a sign.

4. Do You Want to Wake up at Odd Hours of the Night?

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I know, when there is sex, there is consequences. I’m not saying to remain a virgin forever, but do not have sex until you are ready to wake up at odd hours of the night to take care of a baby. Even with protection, you will face these consequences. Gripe at me all you want, but it’s the truth.

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3. You Are in a Loving Relationship

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Are you in a loving relationship with someone that you feel really close with? Do you feel that you can take on anything ahead of you? Then you are ready.

2. Plan It!

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No, I’m not saying plan to do it on Saturday at noon. I mean to get everything ready – the contraceptives, lubricants and all of that. Think about the type of music you want to listen to during it. After you go through all of this, if you get all excited, then you’re ready! If you feel scared, then you’re not ready.

1. You Just Feel It

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With me, things just happened. I didn’t plan on it, I didn’t read blogs on if I was ready – it just happened. Do I regret it? Nope, I don’t regret it. You can never be sure that you are 100 percent ready to lose your virginity until you are in the situation. If you get yourself in the situation and you feel you are not ready, then don’t be afraid to speak up and stop.

Those are 7 ways to tell you are ready to lose your virginity. It is such a complicated thing when you’re looking for signs, but they’re there. If you feel scared about sex, then you’re not ready. Sex is a very powerful thing and it’s very natural. So, what do you think?

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Alana
2011-01-13T21:07:50.000Z
I have a problem. I have know this guy for four or five months and we are totaly into eachother. He told me he liked me a couple weeks ago. I have liked him sence i met him which is the same with him. I tried asking him out but he dont answer he just tells me "i'll tell you tomarrow. Plus he always wants to "sext" me and asks if i would do other things with him and i dont know if im ready? So could someone help me with both my problem. I would be so greatly appreciated, thank you
SuperShy...
2011-03-29T15:31:19.000Z
Hiya guys.. I am really stuck in between two lads at the moment and was wondering could anyone help me.. One of them is my ex and lately he treats me like shite and only texts me when he's around and wants to meet up.. Even though i think i am still in love with him cause when we were going out he was so kind to me and wanted to meet up all the time. He did everything he could do for me. He bought me a heap a stuff for nothing. Like he was my first at everything (But not sex i am still a virgin)! Anything i wanted he got for me. I still do really like him but just am so confused about what to do. The other fella is really nice to me and treats me like i am the only i am the girl for him but we havnt met up in awhile cause my brother found out about us and they are good mates, but we are still texting and he always goes on about how he wants something serious to come out of this and of course i'd love something to happen between us but the thing is my family see i am 16 and i'm the youngest and this fella is 19 and used to be good friends with my brother they were like inseparable. Will someone please help me really don't know what i'm going to do.. Thanks..
Anneka
2010-07-05T21:16:09.000Z
I agree with most of these but some of them sound like you're just trying to scare girls into thinking that if you have PROTECTED sex you're going to become pregnant. Now, while this does happen, it's not very likely to occur. I'm not saying don't have sex, but don't be so terrified that you don't want to try it because you don't want to become a lonely teenage mother. Just remember to be smart when you have sex and use proper protection. Anyways, great post all in all. :)
Elihaika
2015-04-15T06:32:15.087Z
I am a 20 years old african girl.i am still a virgin..me n.my boyfriend have been trying to have sex for about couple of months now but thngs didnt went well ..i remmbr bleeding n pain .that i couldnt tolerate ...but too bad the dick ddnt get in still. Tried fingerz but still aint working..i got so nervous..but what i learned lately is that..losing virginity is about being ready physically and emotionally to let someone in.ts best if you love that person nad that person loves you back.Dnt do t f you feel pressured by the guy or your friends..i realy love my guy and he supported me all the time and he wasnt forcing me to do anythng ,he just told me to take all the time i need to get ready .And about pain .not all girls experience pain plus even if t will be abit painful t will be just fo a short time and worthy it
Lyzzie
2010-11-21T13:45:45.000Z
I liked this but it seemed a little pushy. But I know that I was 16 when I lost my virginity and was totally prepared for any consequences. I didn't use birth control pills because I knew that if I didn't wanna be pregnant all I had to do was just not have sex. I don't need a pill to mess up my stuff to prevent a natural occurrence that's my own fault. I also did my own research on sex so I knew what I was doing and knew what to expect. idk why everyone tells teens motto have sex, it's when we're our horniest and one little playful night isn't going to ruin u if it's done right =] lol that's bad to say but it's true...