Why is He Never Jealous?

'Black jealousy' is a term that we've all heard before. But what if it's just a mild case of jealousy?

This column from MsCyphrah Newsvine answers a question about the dilemma of a woman whose boyfriend never seems to get jealous. Even when she spends time with some of her male friends, her boyfriend does not seem to mind, making the girl feel as if he does not really love her.

Here's part of what Ms. Cyprah had to say:

…jealousy is not a positive quality in a relationship. It is a very negative one that lies at the heart of control and signals a lack of respect. He is actually treating you with respect, by appreciating your friends. He knows he loves you and that you love him, and does not feel he has to 'prove' anything, but you would like him to prove it by showing how jealous he is of you.

Ms. Cyprah
Way to go, Ms. Cyprah! I thinks that she hit the nail in the head with this advice. Jealousy is a negative emotion which shows** how insecure a person is about herself**. It's a good thing that the boyfriend of the girl who wrote the letter never gets jealous.

I guess her case is the other spectrum of women who have extremely jealous boyfriends that they do not want them to spend any time at all with other members of the male species.

My own piece of advice for that letter sender is: be thankful that you have such an understanding boyfriend. His lack of jealousy just shows how secure he is of himself and how much he trusts you - knowing that you will not betray him while you're spending time with your other male friends.

Shed that insecurity, girl, it's just a waste of your precious time!

Frequently Asked Questions

Why doesn't my boyfriend get jealous?

Maybe he just trusts you a lot! Some guys are super confident in the relationship, so jealousy doesn't really hit them.

Is it weird that my partner never shows jealousy?

Not necessarily! Everyone is different. Some people don't express jealousy the same way, or they may just not feel it as intensely.

Could my boyfriend's lack of jealousy mean he doesn't care?

Not at all! He might care deeply, he just doesn't show it through jealousy. Look for other signs of affection or commitment instead.

Should I be worried if my husband never gets jealous?

Not unless there are other red flags. It's possible he is just very secure in your relationship. Communication is key if you have concerns.

What should I do if I want my partner to be more jealous?

Be honest about your feelings! But remember, a healthy relationship isn't about creating jealousy. Focus on building trust and understanding instead.