Age really is just a number. My mother, who is my BFF unequivocally, and my mother-in-law to-be, whom I dearly love, got me to thinking about this – plus, although I am not middle-aged yet, every year makes me think a little more. Women are giving, loving, selfless people, by and large – sometimes to their detriment. So here are some things to remember, because you don't have to lose yourself or your womanhood no matter how old you are.
1. Not Buying Things for Themselves
My mom rarely ever buys anything for herself. She gets things for everyone else and only buys herself the necessities – if that. And that's just not necessary. Don't be afraid to splurge or pamper yourself. It doesn't even have to be about clothes or shoes. Don't feel bad about buying yourself the perfume you really like, or the foods, or even the oil you prefer to have in your car.
2. Underestimating the Need for Change
Everyone needs change in their lives, or else you run the risk of stagnating. Sometimes change is scary, no matter what your age, but it's still important. Whether you're 14, 24, 34, or 44, you can change up your routine and try something new.
3. Comparing Themselves to Their Younger Selves
First up, I don't mean this the way it sounds. I don't think there are a lot of Miss Havisham's out there, with the clocks in their houses stopped. What I do mean is, so what if your measurements are different than they were at 20? So what if you have a few more laugh lines? The past is the past for a reason, and I can guarantee that everyone who loves you finds you more beautiful now.
4. Sacrificing Everything
No matter what, you cannot sacrifice yourself for everyone else. That doesn't mean you can't love and do things for your partner, your children, your friends, or family members. It simply means that you can't forget yourself.
5. Not Getting Enough Sleep
I don't have children myself but I know that you pretty much stop getting sleep when you become a mom – and it tends to stay that way for years, even after your children are older or grown. To bed at midnight, 1am, 2am, up at 6am – that's not enough sleep! Always make enough time for that; your body and your mind both need the rest!
6. Bowing to Hair Trends
Guess what? You do not have to cut your hair short unless you want to. You might feel like it's expected of you, but frig that. You don't have to be like your mother or your grandmother either, and wear tight curls in hair that looks decidedly blue. Again, frig that!
7. Not Wearing the Right Bra
The older you get, the more support you need. You might be wary about going with an underwire or something for the first time, but it might be necessary. Comfort is great, just remember that support is as well.
8. Not Taking Time for Themselves
Akin to sacrificing for others, you might not be taking enough time for yourself. Don't be afraid or feel ashamed about doing so, even if it means going off by yourself for a weekend, or simply making the time for a long bath or a walk. Time to get in touch with yourself is always important, but it's especially vital now.
9. Thinking They Have to Settle down
Don't stop doing the things you do, if you find them fun. You don't have to stop running marathons, going swimming, or anything like that. You don't have to settle down into some calm, boring life – unless that's what you want to do.
When you think about it, these are good pieces of advice for girls or women of any age. Do you have any to add? How do you make time for yourself?
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