By Dianna Hernandez
Hello, my name is Dianna, with two Ns! Many people get that confused and spell it wrong. It's one of my biggest pet peeves. And if you call me Diane, I hate that name! But Dianna is only one of the many names and facets I have. There's Melba, a lovely lady, proper and true. She's a large Black woman from the South who believes wholeheartedly in Christ and lives her life for Him, always spreading kindness. Then there is Sally. Sally is a dirty little teen who does as she pleases and wants only to have fun all day long. She has no responsibilities or worries, but she can sometimes be quite mean. Her fresh tongue might cut you to the core and she'll just walk away laughing. Don't ask Sally if you look fat in that dress—she'll tell you the truth! But she's strong, honest, and doesn't take any crap from anyone. She likes to teach women how to do the same. Many women love to hate her because she is very sexy and likes to flaunt it. Finally, there is Dee Dee. She is a child-like spirit who loves to laugh, love, and dance. She falls in love at the drop of a hat and then gets her heart broken because she is quick to believe men's lies. She is easily hurt by words and actions and would rather run and hide than fight or argue. She just wants everyone to be happy, but she is often filled with sadness because she can't seem to find her way home.
| Aspect of Self | Key Traits | Purpose & Strengths | | --- | --- | --- | | Melba | Kind, grounded, proper, faithful | Provides calm guidance, grace, and spiritual strength | | Sally | Bold, unfiltered, protective, fearless | Enforces strong boundaries and teaches self-confidence | | Dee Dee | Gentle, loving, romantic, playful | Keeps empathy, wonder, and the inner child alive |These females are all different, but they are real in me. Each personality has her own place and time when she makes her appearance because I need her to. I am not crazy nor do I have multiple personalities; I have just come to realize who I am and what I need in my life. They help me get along in this difficult world, and I appreciate their help. Learning self-acceptance is essential for emotional growth, as discussed in mental health research on Psychology Today and guidelines from the American Psychological Association. Who's inside you? When was the last time you let your inner child come out and play?