Why should I be cautious about sharing everything with my boyfriend?

It's important to keep some things to yourself because it helps maintain your individuality and boundaries in the relationship. Plus, it can prevent unnecessary drama or misunderstandings.

Is it bad if I share too much with my boyfriend?

Not necessarily, but oversharing can sometimes lead to feeling too exposed or vulnerable. It's good to have some mystery and privacy, even in close relationships.

Are there things I should keep just for myself?

Absolutely! Personal thoughts, certain insecurities, or things from your past that you're not comfortable sharing yet can be kept private. It's about what makes you feel safe and comfortable.

Can sharing too much affect the relationship?

Yes, sometimes sharing too much can put strain on the relationship. It might overwhelm your partner or lead to conflicts if not handled delicately.

How do I know what not to share with my boyfriend?

Trust your instincts! If something feels too personal or risky to share, maybe hold off. It's all about finding a balance that respects both your and your partner's comfort zones.

When it comes to relationships, there are always boundaries. Whether you like it or not, they are there and it is your job to make sure you don't overstep yours. I don't believe you should ever intentionally hide anything from your man, but there are a few things you should never share with him. Read on to discover what they are!

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1. Your Bodily Functions

Yea, everybody farts. And everyone has to go poop. And shockingly, every person in the world has belched at one time or another. But men like to think of us as ladylike and feminine. After all, isn't that what attracts them to us in the first place? So don't give any raunchy details about your period or your stomach flu. Save all that for your diary!

2. Your Girlfriends' Secrets

This really is a no-brainer. Your friends confide in you and expect you to keep that confidence. After all, they do the same for you, right? So keep their trust intact. You have no idea how hard it is on a guy to hear us dish about all the latest gossip when all they want to do is rest after a long day. And if the secret you are telling is one of your close girlfriends who happens to have a boyfriend that your man sees everyday, it may be hard for him not to let it slip.

3. Your Toothbrush

Yes, I know you kiss him and you both drink from the same glass occasionally. But we live in a civilized age and hygiene is a little more obvious now than it was 200 years ago. Toothbrushes only cost a few dollars. Buy your own!

4. Your Password

Unless you both share an email account, or you're married, this is a big no-no. Giving him your password may encourage him to "check up" on you, and all that's going to do is raise insecurities on your part and feelings of distrust on yours. Not good for a healthy relationship. Plus, he may find out about the surprise party you were planning him for next weekend!

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Your Dislike for His Mother

There will always be a few of us who can't stand or get along with our in-laws. But that doesn't mean you should give him a highlighted, detailed list of the 492 reasons why every time you have to be around them! He may feel pressured to choose between you, or he may get aggravated with you and put a strain on your relationship. If the problem is too big to be ignored, gently state your case. If he doesn't see it your way, give him some time and in the meantime, learn to bite your tongue and keep your cool.

6. Your Insecurities

If you think your thighs are too fat, your hair is too curly and your teeth are too crooked, try to refrain from bringing it up every 3 to 4 hours. Men get tires of hearing about our horrible bodies. He thinks you are beautiful. He's with you isn't he? And if he accepts you, you can certainly accept yourself! Besides, you drawing attention to your "flaws" may make him notice it when it never really stood out before.

7. Your past...in Detail

While it's never OK to lie or hide your past from someone if you are in a committed relationship, it's also not OK to tell your significant other how many times a day you kissed each one of your exes or give him the livid details of what you and your girlfriends used to do to get back at all the guys who broke your hearts. Guys just don't need to know that sort of stuff. They always wonder if they measure up or if you regret choosing them. Don't give him reason to wonder!

You CAN have an open, honest relationship with your man. All you need to do in order to achieve it is be kind and thoughtful and think about what you say before you say it! Do you ever share things with your sweetie that you probably shouldn't?

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Stefan
2010-12-05T14:58:55.000Z
You left one out! NEVER tell your boyfriend that you read lists like this one! He will think you lie your ass off all the time because the magazine articles told you how to live!
Amanda
2013-01-02T04:22:34.000Z
I agree with pretty much all of this article. Tooth brush is to gross to share. Also, I do know couples who can openly pass gas and are fine with it, but the men I have dated and my boyfriend now find it gross for girls to fart. I don't fart often or loudly so I'm usually golden on that point, but I will burp since I'm ok with my guy doing worse. It maybe double standard, but men are attracted to woman for a reason and its because they want to be with a feminine person. I have learned from the years of changing friends and partners that having them know every single detailed is usually not a great idea. be honest, but you don't have to know about every fight they had with their exes because they may have grown and change from then, but it will be new story to you and you may start viewing them differently. its always different with differently couples but these are my thoughts!
shawna
2011-02-10T17:51:40.000Z
ok so first off there are so many men out there that you perfer you to be comfortable enough to say fart or burp in front of them and its very unhealthy to hold it in now im not saying that i just let it out whenever but if it slips so what get over it they do and actually they laugh when it happens and as for the inlaws im not saying to make him choose cuz family is family but you should all at least sit down and talk it over and figure out the common grounds.. and the last point about sharing your past i dont do that but men do it too my current bf made the mistake of telling me things that i just shouldnt have known and now i feel really insecure about our relationship and i just dont think i measure up so men do it too not just women and if anything we get more hurt by it because we are more insecure about ourselves.
Quick
2011-07-25T20:41:45.000Z
I think some 16 year old with insecurities wrote this. Rule 3. Don't share your tooth brush is ridiculous. During sex, you are swaping all kinds of body fluids with all kinds of body parts, getting every inch licked and sucked and you do it in return...and you are worried about using their toothbrush or them using yours after all that! Get real. On the other side, I wouldn't share many of the things listed here, just because of my privacy policies, but if they asked, I would think about my answer.. You should be confident in sharing when you feel it is right.
Natasha
2010-11-08T12:24:02.000Z
You forgot to mention herpes.