Modern dating can feel like a whirlwind, especially when you find someone who truly captures your intellectual curiosity. Whether you're navigating the early stages of a relationship or dealing with the unexpected shifts of daily life, reflecting on our experiences helps us grow. Here’s a look back at some personal lessons on dating, self-improvement, and why "slow and steady" usually wins the race.
Oh no, I’ve said too much.
This may be abstruse, but I’m sticking to my decision not to write too much about "Lit Prof." That being said, the journey continues, and I’m learning more about myself with every interaction.
Dating Updates and Reflections
Getting back into the dating scene requires a balance of excitement and groundedness. Here is where I am currently:
- The Second Date: I have a second date tonight and I am very much looking forward to it. There is something special about that second meeting where the initial nerves start to fade.
- Constant Communication: We’ve continued to send emails and have messaged over the last few days. I hope this isn’t over-communicating, but I still find him fascinating and ridiculously sexy. Something about a vast vocabulary really does it for me.
- Managing Insecurity: I need to remember not to identify all of the things that make me insecure during the course of conversation. I know I often do this hoping my date will invalidate my stress, but it really just highlights those insecurities. The new plan is to keep things on a positive slant.
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And, back to the rest of my life.
The Journey of Tattoo Removal
So, I went to my 7th tattoo removal session yesterday. It is a momentous thing for me to shed this tattoo, as it has been anathema to me for years now. If you're considering this process, it's worth checking out official resources on laser tattoo removal to know what to expect.
Imagine my great amusement when I walked into the clinic and the music playing was the theme from 2001: A Space Odyssey. Am I the only one to see the significance in that? Shedding the old and evolving into something new felt very cinematic.
Tattoo Removal Progress
| Session | Experience | Result |
|---|---|---|
| Early Sessions | High sensitivity | Initial fading |
| 7th Session | Manageable | Significant clearance |
Also in the random section...
Best quote of the week (thanks ACG!). This was said in response to a date who complimented her freckles for lack of ANYTHING else to say:
"What, are you going to skin me and wear me?"
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Further thoughts on taking things S-L-O-W
My best friend called me last night crying hysterically. In the worst possible parallel event, her boyfriend dumped her "because he didn’t feel a spark." It’s a tough reminder of how unpredictable relationships can be. The big difference here is that they had been together for over two years and had known each other for many years before that.
In any case, listening to my beautiful, charming, creative, and fabulous best friend crying so hard she couldn’t breathe reminded me how much we risk every time we put our hearts on the line. It is important to be able to take the risk, but I need to remember how much pain can result when one puts her heart in the wrong set of hands.
Note to self: Take it slow, V. Know what you are getting into before you get into it.
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