So there’s this guy. You’re totally into him, but you can seem to nail him down. Does he like you? Does he LIKE like you? Or is he just playing games? Here are the best ways to know for sure:
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1. He Always Calls at the Last Minute
If he calls and asks you to go out at the last minute, then you might not have been his first choice - someone else may have cancelled on him, so now he’s asking you. Why else would he call you at six o’clock on a Friday evening and ask if you want to go out that same night? A guy who wasn’t playing games wouldn’t dare wait until the last minute to ask you out on a Friday night!
Girl, if your calls are constantly going to voicemail, it might be a sign he's not prioritizing you. It could be a game or just lack of interest. Trust your gut on this one!
Oh, there are plenty! Mixed signals, last-minute changes in plans, or being hot and cold with you. If you're feeling like he's not being straightforward, he might be playing games.
Look for inconsistent texting—like when he takes days to reply or always gives vague answers. If your text convos feel like a rollercoaster, that's a big hint!
Sometimes guys play games because they're unsure, afraid of commitment, or just don't want the same things you do. It's frustrating, but try to have an honest conversation to clear things up.
Mind games are the worst! If he's constantly making you doubt yourself or your place in his life, that's a red flag. Watch out for manipulation, like making you feel guilty or always leaving you guessing.
2. He Never Wants to Go out
Does he ask you to come over, or want to come to your place, but never wants to actually go out anywhere? Then he might be hiding. If he’s seeing another girl, then he might be afraid to run into her or her friends if you go out.
Girl, if your calls are constantly going to voicemail, it might be a sign he's not prioritizing you. It could be a game or just lack of interest. Trust your gut on this one!
Oh, there are plenty! Mixed signals, last-minute changes in plans, or being hot and cold with you. If you're feeling like he's not being straightforward, he might be playing games.
Look for inconsistent texting—like when he takes days to reply or always gives vague answers. If your text convos feel like a rollercoaster, that's a big hint!
Sometimes guys play games because they're unsure, afraid of commitment, or just don't want the same things you do. It's frustrating, but try to have an honest conversation to clear things up.
Mind games are the worst! If he's constantly making you doubt yourself or your place in his life, that's a red flag. Watch out for manipulation, like making you feel guilty or always leaving you guessing.
3. He’s Always Sending Calls to Voicemail
If he constantly sends his calls to voicemail when you’re together, or he’s getting and ignoring a lot of text messages, he might be avoiding someone - like his girlfriend.
Girl, if your calls are constantly going to voicemail, it might be a sign he's not prioritizing you. It could be a game or just lack of interest. Trust your gut on this one!
Oh, there are plenty! Mixed signals, last-minute changes in plans, or being hot and cold with you. If you're feeling like he's not being straightforward, he might be playing games.
Look for inconsistent texting—like when he takes days to reply or always gives vague answers. If your text convos feel like a rollercoaster, that's a big hint!
Sometimes guys play games because they're unsure, afraid of commitment, or just don't want the same things you do. It's frustrating, but try to have an honest conversation to clear things up.
Mind games are the worst! If he's constantly making you doubt yourself or your place in his life, that's a red flag. Watch out for manipulation, like making you feel guilty or always leaving you guessing.
4. He Doesn’t Want You to Meet His Friends
A guy who is serious about you will want to introduce you to his friends and family, and will want to meet yours.
Girl, if your calls are constantly going to voicemail, it might be a sign he's not prioritizing you. It could be a game or just lack of interest. Trust your gut on this one!
Oh, there are plenty! Mixed signals, last-minute changes in plans, or being hot and cold with you. If you're feeling like he's not being straightforward, he might be playing games.
Look for inconsistent texting—like when he takes days to reply or always gives vague answers. If your text convos feel like a rollercoaster, that's a big hint!
Sometimes guys play games because they're unsure, afraid of commitment, or just don't want the same things you do. It's frustrating, but try to have an honest conversation to clear things up.
Mind games are the worst! If he's constantly making you doubt yourself or your place in his life, that's a red flag. Watch out for manipulation, like making you feel guilty or always leaving you guessing.
If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.
5. He Doesn’t Want You to Stay
If he never wants you to stay the night, or to stay at your place overnight, he might have somewhere else, or someone else, he needs to spend the night with. Like a wife or girlfriend.
Girl, if your calls are constantly going to voicemail, it might be a sign he's not prioritizing you. It could be a game or just lack of interest. Trust your gut on this one!
Oh, there are plenty! Mixed signals, last-minute changes in plans, or being hot and cold with you. If you're feeling like he's not being straightforward, he might be playing games.
Look for inconsistent texting—like when he takes days to reply or always gives vague answers. If your text convos feel like a rollercoaster, that's a big hint!
Sometimes guys play games because they're unsure, afraid of commitment, or just don't want the same things you do. It's frustrating, but try to have an honest conversation to clear things up.
Mind games are the worst! If he's constantly making you doubt yourself or your place in his life, that's a red flag. Watch out for manipulation, like making you feel guilty or always leaving you guessing.
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6. He Freaks if You Leave Anything behind
If he does let you stay the night, but freaks out when you leave a bobby pin or an earring or a t-shirt, then he might be worried another girl will see those things. Otherwise, what guy would even notice if you left a hair pin behind?
Girl, if your calls are constantly going to voicemail, it might be a sign he's not prioritizing you. It could be a game or just lack of interest. Trust your gut on this one!
Oh, there are plenty! Mixed signals, last-minute changes in plans, or being hot and cold with you. If you're feeling like he's not being straightforward, he might be playing games.
Look for inconsistent texting—like when he takes days to reply or always gives vague answers. If your text convos feel like a rollercoaster, that's a big hint!
Sometimes guys play games because they're unsure, afraid of commitment, or just don't want the same things you do. It's frustrating, but try to have an honest conversation to clear things up.
Mind games are the worst! If he's constantly making you doubt yourself or your place in his life, that's a red flag. Watch out for manipulation, like making you feel guilty or always leaving you guessing.
7. He’s Hot and Cold
One day, he seems deeply in love, crazy about you, totally into you. The next time you see him, he’s standoffish and distant. This is a sure sign of a guy who is playing games with you.
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The inconsistency in his behavior leaves you confused and second-guessing his feelings for you. If his warmth is fleeting and his coldness all too frequent, trust your instincts. A man genuinely interested in a relationship does not subject you to emotional whiplash. He could be keeping you on the back burner, just close enough to stay interested, but never fully committed. This emotional rollercoaster is neither fair nor healthy. You deserve consistency and a partner whose affection does not wax and wane with the changing tides.
Girl, if your calls are constantly going to voicemail, it might be a sign he's not prioritizing you. It could be a game or just lack of interest. Trust your gut on this one!
Oh, there are plenty! Mixed signals, last-minute changes in plans, or being hot and cold with you. If you're feeling like he's not being straightforward, he might be playing games.
Look for inconsistent texting—like when he takes days to reply or always gives vague answers. If your text convos feel like a rollercoaster, that's a big hint!
Sometimes guys play games because they're unsure, afraid of commitment, or just don't want the same things you do. It's frustrating, but try to have an honest conversation to clear things up.
Mind games are the worst! If he's constantly making you doubt yourself or your place in his life, that's a red flag. Watch out for manipulation, like making you feel guilty or always leaving you guessing.
8. He Won’t Call You His Girlfriend
If he won’t call you his girlfriend, or introduce you as his girlfriend, then he doesn’t see you as his girlfriend. He sees you as someone he’s casually dating, or as just a friend with benefits.
Girl, if your calls are constantly going to voicemail, it might be a sign he's not prioritizing you. It could be a game or just lack of interest. Trust your gut on this one!
Oh, there are plenty! Mixed signals, last-minute changes in plans, or being hot and cold with you. If you're feeling like he's not being straightforward, he might be playing games.
Look for inconsistent texting—like when he takes days to reply or always gives vague answers. If your text convos feel like a rollercoaster, that's a big hint!
Sometimes guys play games because they're unsure, afraid of commitment, or just don't want the same things you do. It's frustrating, but try to have an honest conversation to clear things up.
Mind games are the worst! If he's constantly making you doubt yourself or your place in his life, that's a red flag. Watch out for manipulation, like making you feel guilty or always leaving you guessing.
9. He Never Talks about the Future
If you can’t pin him down on plans for the holidays or spring break or even next weekend, then he probably doesn’t see you in his life for that long. Player! Time to move on!
Girl, if your calls are constantly going to voicemail, it might be a sign he's not prioritizing you. It could be a game or just lack of interest. Trust your gut on this one!
Oh, there are plenty! Mixed signals, last-minute changes in plans, or being hot and cold with you. If you're feeling like he's not being straightforward, he might be playing games.
Look for inconsistent texting—like when he takes days to reply or always gives vague answers. If your text convos feel like a rollercoaster, that's a big hint!
Sometimes guys play games because they're unsure, afraid of commitment, or just don't want the same things you do. It's frustrating, but try to have an honest conversation to clear things up.
Mind games are the worst! If he's constantly making you doubt yourself or your place in his life, that's a red flag. Watch out for manipulation, like making you feel guilty or always leaving you guessing.
10. He Doesn’t Share
You tell him everything, your hopes and dreams, your favorite color, EVERYTHING. But he won’t tell you anything! Is he mysterious, or a game-player? You guessed it. He’s probably playing games.
So annoying, right, ladies? I hate it when guys play games! But for every guy who’s a player, there’s another guy behind him who is courteous, gorgeous, AND into you! So move on!
How can you tell when a guy is playing games? What’s your sure-fire sign? Let me know, so I can add it to my list of things to look out for! Thanks!
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Xannyyy: Thanks again for a great post Jen. Some of these signs are pretty obvious. When you meet a person and by time you learn how he is, and then after some time he changes see to it to pay attention.. For me he will have something to hide for sure! Like - He never wants to go out! And at first you're always stuck with him! Pay attention girls! Really helpful tips!!
Tavia: Great post as always Jennifer! Some of the points are really obvious ....like that one...when he doesn't want u to meet his friends.
Xannyyy: Yeah Sheila, It's one of the best features us girls have. Certain things we smell them from a distance! :)
Rachel: Yeah I agree. Guys should be honest and not be that way, leading girls on and wasting their time if they don't love them. Xanny, you have very useful tips.
Xannyyy: Vanisha, I'm with you on that!!
Rachel: I totally am experiencing number 7,8, and number 4. Totally am not into the guy because he's doing those mind games with me. I think I'm better off alone. He probably enjoys making me feel confused and like I'm not worth it. =(
played: Well now with the internet and facebook into play you know something is wrong if he blocks you from being able to comment on his page and eventually blocks you from even seeing his wall. yes it's the internet and facebook but really.. since it is "only" the internet and facebook why block these things from someone you are dating. this guy who did it, i finally put my foot. It's hard, and it hurts but I've done it for my own sanity, dignity and so that i can focus on being a complete person to be a mother to my two year old.
zennmaster: Regarding #10. I would just like to say it for the record. ZENNY DOESN'T SHARE FOOD. And no I am not playing mind games. You telling me your secret doesn't amount to you digging your fork into my cheese cake. No euphemisms there. Honest to god.
Xannyyy: Ellie, Sometimes he needs that push! Something to make him jealous, and to help him realize what you mean to him! Most of the boys are so lame at times. You need to help them for them to say, 'Heck, If I don't act fast I'm going to loose her!' Mostly if you give a guy all your attention he will take you for granted. Girls need to continue with their own lives and normal routines even if they're so madly in love, our lives shouldn't revolve around them. Buy that he has a chance to do his own things and you give him time to miss you! By making them feel so important, is worst than better!
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