Why “Men” Prefer Stupid Girls
By Bettina Winder
Have you ever noticed that men seem more attracted to stupid girls? You see them approaching the ditsy women with some oh-so-stupid pick-up line like, “If I told you, you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me”?
The reason these girls get hit on, is not necessarily because they are drop-dead gorgeous. No, it is because they have a distinct deer-in-headlights look in their eyes that tells the men that they are approachable, coach-able, and stupid enough to fall for their lame pick-up lines, go home with them and allow the “man” to do all the talking and make all the rules. You see, these “men” (and I use the term lightly), actually prefer stupid girls over smart girls because they get to hold all of the cards in the relationship and they can get away with a lot more shit, because their stupid girlfriend, wife, whatever, will be none the wiser to his bull-shit.
A smart girl takes work, initiative, cooperation, teamwork, and above all, takes courage to handle. Smart girls are not for whimpering cowards or men who are used to getting things handed to them on a silver platter. But in the end, the smart girls will add more to the relationship and to the intellectual and emotional growth of their partner than any stupid girl ever could. If you want a servant, a lap-dog, a trophy-wife, then by all means, “men”; pick up a stupid girl at a bar near you. If you want a soul-mate, a goddess, a teacher and a partner, then for God’s sake, have the initiative to pick a smart girl!
Men are not intimidated by smart women. ... See more Personally I love it when a woman can talk deeply with me about geek topics I enjoy. There’s something sexy about the witty nerd female who can hold a coherent conversation without bringing up the mall, money, or expensive jewelery.
Men ARE put off by overly opinionated, snooty, and materialistic females. I’m sorry but that is how this blog/article comes off and it is all based on snap assumptions.
You assume pretty females cannot be smart. You assume men like dumb women. You assume a woman who pursues sex is easy thus she is shallow.
What about intelligent women who are open about their sexuality? What about beautiful women who are also bright? Those variations exist in our world.
Methinks it is time you broadened your horizons and freed your mind. The only one oppressing you is YOU.
I feel that going for intelligent females is harder to come across though. What percent of females in my generation (late teens) know of how the American system ... See more is set up, police brutality, history, culture, or even how record labels work their artists? No female I’ve dated has cared about anything in this world besides materialistic things and drama.
What is presented to them is what they care about and BELIEVE IN. They don’t think for themselves they just go with society, try to be different, and end up fitting in like a missing cog in a machine. In THEE machine. As for dating, sometimes you got those girls who, if you make one wrong move, they blame it on you. And yet they won’t tell you until it is too late. They lack communication, but instead create drama and gossip. They play games like children and make you guess the answers. If you don’t guess, if you don’t submit– they break up with you. I know it isn’t necessarily the girl’s job to approach a guy and lead, but with their way of dating, it is a mere game. The unintelligent ones can’t go two weeks without latching on to another guy because they fear commitment issues. This is why so many of them gossip about their boyfriends.
As for us guys, many of us only care about who is hot. Seriously girls, this is coming from a guy. If you aren’t hot to us, we probably won’t date you. We don’t care if they are stupid. You see a guy date a really really dumb girl, who is hot, he is just being nice to her to get with her in bed.
But I honestly don’t see how us guys can tolerate that. I’ve tried it before and ended up breaking up with them. I just don’t see how a guy can date an unintelligent girl, or a damn annoying one at that. It pisses me off that girls act that way, same with my fellow guys.
Again, thank you. What you have to say is quite different from many comments here. It’s really great to hear that a guy wants to date someone smart but there just seems to be a lack of supply.
I know several intelligent and attractive girls who have found themselves with complete idiots who don’t even compensate with looks or a personality to speak of: I’ve scratched my head about it a few times and came to the conclusion that its much easier to let go of them when the right time comes, but at the same time they are able appreciate the freedom to ‘play around’ knowing that regardless, the man will persist to be there because less intelligent men (and perhaps women) tend to dote more on their partners.
I’d call myself fairly intelligent and charismatic guy, but in no way am I ever coming home to a girlfriend or wife that simply cannot comprehend what I’m doing to earn us or the family the weekly bread and equally it would surely be torture for her if I couldn’t explain why I was late aside from ‘trouble at the lab’.
I couldn’t see myself without a sharp, witty lady, but perhaps then I’m one of the few that do.
I tend to be a right brainer when in social environment although I tend to be successful in real life but I don’t take myself too seriously in life. When I am socializing men tend to be attracted to me because I am spontaneous, smiley and friendly to people. But when we start having a ‘normal’ (which I call an approach) conversation where we discuss simple things like work, life, etc I am being told I am a clever women and it feels like they see it as a threat. There is just something off-putting to most men about a women who knows what she wants and is successful at work.
Not all men are like this and most of the ones I would have a relationship with value my intelligence and my determination in life. But then again the gender roles change and I become the ‘man’ in the relationship and the man being the ‘woman’, i.e. moody, sensitive, reliant, etc (stereotyped women). Although I instinctively like being the woman…
That leaves women in my generation with not much option and I’m not sure whether that’s just our generation (I’m thirty) and whether the next one will be able to overcome this problem?
The truth is, while literal IQ can be a factor, what im sure the author and most of ... See more the women on this blog mean isn’t how smart a woman actually is, but how she carries herself.
We are trained from a young age to have gender roles. Women are suppose to be fair, dainty creatures, and men are suppose to be strong, capable providers. This is something ingrained into us from the cavemen years. Deny as you might, its a biological fact that big, doe eyes and a warm smile WILL attract a man faster than firing random trivia will.
But people have to realize that this is no longer the 50s. Women can be strong, capable, and provide just as much as man could. We no longer have to strap on our 5 inch stilettos, hike up our skirts, and prance about while giggiling childishly, just to ensure a marriage and a mate.
While this is the case, this doesn’t change the fact that instinctive drives motivate men to pursue the same qualities that they’ve been attracted to for thousands of years.
While most of us ‘smarter’ women find the empty doe-eyed look to be a sign of stupidity, it is a trait in ALL of us that we use to attract a man. It goes back to our childhood years, when we gave the same look to our parents to send their paternal instincts into overdrive. There is alot of chemical and psychological factors behind the ‘doe eye’ look that I will not get into.
But then, this raises the question as to why men still go for the considerably ‘dumber’ women. If we all use the same methods to attract a man (whether we realize it or not), why is it some women prevail over others? And why do those women who prevail, seem unintelligent?
Its because they go the extra mile. That annoying pink lip gloss? It enhances perpetual youth. The stupid giggle? A dainty voice lowers the man’s defenses, so he feels less afraid of going to talk to her, and more attracted to her. Why is she ALWAYS touching his hand, his shoulder, pressing herself against him, etc? Because this signals to him that she WANTS his attention, and company, or to hold her, or touch her back.
So are women who prefer not to look like idiots (in each others eyes at least), hopeless? Not at all! Infact, you can do all these things and STILL attract a man, while preserving your dignity.
Simulating youth is possible by wearing your hair down often, or dying it darker, maybe making it curly (if possible), because all these things are reminiscent to a young child. Want to make him more comfortable with you? Smile! The world isn’t out to get you, and there are plenty of men out there waiting for you! But if you’re frowning and skulking while drinking at the bar, guys will be put off by you. You can even make moves on him without looking like a slut, simply by touching his hand or shoulder on occasion, which is JUST as effective as that blonde shoving her boobs up into his arm except you have the advantage of coming off as wanting a relationship, rather than a one night stand.
What we have to remember is that all these things, the flirting and acting out, they are only the initiating events. You dont build a relationship on bleaching your hair or wearing short shorts and tripping over yourself. Those will get you attention, but if you want a relationship, there has to be something behind it.
In other words, we all have something to learn from eachother- those ditsy girls could learn a few things from our intelligence, and we could pick up some flirting tips from them!