I've come up with a list of signs he's not going to call after your first date. Some of these have happened to me and some have happened to friends of mine. I know there are more out there, but here is my list of 10. I hope none of these signs have recently showed up during your most recent date!
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You're out on a date with this guy and realize that you aren't really part of the conversations that seem to be going on. Your date runs into friends and chats away, he talks to the waiter about everything on the menu, he even gets yakkity with the table next to you. No matter how many times you try to join in on the conversation, it just doesn't seem to fly.
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Have you been on a date with a guy that talks about other women he's been with most of the evening? Not even exes, but just women in general. This sort of makes him seem like a player, which is possibly why he talks about it. To me, this is one of the sure signs he won't call. I always feel like he would rather be with one of them and I must not be measuring up to them. I guess this kind of talk might be impressive, if I was one of the guys. But, since I'm not, I take it as a sign.
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There are some guys that always seem to be looking for someone else while they are with you. It's like you're the stand-in for the next person and you are just keeping him company until she gets there. It sort of doesn't really feel like a date when this happens. I always wonder if I were to get up and leave if he would even notice I was gone from the table!
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This behavior sometimes goes along with the sign mentioned above in number 8. The guy seems genuinely disinterested. When this happens, I often feel like we should end the date at that moment. It almost feels like torture to sit there and try to get him to speak more than a few syllables at a time. It's even harder when he won't make eye contact as he does that as well. This is another one of those signs he's not going to call.
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I was on this date once where I basically felt like a puppy being taken for a walk. He walked in front of me the entire time, sort of like he was out on a stroll and I just happened to be going in the same direction. It wasn't like he was just a step in front. He was far enough that I could have ducked into a doorway and he wouldn't have noticed until he got to his final destination. At times like this, you wonder how you even got on this date.
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If he doesn't even take time to introduce you to friends that he sees while you are out, he must not be planning on giving you a call later for another date. This seems like a sure sign that he feels this is a one time thing and no since getting the friends involved, since you won't be sticking around. Even if he didn't introduce you by name, but as "my date," this is a better sign than nothing at all.
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When you get to the end of the night, or whenever your date ends, and there's not even a hint of a date in the future, there's a strong possibility that he isn't planning on calling later. This might be it for the dating thing going on between you two. Hopefully, the night wasn't a total flop and you at least got to enjoy a good movie or a game of putt-putt.
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When this happens, you don't even have to wonder if he'll call. This is almost one of those jaw-dropping situations. I don't know if I would actually sit and finish the date if this were to happen to me. He would probably consider himself to be lucky if all I did was walk out, as opposed to what could happen. I take this situation to mean that he sees me as a trial run for his next date, so he can try his best tricks and see what works and what doesn't.
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If he can't remember who he's on a date with, how is he ever going to remember to call you? I find it fascinating when this happens at the end of the night. I often wonder if he sat there half the time trying to figure out how to ask me what my name was or if it even crossed his mind. I guess some people make a decision at the beginning of a date, as to whether or not this date will go anywhere. I think if the guy has made his mind up in the beginning that this is the only date there's going to be, then he sees no reason to remember the name of his date.
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I think this is a sure way of how to know if he'll call. If he drops you off without saying a word, you can bet he won't be ringing you up later on. The best is when he starts to take off before you even have the door fully closed. Amazing.
Everyone always wants their date to go well, or to at least have more than one date before it's quits. Do you have signs that tell you how to know if he'll call? I'm sure by the end of the date, there was something that happened to let you know that there for sure wasn't going to be a phone call coming from this guy!
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