I don't totally agree with the above comments. Although I understand the left-brain and right brain dichotomy and preference some might have I don't think it is that simple. I also don't believe we can simply play 'stupid' or simulating youth. I tend to be a right brainer when in social environment although I tend to be successful in real life but I don't take myself too seriously in life. When I am socializing men tend to be attracted to me because I am spontaneous, smiley and friendly to people. But when we start having a 'normal' (which I call an approach) conversation where we discuss simple things like work, life, etc I am being told I am a clever women and it feels like they see it as a threat. There is just something off-putting to most men about a women who knows what she wants and is successful at work. Not all men are like this and most of the ones I would have a relationship with value my intelligence and my determination in life. But then again the gender roles change and I become the 'man' in the relationship and the man being the 'woman', i.e. moody, sensitive, reliant, etc (stereotyped women). Although I instinctively like being the woman... That leaves women in my generation with not much option and I'm not sure whether that's just our generation (I'm thirty) and whether the next one will be able to overcome this problem?

The issue here is simply statistics. It has nothing to do with being "intimidated" and everything to do with the fact that the pool of women who are a) Intelligent, b) Sexually attractive, c) Available is incredibly, incredibly small. Say you like women in the top 10% of the population for intelligence, and you'd like a girl who's in the top 25% of the population for attractiveness. Already, right there, you've reduced yourself to 2.5% of the overall population. How many of those women have boyfriends or husbands already? I would be shocked if more than 1% of women meet all three of the above criteria simultaneously.

I agree on this for the most part. Not all men are this way, but a lot of them. I consider myself to be smart and attractive but I'm not the ditzy bleach blonde most guys prefer. I've come to find out that a lot of men are threatened by smart women because they prefer to have all the power and cannot do that with a smart independent woman who knows how to take care of herself. I don't think most men are looking for a "real partner" but someone who will ahere to their greedy needs.

Any woman of at least average looks can go into a bar on any night of the week and find someone to go home with. I've even seen some beastly looking women somehow manage to get picked up. If you're one of the ones who goes out night after night and are still sitting there when the bartender calls for last orders and can't figure out why, then maybe you should look inside yourself for a reason why men don't want to approach you instead of putting the blame on them.

Maybe these guys are not looking for long term romance. Oh by the way, the girl in the photo........Hottie!!!!!

I don't believe I've met a truely "stupid" girl. I've met plenty of girls that have different areas of intelligence, areas that others may feel are worthless, but none that were truely stupid. However, I have met women that were "smart". I mean really smart! Some have been Snobs, some have been Unutractive, some have been "Havygirls" and some have been "HOT"! Bits and pieces of everones posts seem to have some truth to it but a lot of them have jaded elements. Maybe some are having trouble seeing the world through the fog of their own pain. It is my belief that men and women are very similar when it comes to looking for a human connection. When people are in bars or clubs they are looking to have a good time. If the girl looks like fun and is smiling and socializing she will be popular with the guys. Whether or not she is smart, stupid, physically attractive or not. If she looks like a prude, is frowning and engaging in boring debates. She's going to have a lot of alone time. Personally, I don't care if a woman is attractive or not, heavy or thin, large breasted or small. The most important thing is, is she going to help me have fun and enjoy life right now? Don't get me wrong, There are certain physical attributes I find particulary appealing but they have never been deal breakers. A frown or bad attitude are deal breakers everytime. Smart or stupid, pretty or ugly, Male or Female, the way to get attention is to smile, be friendly and be fun!

I came to this site last night because I was wondering why I seem to be attracted the most to so called 'stupid' women. It is quite strange because logically speaking, I shouldn't be. I'm a computer programmer with an IQ that equals that of Lynie's. I've grown up around strong women. My mother is a strong and intelligent woman (IQ 160) who was married to my father, a man of average intellect until the day he died. My sister is also a strong, independent, intelligent woman. Not being able to find any significant answers here, I decided to discuss the matter with my sister. Here was what we came up with: It is in reality a matter of how we are defining stupid. While the underlying theory is dubious, I think it would be useful to perhaps analyze the situation terms of left brain vs right brain personality types. Left brain dominant types are primarily analytical and logical. They trust evidence and analysis over emotion, and tend to be very well organized and prefer structure and planning. Right brain types, on the other hand, tend to be more creative and intuitive. They tend not to plan things and be much more open and spontaneous than the left brainers. Most people tend to be a mix of the two to varying degrees. To my surprise, in spite of my career, I'm actually split right in the middle between the two types, with the occasional test actually showing me as predominantly 'right brained'. Western society tends to value so called 'left brained' qualities as 'intelligent.' Right brained qualities aren't as directly useful in a high technological and technocratic society, and as such highly right brained people can easily be mistaken for 'dumb.' This view I would suspect is especially predominant among individuals who are highly 'left brained' because they use a totally different cognitive apparatus for making decisions and analyzing information than the 'right brained' types of people. The problem, though, is that right brained people have the advantage in attracting partners. People tend to be attracted to outgoing, confident, and energetic people. Left brained people tend to be reserved and can come off as bland and passionless, even if they really aren't. Right brained people are also better at divining people's emotions. They are thus more socially adept and tend to be more sensitive partners. At the same time, though, they are no less lacking in passion, drive, and independent desires than their so called 'smart' left brained counterparts. What my sister and I determined is that I am, nor have I ever been, attracted to 'stupid' women. Truly dumb women, though they can be fun, are usually boring or shallow and don't hold my interest at all. That helpless doe-eyed look is a turn off for me. Women who are sensitive, funny, passionate, creative and a bit sarcastic. They have their own dreams and goals, and the passion with which the tackle them inspires me. They may never be able to get the difference between simulated annealing and a multilayer perceptron, but they make me appreciate the world in ways I had never envisioned. They are the type of woman who can enjoy my goofy, funny, impulsive side, and I absolutely love theirs. Left brained women, though they can be extremely intelligent and nice tend not to connect with me in the same way. If they saw me in public, they would see my 'left brained' persona, a reserved and intelligent individual, someone they could respect and have a stimulating conversation with. If they saw me in private, they would see my 'right brianed' side and hence think that I was immature, stupid, and vulgar. Assuming that I am correct, I can understand the frustration. Because of my intelligence and societies biases, I was always pushed by teachers towards more left brained subjects like math and science. I was socialized to favor the left brained aspects of my personality, and as such I can come off as boring or reserved to those who don't know me. Just learn to tap into that side of you that capable of seeing the beauty in this world, and you will be fine. Then again, I might just be a little boy who doesn't want to handle a real woman. ;)