7 Ways to Break That Awkward Silence ...


7 Ways to Break That Awkward Silence ...
7 Ways to Break That Awkward Silence ...

First dates, meeting the parents, hanging out with new friends or those weird times when you happen to run into your boss in the supermarket – awkward moments of silence are bound to happen at some point. I usually “solve” them by saying a lot of stupid things nobody even asked me anything about and I always feel embarrassed about it later. And although blabbing did win me a second date with my now fiancé, it isn’t always a guarantee of success. In fact, the harder you try to jumpstart a conversation, the more potentially embarrassing things you’re about to blurt out! So, if you, like me, have a hard time controlling the amount of info that’s being unleashed through your mouth, here’s some things you can say or do to break the embarrassing silence without actually embarrassing yourself in the process.

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Acknowledging the Weird Situation

Okay, so you’re just sitting there staring at each other, your brain froze and you can’t think of anything interesting and yet on the topic you were discussing just a couple of moments ago. Well, don’t even bother. Just make a funny remark about the situation and try to tell a joke or completely change subject. I absolutely love when people do this because they make things easier for me, plus, I don’t have to act like everything is cool because it actually is. Simply admitting the moment was weird kind of “un-weirds” it. Umm, “un-weirds”… is there something like that in the dictionary or I’ve just made up a new word?


Compliment a Person

Be careful, thought, because if you wait until the situation gets really weird, your compliment won’t seem sincere. So, when you notice the silent moment coming, use it to express your liking of his/her shirt, shoes, bag… You can definitely take it from there by saying you wanted to get something very similar for your bro/ seen a celebrity wearing something like that etc.


Weather Stuff

Use this lame silence breaker in your advantage by combining it with my first suggestion. We all know people use weather whenever they feel like the conversation has reached the point when nobody knows what to say next, right? Well, why not say “Great weather today, huh?” even if it’s obviously raining or snowing? In fact, the worst the weather conditions are the better chances you have in making your conversation buddy laugh.


Breaking the awkward silence can be a daunting task, especially in social situations. But if you’re feeling tongue-tied, there are some easy and effective ways to get the conversation going.

One suggestion is to use the weather as a conversation starter. Even if it’s raining or snowing, you can break the silence by asking your conversation partner “Great weather today, huh?” This may even make them laugh, as the worse the weather conditions, the more humorous the comment can become.

Another suggestion is to ask your conversation partner a question about themselves. This could be something as simple as “What do you do for fun?” or as specific as “What did you think of the latest episode of your favorite show?” Asking questions can help to get to know your conversation partner better and can help to avoid any uncomfortable silences.

It can also be helpful to talk about a shared interest or experience. This could be anything from a hobby you both enjoy, to a funny experience you both had. Talking about something you both know about can help to lighten the mood and keep the conversation going.



When all heads turn in your direction and you feel like you must say something, try passing the “hot potato” onto somebody else by asking a question. This works great and you don’t have to feel guilty because you did jumpstart a conversation! You can combine questions and compliments (Tell me, please, where did you find those great shoes?) or be straightforward and ask other questions. Try avoiding politics, religion and intimate questions though, because these can bring the awkwardness factor up a notch!


Say Something Weird

If minus and minus make a plus, then weird and weird should make it all good. If you’re sitting in a crowded coffee shop with your new date, try pointing out to the most hideous outfit or a hairstyle you can find and say “This would look great on you!” Your date will probably have a shocked look on her face and after that you can just start laughing and say you were just trying to check if his/her face looks equally cute when shocked as it does with a smile on.


Did I Say Something Wrong?

If you feel there’s more to it than just a simple lack of fresh ideas to talk about, don’t be afraid to ask what’s causing the problem. Your desire to prevent those strange moments of silence may have caused a bigger problem, read: you may have said something that made the other person feel embarrassed. Don’t pretend like nothing happened but see what you can do to make things right – that will prove others that, even if you have managed to insult somebody, you definitely didn’t do it on purpose.



“Wow! Look at the size of that fish/ color of that car” If you are both looking at something, it’s completely fine to shut up and those few seconds of normal silence are all the time you need to come up with something you’ll say next. These diversions can be a pretty good conversation starters too because, if you have just invited your date to check out the weird hairstyle of the lady that’s just walked in, you can always speak about hairstyles in general and even mention your weird cousins and their hairdos.

Yup, there are plenty of ways to avoid looking away, pounding your fingers on the table or blurting out. If you want to, of course, because there are plenty of people that simply enjoy silent moments and all that awkwardness. So, what do you do to fill up the gaps in the conversation?

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Pretending it never happened sometimes makes things better

Ohhhh once I said to my boss "you are looking exactly like your grandma" in her party....just to make it more weired...ofcourse unintentionally.

What a great post! And that picture on top is just hilarious! Very good choice! :) About resolving the awkward situations, I seem to always ask a question that is of interest to the other person. Wether it's something they do, or love, or I know were going to do. It usually works great! The person would usually give an elaborate answer and I can come up with at least a couple more questions on the subject. And before you know it, you are having an awesome conversation, "0" weirdness :) Questions work! :)

Just say "Oh this is awkward" :)

i always do that! i say "oh! wow! isn't this an awkward silence" and laughs, always helps :D

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