‘Black jealousy’ is a term that we’ve all heard before. But what if it’s just a mild case of jealousy?
This column from MsCyphrah Newsvine answers a question about the dilemma of a woman whose boyfriend never seems to get jealous. Even when she spends time with some of her male friends, her boyfriend does not seem to mind, making the girl feel as if he does not really love her.
Here’s part of what Ms. Cyprah had to say:
…jealousy is not a positive quality in a relationship. It is a very negative one that lies at the heart of control and signals a lack of respect. He is actually treating you with respect, by appreciating your friends. He knows he loves you and that you love him, and does not feel he has to ‘prove’ anything, but you would like him to prove it by showing how jealous he is of you.
Way to go, Ms. Cyprah! I thinks that she hit the nail in the head with this advice. Jealousy is a negative emotion which shows how insecure a person is about herself. It’s a good thing that the boyfriend of the girl who wrote the letter never gets jealous.
I guess her case is the other spectrum of women who have extremely jealous boyfriends that they do not want them to spend any time at all with other members of the male species.
My own piece of advice for that letter sender is: be thankful that you have such an understanding boyfriend. His lack of jealousy just shows how secure he is of himself and how much he trusts you – knowing that you will not betray him while you’re spending time with your other male friends.
Shed that insecurity, girl, it’s just a waste of your precious time!
I think that sometimes women like to use jealousy as a weapon to get attention from their partners…if he doesn’t give you the quality time you crave then you think making him jealous will do the trick!!!
I wished my husband was jealous and then I found out he was gay after 22 years of marriage…no wonder!
As a male I am uncertain I agree with this advice. The reason I don’t get jealous of my girlfriends is because I know I can always get another girlfriend.
Is a matter of fact, I sometimes will promote my girlfriend to be friends with other men in hopes that something develops so I can move onto another relationship.
Most of us would prefer to experience as many women as possible, and we don’t want to hurt any of you, we just want to make certain we have experienced many relationships before we decide who we want as a permanent mate. Thus the reason many of us have problems settling down… we are always looking for something just a little better or different.
Try to look your best, us males are very visually stimulated, but remember, the The most important thing to make us want to stay with you… be as feminine as possible. Its all in your attitude, be sexy and vulnerable and most of all FUN to be around!
MT,
“The reason I don’t get jealous of my girlfriends is because I know I can always get another girlfriend. ”
“I sometimes will promote my girlfriend to be friends with other men in hopes that something develops so I can move onto another relationship.”
Umm wow! You sound so full of yourself, you leave me speechless.