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7 Tips for Kissing with Your Tongue ...

By Jordin

The art of kissing is very intimate and sweet, so you might benefit from tips for kissing with your tongue. Kissing can be a great way to bond with your sweetheart and you should take it seriously. So many girls give away kisses like they are candy but I think kissing should be reserved for one man-your husband! That's just my opinion, and I may be old-fashioned in thinking that way but it truly is a special act when you haven't shared it with every other guy in the world. I would like to give you some tips for kissing intimately. Many people who experience a bad french kiss the first time are afraid or unwilling to try it again. However, it doesn't have to be a bad experience every time! If you had a guy who slobbered or bit you, just remember not every guy is that insensitive! Read on for my list of 7 tips for kissing with your tongue and give it another try!

1 Have a Mint

This is a very important tip for kissing with your tongue! You don't want to experience your first open-mouthed kiss with bad breath! Make sure you have a mint or chew some gum before getting started. You can also buy mini-toothbrushes that are pre-pasted to carry in your purse. They are great for after dinner or even things like unexpected airport delays and things like that. They are disposable and you can even use them without water if you need to! They come in a pack of four so you get several to try out. Choose from a range of flavors and colors!

2 Set the Mood

Kissing with your tongue can be a little scary the first time. You may worry whether or not you are good at it, or if you accidentally bite or slobber. It's a good idea to be in a relaxed state of mind! Light a few candles and play some soft music in the background. Both you and your partner will feel more at ease and can take your time. It's not as complicated as you would think and you can follow each others cues!

3 Start out Slowly

There's no need to rush into the experience! Start out with a normal kiss and go from there. It will be much more enjoyable if you don't push or rush it. Start out slowly and you can both part your mouths a bit. It doesn't have to be a full-on, open mouth kiss with your tongue down his throat or vice versa! Just a little lick is a good way to start.

4 Go in a Circular Motion

It's a good idea to save the complicated stuff for once you've had a little experience at french kissing. One tip for kissing with your tongue is to swirl it in a circular motion during the kiss. You can swirl it on your partner's tongue or you can swirl it around your partner's tongue. He or she will take cues from you as well and it will all fall into place.

5 Exfoliate Your Lips

Remember that nobody want to kiss a dry, flaky, scratchy mouth! One tip for kissing with your tongue is to keep those lips soft and moist! Exfoliate your lips with a wet washcloth or an old toothbrush by gently rubbing either of them across your lips for a few seconds. Apply a lip balm after you finish to lock in moisture. For the guys who may be reading this, apply chapstick if it's winter time or you have dry lips. You don't have to do it every hour on the clock, but once daily should be good enough to keep your lips from being scratchy and uncomfortable.

6 Don't Be Nervous

It's pretty much natural to be nervous during any new experience, especially a kissing one. But just remember that kissing is not as complicated as it seems and it will come naturally. Relax and don't worry! Focus on enjoying yourself and it will come together. Being nervous will steal away your fun time and make you all tense.

7 Wait for the Right One

This is one reason I encourage you to wait until you are married to kiss. You don't want to give away a kiss to every guy you fancy because then the experience may not be as special as it could have been! Waiting for the right one will help you to treasure the experience much more than you might have if you give your first kiss away too lightly. Kissing is a very intimate experience, and if you DO flub it up, your partner will be more forgiving and patient with you if you are in a committed relationship rather than if you were just fooling around.

I don't want to offend anyone who has already given away their first kiss or who doesn't believe the same way I do. You are entitled to your own opinion! However, I did write this article for older married women who are committed to their husbands. If you are reading this article and you are a young single girl, I highly encourage you to tuck these tips for kissing with your tongue away in your mind until you meet the man you are going to marry. Sharing a first kiss with your life partner is an amazing and wonderful experience you should not miss out on! Do you have any other kissing tips to share?

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