Ever wonder what happened to the spark, the ZING that used to be in your relationship? Let’s face it, people fall out of love sometimes. It’s not fun or easy to deal with, but if you find yourself in a position that causes you to wonder what’s going on with your relationship, take a look around. Here are 7 reasons why we fall out of love.

1. Resentment

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Resentment is probably the number one cause of falling out of love with someone. If you or your partner is more successful in business, has better friends or even a brighter attitude and personality, one or the other could grow to resent that in your relationship. Unresolved arguments or sharp words can also build up over time causing the person on the receiving end to bury feelings of anger deep inside. Watch out for resentment!

2. Being A Parent

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Now I hope that no one thinks I’m against having children or that I think children cause marital problems. When two people become parents, they may feel as though they have lost their identity. It could be that the burden of raising the children falls more onto one parent than the other. You and your husband may drift apart because you are consumed with being a mother and father. This problem can be fixed easier the earlier on you catch it. Enlist the help of friends or family to babysit a few nights a month so you get some one-on-one time with each other to re-connect.

3. An Offensive Or Hurtful Action

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A common reason for falling out of love is because one of you does or did something that is offensive and hurtful and unbearable to the other. Cheating, smoking, drinking, gambling, lying, and purposeful un-employment are some of the top offenders. If you or your partner is doing this and know the other is hurt by it, take a step back. If it’s you, ask yourself which means more to you, the habit, or the person it offends. If it is your partner, ask yourself if it’s worth the pain and stress they put you through to stay with them.