So there’s this guy. You’re totally into him, but you can seem to nail him down. Does he like you? Does he LIKE like you? Or is he just playing games? Here are the best ways to know for sure:
Snapshot Survey
1. He Always Calls at the Last Minute
If he calls and asks you to go out at the last minute, then you might not have been his first choice — someone else may have cancelled on him, so now he’s asking you. Why else would he call you at six o’clock on a Friday evening and ask if you want to go out that same night? A guy who wasn’t playing games wouldn’t dare wait until the last minute to ask you out on a Friday night!
2. He Never Wants to Go out
Does he ask you to come over, or want to come to your place, but never wants to actually go out anywhere? Then he might be hiding. If he’s seeing another girl, then he might be afraid to run into her or her friends if you go out.
3. He’s Always Sending Calls to Voicemail
If he constantly sends his calls to voicemail when you’re together, or he’s getting and ignoring a lot of text messages, he might be avoiding someone — like his girlfriend.
4. He Doesn’t Want You to Meet His Friends
A guy who is serious about you will want to introduce you to his friends and family, and will want to meet yours.
5. He Doesn’t Want You to Stay
If he never wants you to stay the night, or to stay at your place overnight, he might have somewhere else, or someone else, he needs to spend the night with. Like a wife or girlfriend.
6. He Freaks if You Leave Anything behind
If he does let you stay the night, but freaks out when you leave a bobby pin or an earring or a t-shirt, then he might be worried another girl will see those things. Otherwise, what guy would even notice if you left a hair pin behind?
7. He’s Hot and Cold
One day, he seems deeply in love, crazy about you, totally into you. The next time you see him, he’s standoffish and distant. This is a sure sign of a guy who is playing games with you.
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The inconsistency in his behavior leaves you confused and second-guessing his feelings for you. If his warmth is fleeting and his coldness all too frequent, trust your instincts. A man genuinely interested in a relationship does not subject you to emotional whiplash. He could be keeping you on the back burner, just close enough to stay interested, but never fully committed. This emotional rollercoaster is neither fair nor healthy. You deserve consistency and a partner whose affection does not wax and wane with the changing tides.
8. He Won’t Call You His Girlfriend
If he won’t call you his girlfriend, or introduce you as his girlfriend, then he doesn’t see you as his girlfriend. He sees you as someone he’s casually dating, or as just a friend with benefits.
9. He Never Talks about the Future
If you can’t pin him down on plans for the holidays or spring break or even next weekend, then he probably doesn’t see you in his life for that long. Player! Time to move on!
10. He Doesn’t Share
You tell him everything, your hopes and dreams, your favorite color, EVERYTHING. But he won’t tell you anything! Is he mysterious, or a game-player? You guessed it. He’s probably playing games.
So annoying, right, ladies? I hate it when guys play games! But for every guy who’s a player, there’s another guy behind him who is courteous, gorgeous, AND into you! So move on!
How can you tell when a guy is playing games? What’s your sure-fire sign? Let me know, so I can add it to my list of things to look out for! Thanks!
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