my girl cheated on me 3 months ago. with a friend of a friend. we were together for 7 yrs. and she did it cuz she said she didnt think i loved her anymore. to its bull i did so much for her and the only thing i could think of is that i didnt go out every nite cuz i have a day job. we went out on trips families were tight. for past 3 months ive tryed everything toget her to be with me again and that seems to be the straw that broke the camels back. i got caught lookin threw her fone and finding her round town. i knew it wood mess things up but love makes u do crazy things. sayed she needs her space but to me it just meens i want to spend time with this other guy who has no money no priorities and is like 7 yrs. younger then me... havent talked to her in a week ended with ill call u tonite and a week latr nothin. i want to call her or txt her so bad but if i do im sure it will piss her off or sge will ignore it. she sayes she needs to find herself again and redefine her existance in this world. witch all seem like excuses to me, but i have to respect it if its true... troubles cor me follow me to work -dinner table- and social life... what do i do? i knew exactly what i wanted and had myself figured out then got blind sided.... grass betternot be greener ya know?

There's a current theory that says that instant attraction is caused by smell. We release markers of MHC protein in our breath. This protein is a determinant of out specific immunity (Some people are especially resistant to colds, some people never get the flu). Evolutionarily, people with different MHC proteins will be attracted to each other because their progeny will have the combined benefits of both parents. Try as you will, you sometimes just can't overcome evolutionary advantages.

my relationship now is going ppretty good but for some strange reason I'm always afraid that he might wonder 0ff & talk t0 another chick again .

um whip his ass...

Most of the time, we lose our identity when hooked with the wrong person. The person we love should not change us but should accept who we are.

I was in a relationship with a girl in my class. Somewhere around october last year, she asked for a breakup. We had gone out for 3yrs already. Out of frustation and pain, I waited for 3months. When I heard nothing from her, I decided to go out with a different girl. We are actually classmates and we do everything together when in school and are even next door neighbors. She asked for the breakup during a long vaccation period. When school reopened, we came back and I realised she was still interested in me and wanted us to continue the relationship. When I mentioned I had gone in for a new girl, she wept bitterly and for about 3months, she was asking and waiting for a comeback. I told her I needed time to break up with my new girl. She agreed to give me the time. But I must admit that, within that period, there were certain things I did or said to her that were very hurting. She however forgave me when I apologised. About a month ago, her ex visited and since we are next door neighbours, they stayed in the room next to me. When I realised I was about losing her, I looked back. When her ex left, I told her I was ready to come back. She assured me she was going to make all the time for me, and break up with her ex because she did not love him.She told me he would be coming around again so when he comes, she will ask for a breakup. When the guy came, my girlfriend explained things to him and asked that they quit the relationship. To our dismay, he told my girlfriend that, it is a competition, and whoever wins, wins. He also said if only she was going to leave both of us, he would give up but if she would leave him and come back to me, he would never agree to that. Before he left, he told my girlfriend that he cannot do what she is asking him to do. He stayed for one complete weeks and you can imagine having your girlfriend in the next room with another man. My girlfriend is the type who finds it very difficult to hurt someone. When the guy comes, she gives him all her attention, ignoring me. Sometimes I really wonder if she is doing what she says she is doing. But I trust her. How best do you think my girlfriend should handle this matter so we can break away freely from this guy? Do you think this guy will ever give up? What should I do as the man at this moment in time? I really need help Fada.

Setting up expectations are needed in a relationship but these expectations need to be realistic in order to keep the relationship alive.