I am 48 was in a bad marriage for 20 years went through a divorce 2 years ago had a hysterctomy and i've never been more beautiful than now started jogging last year totally reshaped my body eating 90% raw food i've allways been pretty so I had all the girl jealousy and no freinds but now when I walk into a room or anywhere I go frankly I get staired at like I have two heads people comment on how beautiful i am all day!! not complaining at all!!!! however dare i may say that sometimes i wish i were invisible. and men act like they've never seen a woman before! I love love love it. I still have no friends even sister when we do lunch gets irritated at all the attention i get, another major problem I cant get hired anywhere women are the gate keepers usually and they really dont want me around even in the beauty industry that's the only thing that SUCKS about being beautiful do you other gals have this problem?

actually your blog came up when I googled "beauty curse". I am a multi-racial, primarily african american woman. also an ugly duckling. Ive ALWAYS had problems with women...never really had a true girl friend because of my looks. first i didnt fit in because i was "the black girl" and was also chubby. well my chub became curves and my hair grew very long and am now considered attractive. I think its a curse. I have never had issues finding a man...I am married to a wonderful wonderful man but I still struggle with friends. I have no true friends even tho I joined a sorority in college for that purpose. theyre all uncomfortable or intimidated by me or jealous. I hate it!!!! im so depressed and lonely some days I want to die. even women in my family hate me. I also want to be liked and loved for more than my looks.

I totally agree, i used to be that ugly duckling in my high school, guys used to deal with me as if i were a boy, during my college days and after graduation, i grew up prettier everyday, i learned how to spoil my beauty and create new looks and how to deal with my features. I admit that being gorgeous makes me love myself even more, increased my self confidence it helps me in my career, BUT; no body loves me for the real me, guys dont even take a single chance to know me, they just want my body, or want to tell everyone that i'm there gf. everyone i like i usually find out that he just want to have sex with me, my beauty makes them feel always horny and this is killing me, i wish i could scream I'M MUCH MORE THAN THAT BODY U WANT TO FUCK ... I AM A HUMAN JUST LIKE YOU...

I totally agree with you! I too possess great beauty and sometimes I just don't know how to deal, oh my gosh!

I'm not really beautiful any more. I am fifty, so my looks have faded a bit, but I am still attractive for my age. Recently I lost 15kgs (about 34 pounds), got my teeth fixed and because of a nose job to correct a deviated septum several years ago and a hysterectomy that greatly improved my health two years ago, I am now one heck of a good looking woman for my age. One young man approached me in the street a few months ago to say 'madam, you are beautiful', but I don't get the same attention I got when I was young - unless I go without glasses.... I am having so much trouble at work, mainly because the other women, who are all around my age, hate me. They take everything I say the wrong way - such as the time I advised my secretary to wear something nice to an event, because I thought she'd misunderstood me and was wearing 'work clothes'. But she took it the wrong way. If I talk about dieting, and I am forever dieting, they all go quiet (because my diet of two years worked and I am as slim and shapely as a 30 year old) and they are frumpy old ladies. Like you, I was not born beautiful. I grew into it and while it was fun when I was younger, it was also difficult. People would say 'oh....poor thing' mockingly, but it can be rather difficult when no woman wants to be seen with you. It is isolating when you are bullied and not taken seriously or considered unintelligent. I would rather be beautiful than not. Sure. But it isn't as easy as it seems. Takes some getting used to.