I think mother-in-laws get a bad rap. Not all of them are wicked, sinister, controlling, and mean… I’m sure they can also be sweet, kind, and friendly… not sure how to win over your own MIL? Here are 7 ways to impress your mother-in-law…
1. Ask for a Recipe
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Chances are, your husband fondly recalls at least one dish or dessert his mother used to make, whether it’s her lasagna or her apple pie or her potato salad. Don’t bother to try and make it the way YOU make it… instead, impress and flatter your mother-in-law by asking her for her recipe, or better yet, ask her to show you how to make it! It’s a win-win - you get to learn to make a dish your husband loves, and your MIL feels important and appreciated, and gets to remember her son as a little guy, digging in to his favorite meal.
2. Keep a Tidy House
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Even if your mother-in-law is a complete slob when it comes to her own housekeeping, she’ll never forgive you if your house is anything less than tidy. Hopefully, she won’t be the type to run a white-gloved finger along your mantle to look for dust… but when you know she’s coming b, make sure your house is neat and clean, no matter how much you hate housekeeping.
3. Admire Her
Did your mother-in-law just get a new haircut, kitty cat, dress, or rug? Notice these things, and be sure to comment on them. Make a sincere comment, too, because she’ll know if you’re not being genuine.
4. Ask to See Photos
Come on, admit it. You’re curious to see what your husband looked like when he was a baby, and in kindergarten, grammar school, and junior high. Ask your mother-in-law to see photos, and she’ll be delighted to spend an hour going through his baby book and school photos with you.
5. Invite Her over
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Most likely, your mother-in-law WANTS to like you, if for no other reason than to brag to her bridge club about what a sweet girl you are. Give her every reason to like you by extending an olive branch and asking her over. If you only invite her for family events, where the whole family is invited, she’ll feel pushed out. Invite her for dinner, lunch, or shopping when no-one else is with you… spend some time with her!
6. Ask Her Advice
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Every mother-in-law, in fact, every woman, likes to be asked her opinion. On everything, from child-rearing to cooking to stain removal to which shoes look best with your LBD. Ask your mother-in-law for advice, and take her suggestions and opinions seriously. This will show her you respect her… which she’ll love.
7. Treat Her Son Well
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The most important thing you can do to impress your mother-in-law is to treat her son well. Every mother wants her son to have a lovely, faithful, devoted wife… so if you’re all of those things, she’ll be sure to adore you!
Most mother-in-laws are just afraid of losing their sweet little son, and want the best for them… and you’re so wonderful, if you follow these tips, she’s sure to love you! What’s your relationship with your mother-in-law like? How did you impress her? Please let me know!
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Frequently Asked Questions
- Why is it important to impress my mother-in-law?
- Honestly, keeping a good relationship with your mother-in-law can make family gatherings more enjoyable and brings peace to the household. Plus, it shows your partner that you care about their family.
- What are some simple ways to make a good impression?
- Start by being genuinely interested in getting to know her. Ask about her favorite hobbies, or offer to help with things she enjoys. Simple gestures go a long way!
- How can I impress my in-laws if I’m a bit shy?
- I'd suggest starting small, maybe a warm smile or a compliment here and there. Eventually, perhaps invite them to a casual dinner where you feel comfortable.
- What if we don’t have much in common?
- That's okay! Focus on shared interests, even if they're small, like a mutual love for coffee, or listen to her stories with genuine curiosity. Everyone loves being heard.
- Any tips on what not to do when trying to impress in-laws?
- Oh, definitely don’t try too hard or be insincere. Authenticity matters! Also, avoid controversial topics that could lead to tension.