Sitting on the runway for 40 minutes, waiting for our planeto get the AOK signal for take-off, I learned way too much about the talkative guysitting next to me.
Amongst other things, he shared that a womanwhoâs on birth control pills [read: she doesnât insist on condom use ever] is worth her weight in gold.
Shortly there after, he made a reference to The Mile High Club, his eyesdarted up to the sign for the restrooms, and then back to my face.
At that point I picked up my newspaper andstarted reading.
It probably wouldnât have occurred to my fellow passenger thata man whoâs packing some condoms, who actually uses them -- and doesnâtcomplain about the ultimate, de-sensitized sacrifice he and his penis aremaking -- is worth his weight ingold, too.
Anyway, in my opinion, the rare, true treasure of a man isthe one who knows how to give a massage worthy of a queenâs ransom. And he knowsthat sometimes, a massage is just a massage: the rubbing or kneading of partsof the body to relax muscles, aid in circulation, or provide gentle sensualstimulation.
In other words, giving or receiving a massage isnât an automaticAOK signal that sex is likely to follow soon there after.
Although.......it sure seems like an AOK signal.
In fact, "massage" is a tricky word and a tricky concept for partnered and single people.
For example, a man who goes to a âmassage parlorâ and pays to receive a âmassageâ definesthe experience differently than his wife or girlfriend would if she found outabout it.
Or how about when a loving husband or boyfriend offers togive his tired partner a ârubâ? While she thinks, âYeah, sure, some pampering would feel good,â he might be thinking,âYeaaa, turning her on will feel good!â
And how about massage and the single woman?
A single woman might say to a man on a date,âWork has you all tense in your shoulders and neck, huh? Poor baby. Maybe sometime Iâll use my Shiatsumassage techniques to work out those kinks.â
But he hears, âBlah blah blahâŚnaked as the day we were bornâŚkinky,later.â
Okay, to be fair, all men wouldnât hear it that way. (Although quite a few might?) They are trying to hear us, about assuccessfully as we are trying to hear them!
The thing is, if women and men canât always hear each otheron the simplest and most straightforward of topics, no wonder something getslost in translation at times when rubbing, kneading, and partially or completely naked bodies are inthe mix together.
Massage without sex. It can happen. It does happen. And not just on massage therapists' tables.
But the next time a man youâre getting to know tells youthat he just wants to take you backto his place and give you a nice little massage, if you say to yourself, âHow sweet! Now thereâs something harmless he and I can do with our clothes offuntil the time is right for sex,â...
... consider that something might be getting lost in translation, between you and your common sense.
