What is intimacy exactly?

Oh, intimacy is that wonderful closeness and connection you feel with another person. It goes beyond physical stuff, like hugging or holding hands. It's about feeling safe, being yourself, and sharing your true thoughts and feelings with someone. It's all about building that deeper bond.

Why is intimacy important in relationships?

Well, intimacy is kind of like the glue in a relationship. It helps you feel connected and supported. When you have intimacy, you can really understand and appreciate each other, which makes your relationship stronger and more fulfilling. It also helps in navigating through life's ups and downs together.

How do I start building intimacy with my partner?

Start small, like having open conversations where both of you share your thoughts, dreams, and even fears. Spend quality time together, be it through date nights, or just chilling at home. It’s about being present and showing interest in each other’s lives. Be patient; building intimacy is like growing a garden, it takes time and effort.

What if I'm afraid to be intimate?

That's totally normal! Being vulnerable can be scary, but remember, it's about baby steps. Start by being honest with yourself about your fears, and then try sharing those thoughts with your partner. The key is to be in a safe and trustworthy environment where you feel comfortable opening up.

Can intimacy fade over time?

Yeah, it can, especially if life gets too busy or if you stop making an effort to connect. The good news is, it's never too late to reignite that spark. Keep communicating, have regular check-ins with each other, and make time for fun and romance. Intimacy is something that can always be nurtured with attention and care.

Beginners Guide to Intimacy ...

Progressing into Intimacy
If two people click, there’s no other way but for the casual relationship of dating turn into something more serious like exclusivity. This opens the door for intimacy to enter your dating relationship and I’m not just talking about physical intimacy but rather the kind that brings you closer to a more solid and lasting union.

Discovering Intimacy
You will find the relationship fresh and sweet… and poignant. It, sometimes, is scary esp when you’ve been so used to just taking care of yourself, however, you’ll soon realise that this area of companionship brings a certain feeling of belongingness that you can’t find nowhere else.

**Building Intimacy**
Listen. She will tell you secrets. She will tell you her problems. She will share her life’s story with you. She will talk about her dreams.

Accept. He will show you a side of him that no one else (or a select few perhaps) knows about him.

Trust. He will open himself to vulnerability like you would.

Ruining Intimacy
Judging. He seeks acceptance and assurance not “I-told-you-so” sermons.

Nonchalance. She seeks attention and care.

Overbearing. The relationship is about mutual growth and a teacher-student or “acting like a mum” can limit the honesty and candidness that true closeness offers.

Flippancy. Every individual have varying takes on the intensity of a situation or emotion. Each should respect the other and avoid dismissing something that, on your standards, you consider simple and irrelevant.

Embracing Intimacy
You will see the other’s weakness. You will celebrate each other’s strengths. Cry if you need to. Rejoice if you must. Intimacy is about giving more of yourself to the other, somewhat filling in what he or she lacks. Intimacy will enrich your character, your relationship and your outlook in life. It’s always a good thing, intimacy. It’s the tipping point in your relationship.

Be glad that you have it. Ask yourself why, if you don’t.

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