Would you like to find out whether the man that you're seeing is a poor lover - while you still have your clothes on? Here are the earliest bad-in-bed signs that you need to watch out for:
6. He's a Sloppy Kisser
For me, the first sign that a prospective beau is bad in bed is when he's a sloppy kisser, and I know this from experience.
This guy that I dated once was all nice and sweet - but he was a really bad kisser. Knowing that, I still fooled myself into believing that he deserves another chance to prove himself: in bed. You already know how the story ends - he's a worse lover than I could've ever imagined!
5. He Can't Dance
It’s okay if your date doesn't have Fred Astaire or Justin Timberlake moves. The way that he slow dances should indicate whether he's a good lover or not.
I'm gonna go all poetic here and say that dancing is the 'vertical sublimation of desire' - and if he can’t make your world spin with a slow dance, maybe he doesn’t make love like Casanova!
4. He Devours His Food
If he eats like there's no tomorrow, slurps on his soup, and does not know what mouth-watering meals are all about - the way that you'll get turned off with how he eats should give you a clue as to how he'll be in bed.
3. You Don't Feel Sexually Desirable when You're with Him
When a guy treats you like dirt, mostly ignores you when you have a dinner date and makes you feel totally un-sexy when you're with him should clue you in on how bad a lover he could be.
2. He Gropes You in the Most Obvious Places
A guy who immediately goes after your boobs and butt during a first kiss could be a greedy lover who only thinks of his pleasure in bed.
1. He Boasts, No Matter How 'subtly', about His Sexual Conquests
A man who's all airs about his wealth, his car or his job is already a turn off for me - but it's even worse when he flaunts how great his exes supposedly think he is in bed. Gimme a break!
Frequently Asked Questions
- How do I know if a guy might be bad in bed before we even get there?
- Well, you can often tell by his attitude and how he treats you. If he seems pretty self-centered or uninterested in what you want during conversations, he might be the same way in bed!
- Does being a bad kisser mean he's bad in bed too?
- Not necessarily, but it can be a clue! A bad kisser might indicate he’s not paying attention to your cues or is inexperienced, which could reflect in the bedroom.
- What if he brags a lot about his bedroom skills?
- Big red flag! Guys who brag too much might be overcompensating for something. Confidence is great, but arrogance can mean he’s more focused on his own pleasure than yours.
- If he's too smooth with his lines, should I worry?
- He might just be charming, but if the smooth-talking feels more rehearsed than genuine, it could mean he’s not really focused on connecting with you.
- Can a guy improve if he's bad in bed?
- Absolutely! Communication is key. If both of you are open to learning and talking about what you each enjoy, things can definitely get better with time.