I’ve heard people argue with one another over which is worse; physical or emotional abuse. I personally think both are equally as awful. The signs of physical abuse are more easily seen on some people, but emotional abuse leaves scars as well. These scars aren’t often visible to the naked eye. If you have found yourself in a situation where emotional abuse is involved, then I hope these 7 ways to deal with emotional abuse are helpful. Feel free to pass this on to a friend who might be going through something similar as well.
7. Get out of the Abusive Situation when Possible
I know not everyone is able to do this, due to certain circumstances between the abuser and the abused. If it is possible, then getting away from your abuser is an excellent step towards eliminating the ill effects emotional abuse is having on you.
6. Find Something That Makes You Feel Better
Maybe you are the type of person who can escape from reality through a book, music, movie, or hobby. If this is the case, then go for it! Do something to help you relax and take your mind off of the abuse. This will give you time to think about what your next step should be.
5. Understand Abusers Are Often Selective and You Aren’t to Blame for This
Some abuse is directed towards a person because of a past situation the abuser was in. There are also times when the abused is singled out for a reason that is only known to the abuser. For instance, maybe a parent only picks on one child in the family to emotionally abuse. Unless the parent states exactly why this child was chosen, it’s difficult to figure out the reasoning behind the abuse displayed toward one particular child and not the others.
4. Be Able to Identify the Various Forms of Emotional Abuse You Are Being Exposed to
If you can indentify the ways you are being abused emotionally, then you will be able to convey this information more accurately to someone on the outside. Take note when it happens, see if you can associate the abuse with specific situations or dates, and take into account the state of the abuser at that time as well. Gather as much information as you can so you can provide it to someone who can analyze it and help you.
3. Know Where It Comes from
Sometimes it’s helpful to understand why someone feels the need to be abusive in the first place. Does your abuser come from an abusive family? Does the abuse only happen when alcohol or drugs are involved? Maybe you can associate the abuse with some thing specific and eliminate this item or situation, thus preventing a round of emotional abuse directed towards you.
2. Share Your Thoughts with a Close Friend
Talking with a friend about what happened or keeps happening is a great way for you to de-stress about the situation. This will also give you a chance to get feedback on how you are feeling about the abuse and maybe even some ideas on what you can do to make it stop.
1. Talk with a Counselor
Licensed counselors have been trained to help people deal with various problems they are going through. These individuals are available in schools, online, and at the other end of a toll-free number. It never hurts to see if he/she can give you a suggestion or two on what to do to remedy your current situation.
Whether you or someone you care about is dealing with emotional abuse, putting a stop to it as soon as possible is the ultimate goal. There’s no reason for it to go on any longer. Do you find any of these 7 ways to deal with emotional abuse helpful?
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