Personally, I have never dated my best friend. Unless you consider the fact that I think of my husband as not only my husband, but my best friend. However, I don’t think that counts. What I am talking about is when you take your best friend and make them into your boyfriend or girlfriend. While there are many pros to this, there are also some cons. Below, I am going to give you 7 reasons not to date your best friend …
7. You Could Ruin What You Have
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You like the relationship you are already in, right? You enjoy having your best friend as your best friend, right? If you date your best friend, then you could end up losing your best friend altogether. Are you ready to ruin that relationship? Because best friends who date hardly ever go back to being best friends.
6. It Might Not Be Comfortable
You will feel almost as if you are dating your brother or sister. I know that if I were to date my best friend, I wouldn’t feel right. The best friend knows all your secrets, which could be good, but sometimes, it could be bad.
5. You Will Have to Find a New Best Friend
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I don’t know about you, but it’s hard to find best friends and when you date one, you’ll have to start all over again. I find it much easier to keep the best friend you have.
4. You Won’t Be Able to Tell Your Deep Secrets You Can Only Tell to Your Best Friend
Do you know all those secrets you had? The ones you could only tell your best friend? The ones you couldn’t tell your boyfriend or girlfriend. Well, now, you will not have a best friend to tell those secrets to, because you will be dating your best friend!
3. You Won’t Be Able to Get Relationship Advice
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When you need relationship advice, don’t you go to your best friend for that? Now, you will no longer be able to get that advice when you feel your relationship is in trouble. I know, you could always go online and get advice, but there’s nothing like getting it from a best friend – someone who knows all about you.
2. They Will Always Be There Anyways
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Who would you lose first – your partner or your best friend? I would say your partner. Best friends are there forever, unless you do something horrible. You will always have your best friend there, but the relationship with your partner could end.
1. They Will Know Everything about You – Even the Embarrassing Things
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Are you ready to date someone who knows everything about you? Even those embarrassing things? Even if they know you don’t know how to kiss? That you have a certain problem? Personally, this wouldn’t be a downfall for me, it’d be a relief knowing that the partner knows everything about you, but some girls don’t like this.
There you have 7 reasons not to date your best friend. If you want to date your best friend, then you should do so with caution. Think it through, first. So, have you ever dated your best friend?
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Frequently Asked Questions
- Why is it risky to date your best friend?
- Oh, it's like playing with fire! You risk losing a super important person in your life if things go south. Plus, those comfortable, easy hangouts might get a bit awkward if you're dating.
- Can dating your best friend ruin the friendship?
- Unfortunately, yes. If the relationship doesn't work out, you might end up losing both a friend and a partner. Going back to just being friends after a breakup can be super tricky.
- What if dating my best friend is amazing?
- Totally possible! Some people do have amazing relationships with their best friends. But it's a gamble—if you're okay with the risks, go for it!
- Shouldn't I date someone who knows me well, like a best friend?
- True, having someone who knows you well is great. But sometimes, keeping that awesome friendship might be more valuable than trying to turn it into something romantic.
- What are some ways dating a friend could change our dynamic?
- Oh, it can change so many things! You might start feeling jealous or insecure, and shared friend groups can get all tangled up. Plus, all those comfortable vibes might turn into relationship stress.