It seems like everything comes with suggestions, so why not kisses? If the hair dryer and XBOX comes with handy tips, why hasn’t anyone made a list of tips on how to kiss a girl for the first time? Well, my friend, put down the controller, pause Black Ops, and listen up! Being a girl, I know what I love (spontaneity!) and what I hate (bad breath!) in a first kiss, so I can help! Here are a few ideas on how to go about kissing a girl…
1. Get Prepared
If you’re about to kiss a girl for the first time, make sure you’re prepared for the moment… by this I mean make sure you’ve brushed your teeth fairly recently or at least had a mint or a piece of minty gum (like Orbit). If you know your breath is fresh, you’ll feel more confident, and ready to proceed! It wouldn’t hurt to make sure your lips aren’t chapped, too. A little lip balm isn’t a bad idea…
2. Have a Plan of Action
While I’m all for spontaneity, it’s important to have at least a basic sketch of a smooch-plan, once that gives you some privacy. A first kiss isn’t going to be very special in the middle of someone’s noisy party, and might be a little more meaningful on the beach (during summer) or at the park (while sledding in winter).
3. The Kind of Kiss
The first kiss isn’t the time to be trying your skills at tonsil hockey. In other words, a first kiss might go over better, and be more memorable, if it’s sweet (not a lot of tongue) rather than over-sexed and sloppy (lots of tongue).
4. Where do I Put My Hands?
If you’ve been picturing this marvelous kiss, looking at it from all different angles, you might be wondering where to put your hands when you’re kissing a girl for the first time. If you’re walking and holding hands, you can keep holding her hands while you go in for the smooch, or you can (romantically) brush her hair out of her face a little, then hold her hand again, while you’re kissing. That’s just one scenario… do what feels natural to you, but bear in mind the first kiss isn’t the time to get all fresh and feely with your hands, mister!
5. Make Sure She’s Okay with It!
Chances are, if you’ve been spending a lot of time with a girl, as more than just friends, then she knows you’re interested in her, and she’s interested in you. But if you’re not sure that she’s into you, don’t try to kiss her before you find out! Ask her how she feels. It might seem even more intimidating to ask her, but it might be embarrassing to try and kiss a girl who doesn’t think of you that way.
6. Be Prepared to Laugh a Little
First kisses can be awkward (trust me, she’s just as nervous as you are), and a lot can go wrong (bumping heads, brushing noses, you get the idea). If you do have a minor kiss mishap, your first reaction will be to laugh a little, and feel free! It will help ease the tension, and you might even get another kiss!
7. Move in, Close Your Eyes, and Go for It!
Part of the reasons first kisses are so memorable is because they’re completely impossible to predict. You won’t be able to plan for every possibility, right? If all else fails, wing it a little! Get closer, move in, and kiss the girl!
Okay, feel free to continue playing XBOX… or maybe call or text that girl and see if she’s free for a movie on Friday night? Read through this list again before your date, to make sure you’re prepared… Or if you’re a guy who’s recently made his move, do you have any other girl-kissing tips to share?
Top Photo Credit: JohanaLizet
Frequently Asked Questions
- How can I tell if a girl is ready for a first kiss?
- Look for signs like prolonged eye contact, smiling, and leaning in closer during conversation.
- What's the best way to start a first kiss?
- Begin with gentle eye contact, smile, and lean in slowly to gauge her comfort.
- Should I ask before kissing her for the first time?
- It's always respectful to ask or get a clear sign she’s comfortable, making the moment more special.
- How do I make the first kiss memorable?
- Focus on being present, keep it soft and slow, and pay attention to her reactions.
- What if I'm nervous about the first kiss?
- Take deep breaths, go slow, and remember that it’s okay to be a little nervous—it shows you care.
- How important is fresh breath for a first kiss?
- Very important! Fresh breath boosts confidence and makes the experience pleasant for both.
- Should I use my hands during the first kiss?
- Gently resting your hands on her waist or cheek can add intimacy, but keep it natural and respectful.
- What if she pulls away during the kiss?
- Respect her space, give her time, and don’t take it personally—communication is key.
- Can I kiss her on the first date?
- Yes, if the moment feels right and you both seem comfortable, it’s okay to share a first kiss.
- How do I follow up after the first kiss?
- Smile, maintain gentle eye contact, and maybe say something sweet to keep the connection strong.