This is me down to the very last detail! I'm so skinny that when I wear a bikini I look anorexic. And I can't gain weight to save my life. I get criticized for being so skinny, like it's somehow my fault and it's so annoying because there really is nothing I can do about my weight. In fact, when I try and gain weight I end up losing more! I also can rarely find dresses that fit. Maxi dresses look like nightgowns and shorter dresses make me look like I'm 6!

My sister was anorexic and died when she was 35 years old. I can spot someone with an eating disorder a mile away. Every emaciated woman claims she's "naturally skinny", "eats a ton of food but doesn't gain weight", "tries to gain weight but can't", etc. I've heard it all. There are a few genuinely naturally thin women but anyone who is painfully skinny is that way because she is severely restricting her food intake and exercising excessively. It's basic. Calories in, calories out. No one has a metabolism that defies the laws of thermodynamics.

No, it is never okay to 'berate' someone for how they look, but let's be clear: the thin, even emaciated, woman is still held to be the beauty ideal. There is a FAR greater stigma against overweight people than the naturally thin. It is just as difficult for an overweight person to find clothes that fit, they also deal with people judging them and assuming they are unhealthy...healthy is still synonymous with thin in this society. My main issue is that the naturally thin can bitch about being too skinny (while people look enviously on) while the naturally bigger woman or man can never complain about their issues because they will simply be told to lose weight (while people roll their eyes). So is your point that mean people suck? Every body type has its shortcomings, but complaining about it only promotes the idea that one is better than the other. Accept your natural shape and the POSITIVE aspects that come with it--I'm sure you can find some. Also, as someone who suffered (and still suffers) from EDNOS, I can't tell you how much I would have killed to have someone think I was anorexic at the height of my disorder (as sick as that sounds) At my thinnest, I was still on the low end of my weight range but not in anorectic territory. I think as a society we need to be more aware that eating disorders, like people, come in all shapes and sizes--an extreme amount of damage can be done to the body before anyone starts noticing that someone is 'too' thin. If you see all the signs of an eating disorder, regardless of the size and appearance of the person in question, reach out to them! Sorry for that little service announcement, just trying to spread awareness. And I'm in agreement with the original poster in that particular sense: just as 'fat' doesn't necessarily mean 'unhealthy', 'skinny' doesn't necessarily mean 'eating disorder'.

i agree a lot with this article because i am naturally skinny too. it really is nerve cracking when u complain that u have lost weight and everybody gives you nasty looks. it does drives you crazy when u go shopping and since brands are making clothes bigger for bigger people (i'm not against this)you can't find anything fitting.there are still girls who are naturally really skinny and it is a nightmare trying to gain weight. for me it's almost impossible, i have only managed to gain 4 pounds in 6 months and i lost it past week i had my end of semester examinations. i think naturally skinny girls really get what it is like to struggle with clothing and dieting and people making low taste jokes about your body. we get what does fatty girls go through, even when we are in the exact oposite situation. so, when u meet a naturally skinny girl, be a reasonable person and don't tease her about it, she has no control of her metabolism at all.

This is me down to the very last detail! I'm so skinny that when I wear a bikini I look anorexic. And I can't gain weight to save my life. I get criticized for being so skinny, like it's somehow my fault and it's so annoying because there really is nothing I can do about my weight. In fact, when I try and gain weight I end up losing more!

I've never been skinny , and I could only dream of eating and not gaining weight . I usually pick on naturally very skinny people , because I'm just jealous of them - why are they born skinny , while I constantly have to worry about my weight ? You are very lucky that you're skinny .

Yourmum - you don't know that I have it easy. Try a bit of empathy.