I have a friend who isn’t the best-looking girl in the world, but who always has guys hovering over her. She’s not easy or slutty. I always wondered: how does she do it? What about her makes her so approachable? How does she attract men everywhere she goes, without looking easy? I watched her closely, and finally just asked her. Here’s what I noticed, and what she told me.
1. Be Friendly
Men are more likely to approach a woman who looks and acts friendly, not intimidating or cold or severe.
2. Smile
One of the best ways to appear friendly is to smile. A lot. At just about everyone. Look like you’re having fun, and like everyone is delightful around you.
3. Get Caught Looking
It’s not a bad thing to make eye contact with a man. Make sure you give him a friendly look, though, not a leering one.
4. Dress Nicely
Dressing provocatively will definitely get men to approach you, but only because they’ll be into your physical appearance. In other words, dress a little more modestly, and you’ll be approached by men who are interested in more than just getting you in bed!
5. Don’t Travel in a Pack
Men find it difficult to approach women who are surrounded by too many people.
6. Don’t Smoke or Drink Heavily
If a man approaches you after you’ve been drinking heavily, rest assured, he’s hoping to get you into bed, and he’s not interested in much else. And most men also find heavy smoking a turn-off.
7. Don’t Appear Moody or Cold
If you’re a total drama queen, no-one is going to want to approach you. Who would want the hassle?
8. Be Nice to Everyone
If the barista at Starbucks forgets the whipped cream on your mocha, don’t throw a fit and start screaming at him. This goes back to the “friendly” and “moody” tips. Be nice to everyone!
9. Be a Little Modest on the Dance Floor
If you’re out there grinding away, chances are, the only men who will approach you are doing it because they think you’re easy. So have fun out on the dance floor, by all means, but be a little modest. Also remember that if a guy asks you to dance, go ahead and say yes, if you want to. It’s just a dance! But feel free to walk away if he makes you uncomfortable.
10. Be Confident
There’s a fine line between confident and aggressive, and a wide line between confident and shy. Men find it easier to approach confident women, but not aggressive ones. And it’s also easier to approach someone who isn’t overly shy.
11. Have a Sense of Humor
If you seem bored or unhappy or just hard to please, men will stay far away. Have a sense of humor! Laugh, smile, be light-hearted and happy, and you won’t be able to keep the men away!
12. Know How to Chat
When a guy does approach, know how to chat politely but with a little flirtation. Keep it light, and know what you can talk about (idle chatter) and what you can’t (your ex).
Most of my friend’s tips had to do with her friendliness. I noticed that she tended to attract men who liked her for her humor and sweetness, not because she looked or seemed easy. Do you have any ideas to share on how to attract a guy without seeming easy or slutty? How do you attract guy who like you for you? Let me know!
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Frequently Asked Questions
- How can I look approachable without seeming too eager?
- Smile warmly and maintain open body language to seem friendly but confident.
- What are subtle signs that show I'm interested?
- Make eye contact, nod occasionally, and face him directly to show engagement.
- Is it okay to initiate small talk first?
- Yes, starting a casual conversation can make you seem confident and approachable.
- How important is body language when attracting men?
- Extremely important—relaxed posture and gentle gestures invite interaction.
- Should I avoid looking too busy or distracted?
- Yes, staying present and attentive makes you more approachable.
- How can dressing style affect men’s approach?
- Wearing an outfit that makes you feel confident and comfortable often attracts positive attention.
- Is it bad to laugh at his jokes even if they aren’t funny?
- Not at all; a genuine smile or light chuckle encourages conversation.
- Can being surrounded by friends deter men from approaching?
- Sometimes, but a friendly wave or stepping slightly aside can invite interaction.
- How do I appear confident without seeming unapproachable?
- Maintain good posture and calm tone while being warm and open.
- What topics are good to bring up to keep things light and engaging?
- Simple topics like favorite movies, music, or hobbies work well to spark interest.