Why do men often dump nice girls?

Honestly, it's puzzling, but sometimes men feel overwhelmed by someone who's genuinely kind and considerate. Some might feel they're not ready for something real and stable.

Is getting dumped by text common?

Unfortunately, yes. While it seems cowardly, the digital age makes it way too easy for some people to end things without facing the person directly.

What's wrong with being a nice girl?

Nothing at all! Being nice is great. But some people might mistake niceness for weakness or think they can take advantage, which is totally unfair.

How can I find a nice girl if I'm tired of dating dramas?

Just look for someone who consistently shows kindness and makes you feel comfortable being yourself. Oftentimes, they’re right there but overlooked!

Do men actually like nice girls?

Many do! Genuine kindness is attractive, but it’s all about the right match. Everyone has different preferences and what works for someone else might not work for you.

By Dick Anderson

When guys date really nice girls, it doesn’t take a genius to figure out that boredom quickly sets in and they need to find a way out. The problem is that the idea of dumping them raises all kinds of issues with guilt.

And no one wants to feel guilty about dumping a girl. But it is a necessary evil. After all, life is too short to spend it with someone you don’t want to be with.

So if you’re a nice girl and wondered whatever happened to James - why he just seemed to disappear from your life, you’ll probably find the answer within these pages.

Who is the nice girl?

First off, who is this “nice girl”? Well, she’s sweet and innocent, and her idea of rebelling is jaywalking. She’s very vanilla, and there’s nothing wrong with that, but there’s no doubt that everyone likes a little rocky road every once in a while.

Of course, there are many guys who’ve dated rats in the past and want nothing more than a good, predictable, reliable girl to spend his time with, but for many men in their 20s and even 30s, they’d prefer to spend their time being challenged.

**Why men dump nice girls
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It’s funny how life works sometimes. When it comes to a nice girl, we always know where she is, we know she’s reliable, and we know that she would never betray us. You’d think that this was the ideal woman.

But because this nice girl comes with guarantees, so to speak, we find ourselves wanting more. While safety is appreciated, and it’s what we think we want, when men find themselves faced with a woman who will be good to and for him, he tends to run in the other direction.

**How men dump nice girls
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It’s quite possible that after we walk away from the nice girl, we spend a lot of time reminiscing about how great she was… especially when we begin dating a high-maintenance bitch.

Nevertheless, we do ultimately walk away. But how? How do we do it without feeling tons of guilt? It’s hard, but here’s how we manage.

**How men dump nice girls #1
Stop calling**
If we were calling about once a day, that would stop fast. And I don’t mean that we’d lessen the phone calls until they reached the once a week status; we would rip that phone calling task off like a bandage

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Almost all men are coward when dumping,first the told us many things that aren't true, then they dump us, no matter we are nice or bad to them. After dating this guy for months, i got pregnant, but because of medical problems, i missed the baby, after all he didn't want to be a father anyways. But he always told me he will be there for me, and in the future when we were prepared , we where going to have one,and also we were going to travel. After two weeks, he didn't call me or share with me in the weekends. He told me he was with his family or friends. Then he didn't call after 2 days, when he called he said he was having some problems. So i said to him it was ok. i called him next day needed directions for a medical apointment, when he pick up the phone he screamed at me and told me he was angry, what do you want and hang up. He sent me a text, telling me we can see each other again,and he was sorry for the things that happened between us. I called him, but he then sent me another text,not to call him or write to him because he was not going to answers or read my messages, that i was going to loose my time. I was very sad and angry, I waited 2 days, i saw he unblocked me from msn, i send him an email, telling him how he lie to me, making me promises of keep sharing and how coward he was sending me those text messages, so cruel and yelling to me. But after all, i wish him the best of life, and that i was not going to e mail him or call him just like he told me.What he did was deleting me from his msn. I always treated him very nice, and didn't deserve the way he treated me, i was not mad because he dump me, i was sad and angry the way he did it,and them a express myself and all he did was deleting, to let me feel even worst, anything important to him after all the situation we went thru...

When I was a nice young girl I got dumped as well, I believe I was the other girl he was cheating on with his proper girlfriend. Anyhow for all you pretty young nice girls out there, it's very simple if he dumps you its because he knows that he's not going to get sex from you quick enough so he dumps you. And in this case be happy that you were not used and discarded.

always give the best on him but still be dumped

hey, I am a nice girl and have men cheat on me dump me and I am sick of it. I know i should be a bit of a bitch but I dont know how!? My problem is I am just too nice! lol! You see when guys meet me they think I am a bad girl/rebel/wild child, and then as soon as they realise I am just a sweet girl who wants a normal stable relationship they run!! Help