Crushing on a guy is hard enough when you're by yourself, but when you're in a group of people, it's even more difficult. How do you handle yourself in that situation? You want to come off well, you don't want to do anything to embarrass yourself or your crush; certainly, there are special rules of etiquette for this situation, although they often remain elusive. Don't worry, though, because here are several ways to behave with your crush when you are in a group. Pay attention to these, and you'll get that boy yet!
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1. Be Confident
All guys love someone confident, so that's definitely one way to behave with your crush when you are in a group. It's easy to get lost in the crowd, to be quiet and unassuming, but if you're confident in yourself without being overbearing, it will take you far. Contribute to the conversation, join in the fun, but as you can see, you have to be careful there as well--
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Confidence is key when it comes to catching your crush's attention in a group setting. Not only does it show that you are comfortable in your own skin, but it also makes you stand out in the crowd. However, it's important to strike a balance and not come off as too overbearing. Instead, contribute to the conversation, join in the fun, and showcase your unique personality. This will not only make you more attractive to your crush, but it will also help you feel more confident and comfortable in the group dynamic. Remember, being yourself is always the best approach when trying to impress someone.
2. Don't Hog All the Attention
Attention whores are unattractive in general. Nobody likes someone who tries to hog all of the attention and be in the center spotlight all the time. It's unappealing to men and women, boys and girls alike. When you're in a group of people, it can be tempting to make yourself stand out, but you can do that without trying to force your crush to pay attention to you by taking over every subject and bringing every conversation back around to yourself.
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When you're in a group with your crush, it's important to remember not to hog all the attention. It's natural to want to stand out and make sure your crush notices you, but it's important to do it in a subtle way. Trying to take over every conversation and bring it back to yourself will only make you seem desperate and unattractive. Instead, make sure to give others a chance to speak and participate in the conversation.
Show your crush that you're confident and that you have interesting things to talk about, without trying to take over the conversation. Ask questions and be genuinely interested in what others have to say. Show your crush that you're a good listener and that you care about what they have to say.
It's also important to make sure you don't monopolize your crush's attention. If you're in a group, make sure to give other people a chance to talk to them. Show your crush that you can be confident and independent, without needing to be the center of attention.
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3. Talk to Everyone
Making sure you're friendly with everyone is another way to behave with your crush when you are in a group. By singling out your crush and not really focusing on anyone else, you're going to out yourself, plus you'll make him or her uncomfortable. However, by paying attention to everyone in the group, you're showing that you're social, nice, all encompassing, and that you enjoy being part of a group.
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Engaging with everyone ensures a more relaxed atmosphere and helps to keep your interactions with your crush subtle and natural. Not to mention, it also gives you the opportunity to shine as someone who is confident and inclusive. The conversation may naturally flow such that you can show off your sense of humor or shared interests without it feeling forced. Maintaining a balanced dynamic within the group also prevents any possible feelings of jealousy or exclusion, which can only work in your favor in the long run.
4. Try Not to Be Obvious
Clearly, focusing solely on your crush would be a bit too obvious. You definitely want to avoid acting obvious, because that's going to be embarrassing for the both of you. Smiling at or occasionally making eye contact with your crush is perfectly acceptable. What you don't want to do is spend the whole time making moon eyes at him or her, giving caresses, getting jealous when your crush talks to anyone else, and so on.
5. Have a Good Time
If you're having a good time, it puts you in a great like. Don't let yourself feel awkward or uncomfortable just because your crush is there. That will bleed out into the rest of your behavior, and before you know it, everyone's going to know you're not having a nice time and they're going to wonder why – possibly out loud. Plus, you may end up looking like a wallflower or a spoil sport, which won't bode well.
6. Be Open
Another way to behave with your crush when you are in a group is to be honest and open. You can be yourself while still keeping to the other points, as long as you act naturally. There are little ways you can let your crush know you're feeling him or her, without drawing the attention of the entire group or embarrassing either of you.
7. Act Mature
The best way to act around your crush, whether you're in a group or not, is to be mature. A lot of giggling, pointing, whispering to others while pointedly looking at your crush, is going to be uncomfortable for both of you. You don't need to play coy like that; being yourself will serve you much better.
It's important to know the right ways to behave with your crush when you are in a group, because group settings can be hard. Just remember that you don't need to vie for his or her attention or steal the spotlight; both of those may turn off your crush. How do you handle this particular dilemma?
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