I hear you girl, beauty is as bad as it is good. If that picture with this post is you, may I offer some advice. You are pretty, so why do you wear so much make-up (let your natural beauty shine!!!). That may be one of the reasons you are not taken seriously. studies have shown (I cannot find the one I am talking about, they talked about it on tv shows) that women who obviously spend "time" primping (applying make-up, straightening hair, etc..) are not as good of works so a women that rolls out of bed , throws her hair in a ponytail and heads to work does. The same theory goes for the kind of clothes you wear. Women that wear provocative clothes (low neck lines (you have boob crack showing), short skirts, etc..) are not looked at as if they have brain. At least until they prove themselves (which is harder for them). Or like in your case, you may not get the kudos for a promotion that you deserve because co-works think you "earned it alright,lol" (if you know what I mean). I know it may not apply to every women but it is something to think about next time you are applying for a job or getting ready for work! P.S. I am sure you were not as ugly in high school as you thought you were (considering how you look now). I think everyone thinks they were ugly in high school, lol.

I'm not really beautiful any more. I am fifty, so my looks have faded a bit, but I am still attractive for my age. Recently I lost 15kgs (about 34 pounds), got my teeth fixed and because of a nose job to correct a deviated septum several years ago and a hysterectomy that greatly improved my health two years ago, I am now one heck of a good looking woman for my age. One young man approached me in the street a few months ago to say 'madam, you are beautiful', but I don't get the same attention I got when I was young - unless I go without glasses.... I am having so much trouble at work, mainly because the other women, who are all around my age, hate me. They take everything I say the wrong way - such as the time I advised my secretary to wear something nice to an event, because I thought she'd misunderstood me and was wearing 'work clothes'. But she took it the wrong way. If I talk about dieting, and I am forever dieting, they all go quiet (because my diet of two years worked and I am as slim and shapely as a 30 year old) and they are frumpy old ladies. Like you, I was not born beautiful. I grew into it and while it was fun when I was younger, it was also difficult. People would say 'oh....poor thing' mockingly, but it can be rather difficult when no woman wants to be seen with you. It is isolating when you are bullied and not taken seriously or considered unintelligent. I would rather be beautiful than not. Sure. But it isn't as easy as it seems. Takes some getting used to.

I totally agree with you! I too possess great beauty and sometimes I just don't know how to deal, oh my gosh!

actually your blog came up when I googled "beauty curse". I am a multi-racial, primarily african american woman. also an ugly duckling. Ive ALWAYS had problems with women...never really had a true girl friend because of my looks. first i didnt fit in because i was "the black girl" and was also chubby. well my chub became curves and my hair grew very long and am now considered attractive. I think its a curse. I have never had issues finding a man...I am married to a wonderful wonderful man but I still struggle with friends. I have no true friends even tho I joined a sorority in college for that purpose. theyre all uncomfortable or intimidated by me or jealous. I hate it!!!! im so depressed and lonely some days I want to die. even women in my family hate me. I also want to be liked and loved for more than my looks.

Beauty can be such a curse. I was an ugly duckling in high school and became a beautiful swan in college. My family and friends tell me I grow more and more beautiful everyday. It's wonderful to hear. However, I always thought that the reason I was single was because I wasn't pretty enough. Now despite being called "gorgeous", "lovely", "attractive", "hot", "cute", "beautiful", I've realized that beauty is quite a curse when it comes to dating. Less pretty girls always have boyfriends at my university, simply because the boys are intimidated by very attractive women. These same girls give me the stink eye for being beautiful, so they hate me and it's hard to find genuine friends. Also, I live in the city. Constant hollering, hooting, honking. And wolf-whistling. Seriously boys? Grow the hell up. A woman is not a piece of meat, she's a person. My mom has also taken advantage of my new beauty and she constantly takes photographs of me and sends them to all my friends and family. Random people I don't even know comment on them. I've always wanted to be beautiful. Now that I am, I worry that's the only thing people notice about me. I'm also insecure and working on improving my self-confidence. All the attention I get regarding my looks makes me uncomfortable. When I tell family and friends I'm single, they don't believe me and think I'm lying. It's completely unfair to be judged solely on your looks. On top of all that, I'm racially ambiguous. Beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, but because people can't place my nationality easily, men of all different races (and ages :( ) hit on me. I'd like just one day where I don't have to deal with lustful stares from men and hateful stares from women. And for all the good guys out there, please approach beautiful girls! They're only looking for kind men who can appreciate their beauty BUT ALSO appreciate their personality.