8 Grounds for Throwing Away Self-Help Books ...

The self-help section in bookstores must be one of the largest sections. Shelves are groaning with advice on changing your life, your image, your finances … Some of these books can be very useful, especially those dealing with practical issues like money. However, there are good reasons why it’s not wise to depend too much on self-help books …

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Self-reliance

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Relying on a book to change your life won’t achieve much. The responsibility for change lies with you - you need to work on yourself. If you are not prepared to make the effort, then you won’t get very far.

Realistic Expectations

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Many people dream of a new life, being a different person, making a fortune … Yes, some changes are achievable, but it is important to be realistic. You may get some good ideas and philosophies from these books, but applying them to your actual situation is a lot harder.

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Opinion

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The books are written from the point of view of one person. Who can say that they are right? I’m particularly incensed by ‘The Surrendered Wife’ – what is this, the 1950s?

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In It for the Money

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These authors, like any other, want to make money. They’re not sharing their ‘secrets’ just to be altruistic. Besides, what are their credentials? Are they really qualified enough to give advice?

Too Many

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The self-help section is bursting at the seams with a plethora of titles. Which one do you choose? It’s so hard to know. Plus, if any of them were that good, why would there be a need for even more?

Get on with It

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Sometimes it is better not to intellectualise things too much, and just get on with life. Books can be useful, but can also hinder progress, in that you can think too much but still not act on that.

No Feedback

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Self-help books are full of advice and suggestions, but where are the authors when it comes to feedback? You won’t get any comments on how you’re progressing, or advice on the next step.

Responsibility

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Many people feel strongly that they want to make changes, but make the mistake of looking to others to do that for them and show them the way. If you really feel that you need to change your life, the only person who can do that is yourself.

Self-help books can be useful but must be chosen with care. You can have too many expectations of the book, and expect it to make amazing changes to your life. Such changes can only be gained through hard work and efforts to develop. Have you ever found one of these books to be useful, or do you consider them a waste of money?

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Great post! I completely agree with you about self-help books but I'm starting to feel the same about all the websites out there. I know from my own experience that when I decided to make a change in my life I ended up spending days online researching every detail of whatever it was (diet etc) and by the time i was done I was exhausted and too scared to actually start because of the overload of information. I think we'd be surprised by how much of our own reason, logic and prior knowledge we can apply to whatever it is we're going through. And also to learn from the people around us. This is just me babbling but your post had great timing since I needed to be reminded of these things :)

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