I’m lucky to have a good relationship with my family, which is something I treasure. I know that not everyone is as lucky as me, and I have known of situations where people have been forced to end contact with family members. However, many quarrels are not worth severing relationships over, so here are some reasons why it can be better to reconcile with relatives you have fallen out with.
Photo Credit: stevegatto2
It’s better to be on good terms with someone, as it creates a positive atmosphere, especially when you meet at family gatherings. Even if you’re never going to be best friends, it’s nicer to get on with someone when you do meet.
Photo Credit: Cuba Gallery - Now on Twitter!
One thing that is certain is that family members won’t be around forever, especially older ones. Imagine how it would feel if they died and you never had the chance to smooth things over with them? It’s worth being amicable and avoiding regrets when they’re gone.
Photo Credit: Davescunningplan
If you fell out over something, was it really worth the argument? Or was it a silly squabble that got out of hand? Think about the origins of the problem, and whether it’s still relevant. You might realise that you can’t even remember what the reason for arguing was, or that it just doesn’t matter any more.
Photo Credit: lindyma-rie
People can be so determined to be ‘right’ that they refuse to recognise their part in a falling out. Well, nobody’s perfect! We all make mistakes, and it’s very easy to refuse to back down for fear of looking weak. However, saying sorry shows that you’re not afraid to admit any responsibility or let bygones be bygones.
Photo Credit: its_C@therine
At a completely unscientific guess, I’d say that at least 50% of arguments are over misunderstandings. People being complicated, we often don’t realise how what we say or do will be interpreted, and we are all capable of misinterpreting events and words.
Photo Credit: ricko
The interfering mother-in-law is a comedy cliché, but I’ve known many who deliberately fostered problems in the relationship of their son or daughter (not mine, who was lovely). And it’s not just mothers – both parents, jealous siblings, or friends can cause problems.
Photo Credit: HeatherShade
Okay, maybe you feel that you have a legitimate grievance, but sometimes it’s worth letting go of that and making a gesture to mend a family rift. This can be beneficial in two respects: firstly, regaining a positive relationship with relatives, secondly, you may feel better for letting go of the past.
Photo Credit: splorp
When a family relationship has been broken, someone has to be brave enough to make the first move. For all you know, the other person might be equally keen to patch things up, but be afraid of rejection. So give it a go – it might work out!
I dare say that there isn’t one of us who hasn’t experienced family quarrels at some point. Have you ever managed to mend a serious rift? Does it upset you if two family members don’t speak? Are you stuck in the middle trying not to take sides?
Top Photo Credit: mnadi