By Bettina Winder
Have you ever noticed that men seem more attracted to stupid girls? You see them approaching the ditsy women with some oh-so-stupid pick-up line like, “If I told you, you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me”?
The reason these girls get hit on, is not necessarily because they are drop-dead gorgeous. No, it is because they have a distinct deer-in-headlights look in their eyes that tells the men that they are approachable, coach-able, and stupid enough to fall for their lame pick-up lines, go home with them and allow the “man” to do all the talking and make all the rules. You see, these “men” (and I use the term lightly), actually prefer stupid girls over smart girls because they get to hold all of the cards in the relationship and they can get away with a lot more shit, because their stupid girlfriend, wife, whatever, will be none the wiser to his bull-shit.
A smart girl takes work, initiative, cooperation, teamwork, and above all, takes courage to handle. Smart girls are not for whimpering cowards or men who are used to getting things handed to them on a silver platter. But in the end, the smart girls will add more to the relationship and to the intellectual and emotional growth of their partner than any stupid girl ever could. If you want a servant, a lap-dog, a trophy-wife, then by all means, “men”; pick up a stupid girl at a bar near you. If you want a soul-mate, a goddess, a teacher and a partner, then for God’s sake, have the initiative to pick a smart girl!
sorry to intrude on this blog for “woman” talk. but you gals can use a male opinion as well =P. From my experiences, Smart girls also have their own negatives side, with the tendency to be overzealous at times. the fact is “most” not all guys aren’t looking for anything that’s going to be too much of a challenge. many “smart” woman out there like to have their believe that its their way or the highway; but a relationships all about compromise so best try to balance it out a little. Remember no ones superior, keep an eye on your man but don’t strap up those combat boots. *all for smart woman!*
Coming from someone most would deem smart (researcher with over a 135 IQ), you are correct.
Men are intimidated by smart women because they can never aspire to be us. They want to dominate and destroy us because they are threatened.
Losers – all of them, and not worth the time….
Lynnie:
I have no desire to dominate and destroy you. In fact, I hope to
NEVER meet you. Ego much?
Wow do I feel sorry for you.
I agree on this for the most part. Not all men are this way, but a lot of them. I consider myself to be smart and attractive but I’m not the ditzy bleach blonde most guys prefer. I’ve come to find out that a lot of men are threatened by smart women because they prefer to have all the power and cannot do that with a smart independent woman who knows how to take care of herself. I don’t think most men are looking for a “real partner” but someone who will ahere to their greedy needs.
Yikes! “…work, initiative, cooperation, teamwork, and above all, takes courage… Damn, it’s probably safer to work with the freaking Ebola virus. No, no, no, you have it all wrong. Men like hooking up with what you call stupid women because they are precisely NOT about hard work and requiring courage. It is easy, comfortable and without pressure. The ego-fueled (Lynnie?) superiority junkies are just a complete pain in the butt. No one, male or female, who feels like their ass is so precious that it should take… how does it go… “work, initiative, cooperation, teamwork, and above all, takes courage… to “handle” them, frankly, needs help, possibly in a chemical, psychoactive form. I don’t particularly like stupid women. Stupid is not attractive. But, then, neither is the egomaniacal princess who will only deign to grace you with her company after the appropriate acts of male contrition have been performed. Come on, it’s about mutual respect and understanding. Really, it is just that simple folks. And it works both ways. The pretty boy who is so perfect, bright and desirable that he exacts a ‘price of admission’ is “pretty” to the woman who truly understands the simplicity of the formula only in the sense of being “pretty” annoying.
Let me sum it up for you. Stupid girls are fun and have the ability to shut up, smart girls are not only mostly fat and ugly they also go on sanctimonious tirades every time you’re trying to make a joke. You smart girls are annoying and ugly, stupid females are cute and worthwhile to have around. The denial in this thread is apparent, and the author feels jealous over the fact that she does not get male attention. All I can recommend is learning the ability known as “Shut Up” and fake tits. It might work out.
Wow, Khalil, you sure are one sexist bastard. It takes someone quite close-minded to not only say but believe the bullshit you are pushing there buddy. What kind of simple-minded fool thinks that all smart women are “fat” and “ugly”. No wonder you enjoy women that “have the ability to shut up” because anyone with a brain stem would never let you open your mouth.
Wow, ya know, I never thought eugenics sounded like a good idea. However, Khalil’s lack of intelligence provides some excellent support for the practice.
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i would die for a smart chick not a bossy chick who thinks thats shes smart but some one that would skool me
Maybe these guys are not looking for long term romance. Oh by the way, the girl in the photo……..Hottie!!!!!
Look, as everyone says the door swings both ways. I love smart women who are “nice” and “open minded” but mean spiteful intelligent women are just as bad as those pretty yet shallow bimbo barbies you have mentioned.
Noone likes to argue and everyone feels ackward when they are under the scrutiny of an impossible expectations check list. It is usually the “intelligent women” you are praising which have these very same lofty standards.
So yeah, I feel intimidated by all that and no, I’m not going to exhaust all my energy and resources to temporarilly impress Miss Haughty Pants.
Lastly just because a woman chooses to be flirtatous and looks a certain way does not mean she is “stupid”. Perhaps she is simply more comfortable with her sexuality.
This really isn’t a gender issue at all. Stupid guys have more luck with stupid women and stupid women have more luck with stupid guys. Furthermore, as much as women might like to think they are more noble in their selection of a mate, it’s still a mater of like attracts like. A smart pretty women expects to find a smart handsome man, not a smart ugly one. In the old days, we all came to know our own ‘pulling power’ from experience. Today, we tend to have completely unrealistic media fuelled ideas of the type of partner we can attract.
As for the Bambi image the author evokes, yes, that’s attractive to guys, but only because they think it will be easier to get into her pants – I don’t think they’re thinking as far as a relationship at that point.
blah blah same old same old- dumb women go for losers/jerks, and men in general go for whores- bossy women go for wussey guys so they can control them. it’s never gonna change because humans are stupid.
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The issue here is simply statistics. It has nothing to do with being “intimidated” and everything to do with the fact that the pool of women who are a) Intelligent, b) Sexually attractive, c) Available is incredibly, incredibly small.
Say you like women in the top 10% of the population for intelligence, and you’d like a girl who’s in the top 25% of the population for attractiveness. Already, right there, you’ve reduced yourself to 2.5% of the overall population. How many of those women have boyfriends or husbands already?
I would be shocked if more than 1% of women meet all three of the above criteria simultaneously.
Well, guys do like women who they can control and feel superior to. I was seeing this guy and I thought we were right for each other, intellectually and in every way. One day he told me I was above average and it made me feel appreciated. Little did I know that it was the relationship’s downfall. He just could not handle my independence, professional success and my knowlegde. He left me and paired up with guess who???
This blog is ironic. It’s an indirect attack on men, by directly attacking women. I, for one, think the reason that men like those types of women isn’t simply because they’re stupid. It’s because they’re not a big hassle when someone’s looking for a fling.
If “smart” women means being bitchy and critical all the time … who the hell would want that? Seriously, where do I sign up? Do you want a bitchy and critical man? I hope not.
Oh yea, and if there’s a smart girl out there who isn’t bitchy and critical, no man would have a problem with her. Ever. But that girl is the exception, and not the rule. If there’s a smart girl out there who is carefree (like a lot of guys are), then that’s awesome. I’d even argue that she’s relationship material.
Otherwise, single guys are naturally attracted to (and SHOULD be attracted to) the carefree, happy-go-lucky kind of woman, whether she be a ditz or not.
There is too much of a generalization thing going on here. Men don’t always go for stupid women. Like Andrew said, it’s easier to go for “stupid women” when all they want is a fling. I would totally go for a dumb looking gorgeous guy if all I wanted was a fling! Hell yes. As for a relationship, anybody would want someone easy going. And smart women are not just about the control or the initiative. Of course they’re intimidating a lot of times but they can be fun too! So yeah I guess it all comes down to what you’re looking for. There’s nothing wrong in picking a stupid woman when you’re not looking for anything deep. And there’s nothing wrong with not picking a smart stuckup woman….
I see this still rages on after many months. Honestly I forgot all about it but was notified of new activity. Let me clear some things up.
Men are not intimidated by smart women. Personally I love it when a woman can talk deeply with me about geek topics I enjoy. There’s something sexy about the witty nerd female who can hold a coherent conversation without bringing up the mall, money, or expensive jewelery.
Men ARE put off by overly opinionated, snooty, and materialistic females. I’m sorry but that is how this blog/article comes off and it is all based on snap assumptions.
You assume pretty females cannot be smart. You assume men like dumb women. You assume a woman who pursues sex is easy thus she is shallow.
What about intelligent women who are open about their sexuality? What about beautiful women who are also bright? Those variations exist in our world.
Methinks it is time you broadened your horizons and freed your mind. The only one oppressing you is YOU.
True, men look for stupid girls at bars but thats not the reason smart girls are alone. Smart girls are alone because they are annoying. simple and short. All that talk of rfeminism and how guys aretterrible, how d you think it can make a person feel? No one wants to be around that, so therefore your alone. This little article proves it. overly presumption,genaral, no real substance or depth in the mehods of courting… the reason u think our not approuched is because your smart? How do you think we know your smart, because your IGQ is written on your forehead? Your not aprouched because your not approuchable or all who approuh u are quickly cut down. thisof course discourages all others if your in a bar by yourself for an hour and there are a bunch of guys who aren’t paying attention to you.
ALso, i dont understand this whole idea of ” female independance”. To be independant is to functino by yourself. If i’m in a relationship and i could be by myself, then i’m not in a relationship. people want to be depended on. thats human nature. if u dont depend on your partner on a depper level in a relationship then there is something wrong or your still holding back. that means you have trust issues.
Last of all, a teacher? no one wants acouah for a partner, everyone wants a PARTNER!!. If you go into a relationship trying ot teach a guy then you already assume that your above them. Thats something you preach againts but your trying to do the SAMEW THING!! come one, your smarter than that :)
Girl you are so right. Just the other day, I had this guy come up to me (using a lame pick-up line) and I was totally offended. Lol, and good use of the “men” term.