How do you know if a guy is interested in you? Just because he hasn’t said those three little words doesn’t mean he isn’t crazy about you, but how can you tell without risking embarrassment of asking? Here are my telltale signs he likes you...
You catch him looking at you, whatever you are doing.
He always seems to be around when you're in the same room. He looks at you with a certain intensity in his eyes, like he's trying to figure out what you're thinking. He often smiles when you make eye contact, and he always seems to be interested in what you have to say. He may even blush when you talk to him. He may try to make physical contact with you, like brushing past you or touching your arm when he's talking to you.
He may also try to find ways to be around you, like asking to hang out with you or joining the same activities you do. He may even try to get your attention by doing things like complimenting you or making small jokes. He may also try to find out more about you by asking questions or talking about your interests.
When you're not around, he may ask your friends or family about you, or he may bring up topics that you've discussed in the past. He may also try to keep up with you on social media. He may even try to find out more about you by doing things like searching for your name online or looking you up on social media.
You catch a glimpse of hurt when you talk to him about a hot man you met last night, or Brad Pitt. Double score if he then talks about a hot woman.
He calls and texts you even when he is out with his friends. You know he’ll be getting grief for this, so it’s a sure sign that he likes you.
He's not just checking in because he has some spare time; rather, it's an italicundeniable itchitalic to hear your voice or see your name pop up in his messages. Despite the playful teasing from his peers, he boldboldprioritizesbold making that connection with you. Chatting to you while he is amidst his social circle is his way of saying you're occupying his thoughts, and you're important enough to weave into every part of his day. Your presence is a comfort, and he wants to make sure you feel included, even when you're miles apart.
He talks about festivals or gigs he wants to go too, and waits for you to say you’ll go with him. Double points if he actually invites you, especially if they are later on in the year. Making plans with you is a big hint.
He knows your birthday, and where you live, off the top of his head. Double points if he knows your dress size.
He texts you randomly. Messages that have no purpose show that he is thinking about you, which is always a good sign.
When he sends those little, seemingly insignificant messages, it might just be a casual way to keep the conversation going, but it's also a hint that you're on his mind even when there's no pressing issue to talk about. It's the digital equivalent of a gentle nudge or a warm smile across the room—a subtle yet clear signal that he values your connection. Whether it's a meme that he thinks will make you laugh or a simple "how's your day?"—these small gestures indicate he cares enough to make an effort throughout his day to reach out.
He listens to your compliments. Maybe he wears the shirt you like more, or he left his hair longer because you like it better like that?
He's not just nodding along; his focus is on you. When you share stories or opinions, you might catch him leaning in, a subtle sign of his interest. His response is more than just a polite acknowledgment—he asks follow-up questions, relates your experiences to his own, and remembers those small details you mentioned in passing. It's as if he's bookmarking parts of your conversations, eager to continue where you left off. This attentive behavior is his way of showing he values your thoughts and enjoys being your confidant.
He doesn’t notice when pretty girls walk past. While this doesn’t tend to last, it’s a good sign for now.
When you go out, he pays an interest in where, whose going and what you’ll be wearing. He might try and make himself sound bored, but really he’s seeing if you’ll be dressing up for (hot) Tom from Marketing.
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He understands your mood swings, and doesn’t hold them against you. Double marks if he brings you a hot water bottle, or chocolate.
He remembers your friend’s names, and tries to remember all the gossip you share with him.
He buys you flowers, or a coffee, or anything, just because.
Sometimes it isn't about a special occasion or a grand gesture. It's the little things that sparkle through the routine of daily life – when he picks up your favorite snack on the way to see you, or texts you a song that reminds him of you. These are the moments that signal something deeper; a thoughtfulness and an intuitive understanding of what brings a smile to your face. It's him being tuned in to the subtle details that make you unique, and that's a sweet sign he's truly into you.
He buys you a birthday present that you actually like, not just the default maltesers.
He compliments you.
When a guy is into you, he'll often find ways to compliment you, whether it's about your appearance, your intelligence, or your sense of humor. It’s his subtle way of showing that he appreciates you and pays attention to the details that make you unique. Note the sincerity in his voice; genuine compliments come from someone who truly values your qualities. And if his words make you feel special and seen, it's a signal that he’s not just being polite—he's interested.
He’s not afraid to touch you. Whether it’s a cuddle when you’re feeling down, or just touching your hand or arms while you’re talking, he’s showing you a big sign.
Physical contact is a way many express affection and connection. If he's seeking opportunities to be close to you, brushing against you in passing, or playfully poking you as part of a joke, his body language is speaking volumes. This tactile behavior indicates comfort and a desire to be nearer to you. It’s as though each touch is a wordless communication saying, “I want to be close to you,” and it can be a very telling sign of his growing interest and attraction.
He cancels his plans for you. Arranging after work drinks? Suddenly his meetings been rescheduled, and he’s there by your side.
He is willing to do girly things with you. Double points if you can make him sit through Sex in the City.
He talks about his family. Men are fierce protectors, and he’s exposing himself to you.
When a man starts sharing details about his loved ones, it signifies a deep level of trust. He considers you important enough to let you into his personal circle, showing that you occupy a special place in his heart. By telling you about his parents, siblings, or even the quirkiness of his family traditions, he's bridging the gap between acquaintance and confidante. Be attentive and acknowledge this; it's his subtle way of saying you mean more to him than just casual conversation.
He stays single, despite Gemma from Admins advances...
He stays single, despite Gemma from Admin's advances, because he values his independence and enjoys focusing on his own personal growth. He prefers spending time doing what he loves, like exploring new hobbies or hanging out with close friends. When he's ready for a relationship, he wants it to be meaningful and with someone who truly understands and compliments his lifestyle. It's not that he's not interested in dating; he just hasn't found the right connection yet. Until then, he relishes the freedom and self-discovery that come with flying solo.
He lets you borrow his stuff, like a stapler, or his meeting room, or his spare toothbrush...
So give him a mark out of 20, and see how high he scores. If it’s over 15, try some mild flirting to test the water. If it’s fewer than 10, try to include him in your life more, from talking at work to going to the pub. Spending time together will increase his chances to impress you!
Have you got a sure-fire way to tell if he’s into you? Please tell me!