I honestly believe I have the best grandparents in the world! And yes, they did spoil me. They still spoil me to this very day. There's nothing wrong with having doting grandparents to love on your little babies. But there's a difference between doting and spoiling. There are grandparents who over-spoil your kids. It can be hard to get them to stop because no matter what you say, you will always be told that "you can't tell your mother what to do young lady" ... which is true. But there are ways to deal with grandparents who spoil your kids. If you are having trouble making your wishes clear, please keep reading my article and I will share with you 7 ways to deal with grandparents who over-spoil your kids.
1. Talk about Your Concerns
You won't make any progress if you just tell your child's grandparent to stop buying them toys every trip they make to the store together. Make sure that your and his parents understand that you're afraid little Johnny will think he gets a toy every time he enters a store. Grandparents love to lavish on the love, but they may not realize that it concerns you and you worry about what your child will be thinking the next time you take him with you into Walmart. Temper tantrums are not on your grocery list this week so talk about your concerns with Johnny's grandma and make sure she understands what worries you when she spoils.
2. Set Boundaries
It's obviously unrealistic and quite honestly, a little mean of you to tell Grandpa that he can never under any circumstance give Sally jelly beans. But it's perfectly acceptable to tell him that she can only have them at certain times of day (not at bedtime) or as a reward for doing something she is supposed to do. Set boundaries with the grandparents and then make sure that you are absolutely clear on them. And if a boundary is crossed or broken, deal with it immediately. Don't wait two hours or two days before you bring it up. Just simply say, "No, Mommy doesn't want you to have candy before nap time. Give it back to Grandpa until you wake up." That's and effective way to deal with grandparents who spoil your kids!