What Nobody Warns You About With Heavy Flirting During the Holidays

The Shift to Heavy Flirting • Why We Seek Connection During the Holidays • Protecting Yourself from the Wrong Holiday Flirt • About the Author • More ...

By Olga

The holiday season brings a unique kind of energy, and with it, a noticeable shift in how we connect. Whether it's the chill in the air or the desire to share festive moments, there's no denying that this time of year sparks a change in social dynamics. Let's dive into the realities of holiday mingling and what to watch out for.

The Shift to Heavy Flirting

I am not the only one who has noticed single women and men are more assertive come the holiday season. Friends of mine have also commented that coy and subtle practices are transformed into an overt expression of desire. Just walk through the department stores or a hip supermarket in a singles neighborhood, and you will find people staring harder and longer. Even their body language is different; they mostly stand and face you, inviting and awaiting an approach. They pull back only when someone shows little or no real sign of recognition. Heavy flirting becomes the norm, whether it's at the cosmetics and beauty counters where people all but pounce on you as you walk past, waving skin conditioners and colognes you will never buy just so you will stop and talk. Even more reserved individuals will flirt openly and suggestively. Attractive strangers start conversations on the elevator, nervous their charms won’t work before you reach your floor.

Prolonged eye contact: People tend to hold your gaze a little longer in aisles and elevators.
Direct body language: Facing you directly to invite a conversation.
Striking up random chats: Using mundane topics like colognes to initiate a connection.

Why We Seek Connection During the Holidays

I suppose nobody wants to be alone during the holiday season. Perhaps the Christmas spirit stirs up sexual desires coupled with the distaste for loneliness. For sure, few of us want to sit by ourselves on New Year’s Eve and watch Dick Clark's New Year's Rockin' Eve or MTV bring in the New Year from distant places. All those candles, the incense, the eggnog, and the fireplace would seem to go to waste without someone to share them with you. Friends and family can only provide so much comfort, before you grab your coat and head back out into the cold, snowy weather or like us to the empty streets of West LA The holiday season works its charms on nearly all of us. We want to be intimate and it is a real let down when there is no one to be intimate with. I wouldn’t go as far to say that come holiday season most of us are desperate for companionship. But I would say this is the season when we are most vulnerable. If a soppy commercial can compel us to buy some sentimental piece of junk, we are just as capable of investing our emotions, given the right approach even from a less than perfect stranger.

Protecting Yourself from the Wrong Holiday Flirt

You can’t change the world, and you sure can’t change what affects you during the holiday season. All we can do is try to be careful. At a time when you are feeling romantic and your guard is down, you can make the kind of mistake that will haunt you through the coming year and longer. There is no end to the amount of embarrassment and distress the wrong partner can cost you. The wrong person to warm the bed may go after your money or steal your identity. They don’t need much more than a chance to rifle through your wallet or to log on to your computer. So if you should be lucky enough to meet somebody new, be careful. When a promising holiday flirt starts knocking your email or carrying your bags from the store, realize that con artists are awfully good at what they do. Realize, too, that your heart may be getting ahead of your head. Take a moment and spend a couple of bucks to run a background check on your new prospect. It is one way to help to start the New Year without a major headache. Before trusting someone completely, consider reading up on signs you should not trust someone

About the Author

Author Gordon Basichis is the author of the best selling Beautiful Bad Girl, the Vicki Morgan Story, a non-fiction novel that helped define exotic sexuality in the late twentieth century.

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