So you’ve just met a guy who you know is really into you… but unfortunately, he’s giving you a weird vibe and you’re not into him. You just know in a moment he’s going to ask you for your phone number, and you don’t want to embarrass him by telling him no… what to do? Here are my best ways for turning him down without hurting his feelings, or embarrassing him.
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1. Avoid the Topic
Until he actually asks you for your phone number, you can just avoid the topic and save yourself the hassle and him the embarrassment.
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Simply steer the conversation towards neutral ground whenever the topic veers close to personal contact information. You might share amusing stories or discuss common interests instead. By subtly shifting the focus, you can avoid putting him in an awkward position, making it less likely that he'll feel compelled to ask for your number. It's about maintaining a friendly discourse while keeping certain boundaries intact. Remember, it's okay to be non-committal about sharing personal details until you're completely comfortable with it.
Oh, there are so many reasons! Privacy is a big one. Sometimes, you just want to maintain your personal space. Plus, once someone has your number, they can contact you anytime, which might not be what you want.
You can simply say you're not comfortable giving out your number. Or, you could say that you prefer to communicate other ways first, like through social media or emailing. Honesty is the best policy, but being polite never hurts.
Not at all! Some people might find it charming or even thoughtful. It's a bit old-fashioned, but it definitely has its own kind of special touch, doesn't it?
Oh, that's tricky! Try to stay calm, and just stick to your boundaries. If they keep pushing, it's definitely okay to just walk away. Remember, you don't owe anyone your personal information.
It's natural to feel a little guilty, but remember that you're looking out for yourself. Your comfort comes first, always! Besides, if someone doesn't respect your decision, then they're not worth your time anyway.
2. Tell Him to Find You Another Way
With Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, and LinkedIn, there are a lot of other ways you can tell a guy to contact you without giving him your phone number.
Oh, there are so many reasons! Privacy is a big one. Sometimes, you just want to maintain your personal space. Plus, once someone has your number, they can contact you anytime, which might not be what you want.
You can simply say you're not comfortable giving out your number. Or, you could say that you prefer to communicate other ways first, like through social media or emailing. Honesty is the best policy, but being polite never hurts.
Not at all! Some people might find it charming or even thoughtful. It's a bit old-fashioned, but it definitely has its own kind of special touch, doesn't it?
Oh, that's tricky! Try to stay calm, and just stick to your boundaries. If they keep pushing, it's definitely okay to just walk away. Remember, you don't owe anyone your personal information.
It's natural to feel a little guilty, but remember that you're looking out for yourself. Your comfort comes first, always! Besides, if someone doesn't respect your decision, then they're not worth your time anyway.
3. Give Him an Email Address
If you’d rather, give him your email address. Then he can contact you, and you can choose whether or not to contact him. Easy!
Oh, there are so many reasons! Privacy is a big one. Sometimes, you just want to maintain your personal space. Plus, once someone has your number, they can contact you anytime, which might not be what you want.
You can simply say you're not comfortable giving out your number. Or, you could say that you prefer to communicate other ways first, like through social media or emailing. Honesty is the best policy, but being polite never hurts.
Not at all! Some people might find it charming or even thoughtful. It's a bit old-fashioned, but it definitely has its own kind of special touch, doesn't it?
Oh, that's tricky! Try to stay calm, and just stick to your boundaries. If they keep pushing, it's definitely okay to just walk away. Remember, you don't owe anyone your personal information.
It's natural to feel a little guilty, but remember that you're looking out for yourself. Your comfort comes first, always! Besides, if someone doesn't respect your decision, then they're not worth your time anyway.
4. Use the “strangers” Excuse
From the time we’re children, our parents have told us not to talk to strangers. If he won’t leave you alone, give him a smile and tell him you’re not supposed to talk to strangers, then turn your back. He’ll get the message.
Oh, there are so many reasons! Privacy is a big one. Sometimes, you just want to maintain your personal space. Plus, once someone has your number, they can contact you anytime, which might not be what you want.
You can simply say you're not comfortable giving out your number. Or, you could say that you prefer to communicate other ways first, like through social media or emailing. Honesty is the best policy, but being polite never hurts.
Not at all! Some people might find it charming or even thoughtful. It's a bit old-fashioned, but it definitely has its own kind of special touch, doesn't it?
Oh, that's tricky! Try to stay calm, and just stick to your boundaries. If they keep pushing, it's definitely okay to just walk away. Remember, you don't owe anyone your personal information.
It's natural to feel a little guilty, but remember that you're looking out for yourself. Your comfort comes first, always! Besides, if someone doesn't respect your decision, then they're not worth your time anyway.
If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.
5. Use the “safety” Excuse
In many ways, this isn’t actually an excuse at all - it’s the truth. Tell him you’re just not comfortable sharing your phone number with someone you’ve just met.
Oh, there are so many reasons! Privacy is a big one. Sometimes, you just want to maintain your personal space. Plus, once someone has your number, they can contact you anytime, which might not be what you want.
You can simply say you're not comfortable giving out your number. Or, you could say that you prefer to communicate other ways first, like through social media or emailing. Honesty is the best policy, but being polite never hurts.
Not at all! Some people might find it charming or even thoughtful. It's a bit old-fashioned, but it definitely has its own kind of special touch, doesn't it?
Oh, that's tricky! Try to stay calm, and just stick to your boundaries. If they keep pushing, it's definitely okay to just walk away. Remember, you don't owe anyone your personal information.
It's natural to feel a little guilty, but remember that you're looking out for yourself. Your comfort comes first, always! Besides, if someone doesn't respect your decision, then they're not worth your time anyway.
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6. Ask for His Instead
If he does get up the nerve to ask for your number, and you would rather not give it to him, ask him for his number instead. You don’t actually have to ever call him, but it may get him to leave you be.
Oh, there are so many reasons! Privacy is a big one. Sometimes, you just want to maintain your personal space. Plus, once someone has your number, they can contact you anytime, which might not be what you want.
You can simply say you're not comfortable giving out your number. Or, you could say that you prefer to communicate other ways first, like through social media or emailing. Honesty is the best policy, but being polite never hurts.
Not at all! Some people might find it charming or even thoughtful. It's a bit old-fashioned, but it definitely has its own kind of special touch, doesn't it?
Oh, that's tricky! Try to stay calm, and just stick to your boundaries. If they keep pushing, it's definitely okay to just walk away. Remember, you don't owe anyone your personal information.
It's natural to feel a little guilty, but remember that you're looking out for yourself. Your comfort comes first, always! Besides, if someone doesn't respect your decision, then they're not worth your time anyway.
7. Tell Him You Have a Boyfriend/husband
Tell him you’re already spoken for, whether it’s true or not, and he ought to leave you alone.
Oh, there are so many reasons! Privacy is a big one. Sometimes, you just want to maintain your personal space. Plus, once someone has your number, they can contact you anytime, which might not be what you want.
You can simply say you're not comfortable giving out your number. Or, you could say that you prefer to communicate other ways first, like through social media or emailing. Honesty is the best policy, but being polite never hurts.
Not at all! Some people might find it charming or even thoughtful. It's a bit old-fashioned, but it definitely has its own kind of special touch, doesn't it?
Oh, that's tricky! Try to stay calm, and just stick to your boundaries. If they keep pushing, it's definitely okay to just walk away. Remember, you don't owe anyone your personal information.
It's natural to feel a little guilty, but remember that you're looking out for yourself. Your comfort comes first, always! Besides, if someone doesn't respect your decision, then they're not worth your time anyway.
8. Tell Him about Your Parents
Tell him that your father and brother(s) wouldn’t appreciate you giving your phone number out to a man they don’t know, and add that they’re both police officers, and see what he says. He’ll probably turn white as a sheet and walk away.
Oh, there are so many reasons! Privacy is a big one. Sometimes, you just want to maintain your personal space. Plus, once someone has your number, they can contact you anytime, which might not be what you want.
You can simply say you're not comfortable giving out your number. Or, you could say that you prefer to communicate other ways first, like through social media or emailing. Honesty is the best policy, but being polite never hurts.
Not at all! Some people might find it charming or even thoughtful. It's a bit old-fashioned, but it definitely has its own kind of special touch, doesn't it?
Oh, that's tricky! Try to stay calm, and just stick to your boundaries. If they keep pushing, it's definitely okay to just walk away. Remember, you don't owe anyone your personal information.
It's natural to feel a little guilty, but remember that you're looking out for yourself. Your comfort comes first, always! Besides, if someone doesn't respect your decision, then they're not worth your time anyway.
9. Ask Him to Guess
Tell him if he guesses your phone number, he can use it. He won’t like the idea, of course, but he certainly won’t be able to guess it, either.
Oh, there are so many reasons! Privacy is a big one. Sometimes, you just want to maintain your personal space. Plus, once someone has your number, they can contact you anytime, which might not be what you want.
You can simply say you're not comfortable giving out your number. Or, you could say that you prefer to communicate other ways first, like through social media or emailing. Honesty is the best policy, but being polite never hurts.
Not at all! Some people might find it charming or even thoughtful. It's a bit old-fashioned, but it definitely has its own kind of special touch, doesn't it?
Oh, that's tricky! Try to stay calm, and just stick to your boundaries. If they keep pushing, it's definitely okay to just walk away. Remember, you don't owe anyone your personal information.
It's natural to feel a little guilty, but remember that you're looking out for yourself. Your comfort comes first, always! Besides, if someone doesn't respect your decision, then they're not worth your time anyway.
10. Write It Messy
Write your number as sloppily as you can before you fold the paper and hand it to him. If you can, write it in lipstick or eye pencil, which are greasier than pen or pencil and will undoubtedly smudge.
Oh, there are so many reasons! Privacy is a big one. Sometimes, you just want to maintain your personal space. Plus, once someone has your number, they can contact you anytime, which might not be what you want.
You can simply say you're not comfortable giving out your number. Or, you could say that you prefer to communicate other ways first, like through social media or emailing. Honesty is the best policy, but being polite never hurts.
Not at all! Some people might find it charming or even thoughtful. It's a bit old-fashioned, but it definitely has its own kind of special touch, doesn't it?
Oh, that's tricky! Try to stay calm, and just stick to your boundaries. If they keep pushing, it's definitely okay to just walk away. Remember, you don't owe anyone your personal information.
It's natural to feel a little guilty, but remember that you're looking out for yourself. Your comfort comes first, always! Besides, if someone doesn't respect your decision, then they're not worth your time anyway.
11. Tell Him a Big, Fat Lie
Tell him you don’t have a phone, because you don’t believe in technology. This won’t work if you have a cell phone and laptop right there in front of you. But it almost always will start another conversation about the evils of the modern world, which he will undoubtedly find boring.
Oh, there are so many reasons! Privacy is a big one. Sometimes, you just want to maintain your personal space. Plus, once someone has your number, they can contact you anytime, which might not be what you want.
You can simply say you're not comfortable giving out your number. Or, you could say that you prefer to communicate other ways first, like through social media or emailing. Honesty is the best policy, but being polite never hurts.
Not at all! Some people might find it charming or even thoughtful. It's a bit old-fashioned, but it definitely has its own kind of special touch, doesn't it?
Oh, that's tricky! Try to stay calm, and just stick to your boundaries. If they keep pushing, it's definitely okay to just walk away. Remember, you don't owe anyone your personal information.
It's natural to feel a little guilty, but remember that you're looking out for yourself. Your comfort comes first, always! Besides, if someone doesn't respect your decision, then they're not worth your time anyway.
12. Give Him a Phony
My name is Jennifer, so I always thought it was fun to give these guys the phone number 867-5309, like from the song! Once you add an area code in front of it, it does look like a real number. I only got caught once, because I was cocky enough to actually write “Jenny” before the number. Oops!
Oh, there are so many reasons! Privacy is a big one. Sometimes, you just want to maintain your personal space. Plus, once someone has your number, they can contact you anytime, which might not be what you want.
You can simply say you're not comfortable giving out your number. Or, you could say that you prefer to communicate other ways first, like through social media or emailing. Honesty is the best policy, but being polite never hurts.
Not at all! Some people might find it charming or even thoughtful. It's a bit old-fashioned, but it definitely has its own kind of special touch, doesn't it?
Oh, that's tricky! Try to stay calm, and just stick to your boundaries. If they keep pushing, it's definitely okay to just walk away. Remember, you don't owe anyone your personal information.
It's natural to feel a little guilty, but remember that you're looking out for yourself. Your comfort comes first, always! Besides, if someone doesn't respect your decision, then they're not worth your time anyway.
13. Tell Him NO
If all else fails, and he just won’t take the hint and leave you alone, just look him straight in the eye and say NO. It’s not easy, but sometimes the straightforward approach works best.
Can you blame the poor guy for wanting your number? Of course not! You’re attractive, smart, funny… you know it! But you can’t say yes all the time, to everyone, so keep these tips in mind the next time you have to say no. Or do you have a better way of not giving out your phone number? Please let me know… thanks!
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Comments
Jackie: Haha I LOOOOOVE that song!!
autumn: What song is the number from?
Hitomi: give them your number but change the last digit, claim your phone is dead so message/call tomorrow. Then you don't get busted straight away ;)
Xannyyy: LOL Amyy!! That was hilarious!! Hehee.. I always used the “safety†excuse.. I never gave my number to strangers which it wasn't true.. Only to whom I didn't like! LOL! Or when someone ask my number in a very busy place, I just give it to him with the las number wrong and than rush on telling him call meee. Poor thing looooool! Who knows what they used to think when someone else picked the phone... I Wonder! HAHA!!
Meream: 6, 7, 12, and 13 always work. Some guys say they don't care if you have a boyfriend, so go for 13. Haha
Meream: Sheila: giving the boyfriend's number is a GREAT idea! haha
shakti: barbie..........its foolproof and fullproof.lol
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