I came to this site last night because I was wondering why I seem to be attracted the most to so called 'stupid' women. It is quite strange because logically speaking, I shouldn't be. I'm a computer programmer with an IQ that equals that of Lynie's. I've grown up around strong women. My mother is a strong and intelligent woman (IQ 160) who was married to my father, a man of average intellect until the day he died. My sister is also a strong, independent, intelligent woman. Not being able to find any significant answers here, I decided to discuss the matter with my sister. Here was what we came up with: It is in reality a matter of how we are defining stupid. While the underlying theory is dubious, I think it would be useful to perhaps analyze the situation terms of left brain vs right brain personality types. Left brain dominant types are primarily analytical and logical. They trust evidence and analysis over emotion, and tend to be very well organized and prefer structure and planning. Right brain types, on the other hand, tend to be more creative and intuitive. They tend not to plan things and be much more open and spontaneous than the left brainers. Most people tend to be a mix of the two to varying degrees. To my surprise, in spite of my career, I'm actually split right in the middle between the two types, with the occasional test actually showing me as predominantly 'right brained'. Western society tends to value so called 'left brained' qualities as 'intelligent.' Right brained qualities aren't as directly useful in a high technological and technocratic society, and as such highly right brained people can easily be mistaken for 'dumb.' This view I would suspect is especially predominant among individuals who are highly 'left brained' because they use a totally different cognitive apparatus for making decisions and analyzing information than the 'right brained' types of people. The problem, though, is that right brained people have the advantage in attracting partners. People tend to be attracted to outgoing, confident, and energetic people. Left brained people tend to be reserved and can come off as bland and passionless, even if they really aren't. Right brained people are also better at divining people's emotions. They are thus more socially adept and tend to be more sensitive partners. At the same time, though, they are no less lacking in passion, drive, and independent desires than their so called 'smart' left brained counterparts. What my sister and I determined is that I am, nor have I ever been, attracted to 'stupid' women. Truly dumb women, though they can be fun, are usually boring or shallow and don't hold my interest at all. That helpless doe-eyed look is a turn off for me. Women who are sensitive, funny, passionate, creative and a bit sarcastic. They have their own dreams and goals, and the passion with which the tackle them inspires me. They may never be able to get the difference between simulated annealing and a multilayer perceptron, but they make me appreciate the world in ways I had never envisioned. They are the type of woman who can enjoy my goofy, funny, impulsive side, and I absolutely love theirs. Left brained women, though they can be extremely intelligent and nice tend not to connect with me in the same way. If they saw me in public, they would see my 'left brained' persona, a reserved and intelligent individual, someone they could respect and have a stimulating conversation with. If they saw me in private, they would see my 'right brianed' side and hence think that I was immature, stupid, and vulgar. Assuming that I am correct, I can understand the frustration. Because of my intelligence and societies biases, I was always pushed by teachers towards more left brained subjects like math and science. I was socialized to favor the left brained aspects of my personality, and as such I can come off as boring or reserved to those who don't know me. Just learn to tap into that side of you that capable of seeing the beauty in this world, and you will be fine. Then again, I might just be a little boy who doesn't want to handle a real woman. ;)

True, men look for stupid girls at bars but thats not the reason smart girls are alone. Smart girls are alone because they are annoying. simple and short. All that talk of rfeminism and how guys aretterrible, how d you think it can make a person feel? No one wants to be around that, so therefore your alone. This little article proves it. overly presumption,genaral, no real substance or depth in the mehods of courting... the reason u think our not approuched is because your smart? How do you think we know your smart, because your IGQ is written on your forehead? Your not aprouched because your not approuchable or all who approuh u are quickly cut down. thisof course discourages all others if your in a bar by yourself for an hour and there are a bunch of guys who aren't paying attention to you. ALso, i dont understand this whole idea of " female independance". To be independant is to functino by yourself. If i'm in a relationship and i could be by myself, then i'm not in a relationship. people want to be depended on. thats human nature. if u dont depend on your partner on a depper level in a relationship then there is something wrong or your still holding back. that means you have trust issues. Last of all, a teacher? no one wants acouah for a partner, everyone wants a PARTNER!!. If you go into a relationship trying ot teach a guy then you already assume that your above them. Thats something you preach againts but your trying to do the SAMEW THING!! come one, your smarter than that :)

speak for yourself i like a girl who has grey matter, you can keep the blonde haired air heads

Maybe its because men don't want opinionated bitches.

Check out the insightful documentary called 'Idiocracy', it explains everything you need to know about this bizarre world.

Wow, Khalil, you sure are one sexist bastard. It takes someone quite close-minded to not only say but believe the bullshit you are pushing there buddy. What kind of simple-minded fool thinks that all smart women are "fat" and "ugly". No wonder you enjoy women that "have the ability to shut up" because anyone with a brain stem would never let you open your mouth.

I agree on this for the most part. Not all men are this way, but a lot of them. I consider myself to be smart and attractive but I'm not the ditzy bleach blonde most guys prefer. I've come to find out that a lot of men are threatened by smart women because they prefer to have all the power and cannot do that with a smart independent woman who knows how to take care of herself. I don't think most men are looking for a "real partner" but someone who will ahere to their greedy needs.

"compromise" is a word used by people to mean "my way or the highway". I am a very successful intelligent and responsible male in my mid-40's and I decided a long time ago that the "mating game" is one I have no interest in playing. Too much risk for too little reward.