I've never been dumped for being a "nice girl", or really at all, but my "nice girl" status has kept me hopelessly single. I'm the friend that guys hangout with, but never date. And if they do, they either don't tell me so as to not mess up the friendship, or they lead me on until they work out their feelings. The latter has gotten so bad that I had to confront a guy through a strongly worded e-mail to ask what the hell was going on with our friendship, because he was perpetually avoiding me, and when I'd talk to him, he would say I was one of his best friends. I know I've earned my reputation as a nice girl, and I really am, but how do I get guys to see that I'm more than just that? I mean, I'm not a vanilla scented sugar cube with a pair of boobs, and a happy face drawn on (no they don't make those, but how awesome would it be if they did?), I'm just nice and unusually responsible for a teenager (responsible to the point that I've been deemed the group mother, and been compared to Phylis from The Office, although god knows why the latter, as she's really not all that nice, although matronly). Okay, getting off topic... What I want to know is how do I let guys see that I'm more than just the "nice girl" and not compromise my morals, and go beyond my comfort zone? I'm also demisexual, so add that to the problem, as I'm not willing to do anything physically with a guy (beyond holding hands, pecks on the cheeks and lips, and hugs) unless I'm really, really into him, practically in love. So, I've been named a prude, making me less appealing to guys. Advice?

Almost all men are coward when dumping,first the told us many things that aren't true, then they dump us, no matter we are nice or bad to them. After dating this guy for months, i got pregnant, but because of medical problems, i missed the baby, after all he didn't want to be a father anyways. But he always told me he will be there for me, and in the future when we were prepared , we where going to have one,and also we were going to travel. After two weeks, he didn't call me or share with me in the weekends. He told me he was with his family or friends. Then he didn't call after 2 days, when he called he said he was having some problems. So i said to him it was ok. i called him next day needed directions for a medical apointment, when he pick up the phone he screamed at me and told me he was angry, what do you want and hang up. He sent me a text, telling me we can see each other again,and he was sorry for the things that happened between us. I called him, but he then sent me another text,not to call him or write to him because he was not going to answers or read my messages, that i was going to loose my time. I was very sad and angry, I waited 2 days, i saw he unblocked me from msn, i send him an email, telling him how he lie to me, making me promises of keep sharing and how coward he was sending me those text messages, so cruel and yelling to me. But after all, i wish him the best of life, and that i was not going to e mail him or call him just like he told me.What he did was deleting me from his msn. I always treated him very nice, and didn't deserve the way he treated me, i was not mad because he dump me, i was sad and angry the way he did it,and them a express myself and all he did was deleting, to let me feel even worst, anything important to him after all the situation we went thru...

Spotlight the psychopathic man early on: is he super charming, witty, seem to be the life of the party? Does he want to get to know you super fast? Does he talk about sex quite soon after meeting him? Does he appear to be single, but seem to be hiding a secret life of other lovers? Does he ever say mean, cruel, insulting or crude things and pass it off as humor? Does he seem to have lots of friends but no close friends? Does he lie? Disappear? Seem unreachable at times when you know he's not working or otherwise? Get angry for no reason? Unwilling to communicate? Irrational about things, financially unstable? Hurtful? Engage in risky behaviors/thrill seeking? Have lots of ex's that he still talks to, sees, says he loves, but says horrible things about them, too? They're still calling him? He runs hot and cold? Keeps you guessing? Makes you sad or cry and doesn't seem bothered about it? Seems to enjoy spending your money, using your car, house, hot tub, vacation home, access to your bank account without having contribution of his own...? Really. His own? Not stolen from another woman? Asks for a loan then never pays you back? Calls you a psychobitch from hell if you ask for your money back? Keeps coming around for something even though he often does so and terrorizes you, threatens you, breaks your things, eats all your food, steals your car or hang around in your bed screwing hookers while you're at work all day? Seem to have odd losses of keys, money, time, memory? Gives you things as bait, hoping small tokens can be used as "proof" that he's "so worthy"? Calls you names....ever? Says he "wants to be in a relationship" one day and another day says, "we never had a relationship"? Has certain friends who also appear to perform "work" for you but often leave jobs undone after they've asked for all their "wages" upfront? Appears to enjoy duping you, over and over, as long as he's able to milk you of resources? Watch his face when he's lying. Look for the quick micro expression known as "Duper's Delight". It can't be masked and it's quick but sure. It appears while he's lying to you. The reptilian brain that he operates with can't interfere with Duper's Delight. Does he seem to enjoy hurting anyone ever or pulling hurtful pranks or hurting animals? Does he ever brag about hurting someone, or sexual conquests or risky behavior? I use questions that pertain to these subjects as I am first "interviewing"/getting to know a guy. These are very revealing. Finally. Here's the secret to avoiding being hurt by these super kooks... You must never, ever, ever feel desperate or lonely for a guy or a relationship. Forget about men altogether. To have any feelings for a psychopath is your problem and only yours. You must eliminate any feelings of tenderness for these mega-über-psycho-loser-users. You must never allow these cretins into your life. This is serious. This is real. These guys are out there and they target you, Nice Women!! Be on your highest alert for these guys. A few are women. They are pretty obvious, too, as they seem to have people around them who are like them or are their pawns &/or seem to suffer from immunosuppressive symptoms. These predators are out there conspiring with other assclowns to target and destroy nice people. Make no mistake. I used to be so Pollyannaish after being married to the greatest guy for 16 years before he had a fatal industrial accident. Then I was thrust into this very scary society which I'd been isolated from while being married and in love. I saw somewhere to "Trust No One", and thought it odd and sad that anyone would even consider that as a lifestyle, but apparently this is exactly the kind of reptilian throwback mentality that one must never trust. These people, mostly men, are predatory and in one of the expert's opinions, these men are the single main reason that civilization, mankind, and all of humanity suffer rather than progress, even after all this time and energy spent to "get it right". Sadly, these cretinous ghouls and dregs of reptilian masquerading as mammalian, create all the drama in our lives, and basically amount to not only a waste of time but an unnecessary expenditure of resources. They are a drain on society, they create pointless drama and pain and they destroy not only their own lives, but many, many others. Nice people's lives. Anyone they can touch, they will hurt. Be on guard, Dear Sisters. Save yourselves!!!