It hurts, I know. To like someone so much, and yet have them hurt you so bad. And yet, there is still something in you that makes you want them anyway. If they hurt you now, they'll hurt you later - that's the hard truth. So, to save yourself from more heartbreak later, do these seven steps now!
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Realize You Deserve Better
Remind yourself that you're special, and that you deserve someone that will treat you that way. Everyone deserves someone that treats them right, that loves them unconditionally. Everyone, including you, deserves someone that respects them and their feelings. Realizing this is the first step to getting over an old crush.
Occupy Your Time
Don't spend your time dwelling on the past and on what you wanted with that person. Put it behind you. Instead, fill your calendar with time with family and friends. Go shopping, have mani-pedi parties with girlfriends, do some baking in the kitchen - whatever it takes to deprive yourself of time to think about that one person in your past.
Get Rid of Memories
I know that memories in your mind are more difficult to get rid of, but rid your room and locker of anything reminding your of that person. If you can't throw it away (like an expensive necklace or something) bury it deep in your closet a while, or sell it if you can. Seeing things that remind you of that person will only prolong the healing process.
Don't Take It Personally
Just because things didn't work out does not, by any means, mean that something is wrong with you - or with him for that matter. Sometimes, what our heart wants isn't what life has in store for us. Taking this into consideration and realizing that later on, God will send us the perfect person for us, is a great step toward healing.
Be Honest
Tell them how you feel. Now don't go and make a scene or anything, but it won't hurt to sit down with them and tell them how this is making you feel. Let them know that they've hurt you, that you feel wronged. This will help to put a finality on the situation for you.
Focus on Their Negatives
If you think about all their flaws long enough, their good characteristics may not mean that much to you. But then again, if through their negatives, you still have love, then maybe you should read on to the next point!
There is Hope
If you feel that (even though things don't seem to be going right) this person is the right one for you, just be patient. Sometimes, love works in crazy ways, and takes a great deal of time to cultivate. Don't be forceful, but that doesn't mean that you have to completely erase this person from your life forever. You never know what the future could bring!
Broken Hearts are never easy to get over. It takes time and you will feel better eventually. While you wait for that to happen, try and keep your chin up and your heart off your shoulder. It is fragile right now! Did these tips help you any?
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